Worst Human being you've ever known?

[thebatman]

After life saving surgery at the start of the year I've been doing some soul searching and re-evaluating a lot in my life, and looking back it astonishes me that I put up with some truly awful people for so long, even when I knew what complete and utter unrepentant shits they were, so, can I ask, who is the worst Human being you have ever known and why?

Small one but it's really bothering me this week. My ds is in a team with his cousin of the same age who is trained by my bill ( cousins dad) . Cousin in really really competitive most especially against my ds. Ds is very talented at the sport they play which has always really upset and annoyed his cousin who is good as well but perhaps not quite as good as ds.
Ds has been coming home from training upset for the last few weeks because at the match each week. He is put on a team with all the kids who are just beginners/not sporty versus cousin and all the other decent kids. He is trounced each week..
I know bil does it as his ds is very upsetting each week if he doesn't win or if my ds does better but they're only 8 and it's turning ds off a sport he loves.

Small versus everyone else's but it's been on my mind this week . Hate seeing his little face come off each week.

@Kris02 The thing I really hate about such people is that they bring out the worst in the rest of us. Not if you don't allow them to. In my experience, going totally NC helps enormously.

Several of the people I know who have narcs in their lives (even when they're NC with the Narc) keep a copy of this image to hand (Drowning Salvation, by Matt Dangler).
to hand. It's very powerful, and explains very graphically why they're NC with those people.

I'd love to name the lass on here but I won't.
I went to school with her. Never spoke to her. I dated a lad aged 14 to 15 I was his first. We dated 12 months. He was a true narsasist and typical bad boy but cleaver but think fighting in the street, throwing a fish at me on holiday and knocking me of a wall (when we was dating)

Anyways we split up and he started talking to this girl in my school and they started dating. He prev called me a man beast to me when he had seen her. Anyways the 2 bonded over slagging me of. She generally made y10 and y11 horrible for me along with all her friends. Saying things such as hope he washed his d**k after been with her etc. I really hate her. She tried to apologise once by adding me on fb. I blocked and deleted her and never will I forgive her

Her a man beast I meant

I have another one. It’s a husband and wife who used to live near me. There’s a huge back story, but it really outing and specific, so I’ll be vague.

Basically the husband had been sexually abusing his step daughter (her daughter) from the age of 11-15. She found out and stayed for another 6 months! Once she moved away she had him down to stay! Then she decided to press charges. He got a well deserved prison sentence, but as he pleaded guilty it never went to trial, if it had I’m certain that she would have had charges brought against her too. There’s been years and years of neglect. As well as some very odd and concerning naked photo shoots with mum and daughter.

Honestly just thinking about the pair of them makes me feel sick. Some people should never be allowed to have kids. That poor girl must be so messed up from everything. As far as I know she is still with her mum (though she must be about 20 now), putting up with her weird shit.

@Time40

A woman in the literary world with a first name beginning with V. A vile, malicious drama queen who doesn't care how much pain she causes - she certainly caused me plenty.

Please not V McD - my favourite author! So sorry you had such an awful experience.

I also thought of V McD, I hope it isn't 😟

Hate seeing his little face come off each week
Can you get him onto a different team? Brother-in-law will not stop favouring his own child, indeed has shown that he is happy to crush your child in order to make his child feel better

My neighbour. Nice to my face but reports me to the council and social services making up wild stories about how my children are in a state of neglect and that when we go for a family day out we throw all the children into the boot because we can't afford car seats. Really ridiculous as we share a drive and she sees me bringing the car seats out from the garage onto the drive way. She also made up a load of nonsense that my house is stinking of rubbish and that the kids are petrified of myself and my husband. Social services were happy when they called me and I told them to ring my health visitor who had been round some days previous to back me up, that the children are happy, well dressed and cared for and the house is clean. She even reported my teen going to the shop. Saying he is too young for us to be sending him to the shop to buy milk. Hahha the shop is 3 minute walk.

Another one was the absolutely raving mad girl, who posts a load of rubbish about herself to get attention making up dramatic illnesses.
Unfortunately however, she gave birth to a stillborn, this was about 8 or 9 years ago. I was very sympathetic and wanted to be supportive to her. We were friends roughly this time and I had known her from school. My brother actually told me to stay away from her. Anyway, I even helped make some pictures for her of her baby that she lostnecause she said she wanted some special pictures. I helped edit them to give flower frames around them and she was so happy showing them off all over Facebook
Some time after that she started kicking off saying I had airbrushed the picture too much and had put makeup on the baby pics of her stillborn and made the baby look like, and I kid you not, a prostitute. Why would such a thing pop into someone head, a baby prostitute.
Anyway something or the other happened some time later and she was extremely rude to me, very disrespectful, so I decided to just keep her at distance. I was in town with my own new baby and my older child and saw her hobbling along towards me. I told her to get stuffed when she tried to come near me. And I walked off. I then got a phone call from my friend who said did you see G in town. I said yes and that I had told her to get stuffed which I wish I didn't as am not a rude person at all but this girl was very horrible to me just days prior for no reason whatsoever. She posted on Facebook for the world to see that I saw her in town, screamed obscenities and when she asked to see my baby, I apparently told her that she was a murderer and she would murder my baby just like she murdered hers. I was literally devastated. I had so many people messaging me calling me alsorts of horrible things. I messaged her asking why she would do that. I genuinely was so sad for her when she lost her baby but I tried to be there for her. She even was adamant that I did say it. And all her friends were messaging me calling me horrible names. I was really gutted and it took me a while to get over it. One thing I cannot stand, is people making up vicious lies about other people. I do regret saying to the girl get stuffed, not a nice thing to say but it is what it is sadly.

A guy I had a lucky escape from soon after I separated from my ex. Went on one date with him and got such a bad vibe. He insisted on walking me to my car and was all over me the whole walk, I literally had to keep disentangling myself. We got to the car and he launched himself at me with his tongue in my mouth; I got away and in the car and safely home, where I firmly told him by text there wouldn't be a second date. I honestly think he'd have forced himself on me more seriously if I hadn't parked in such a well-lit, public car park with people walking right past. He kept on at me by text after about how he couldn't resist me, so I blocked him.

A year later, I started a new job and made a new friend. It emerged over time that, at the time I had gone on a date with the guy, he was actually engaged to the girl who was now my friend. They were living together. He was physically, emotionally and sexually abusive to her. And then one day the police turned up and arrested him for sexually abusing the 8 year old daughter of another woman he was seeing on the side.

I had young children at the time. Makes my blood run cold - I'm so glad I never met him more than once.

My violent, abusive, frightening, deviant, rapist, steroid addicted ex husband. I hope he rots in the remnants of his sad little life.

A person my parents took in and treated as their own. Helped pay for their wedding, supported, loved, cared for...all for them to disown them and treat them like shit because they didn’t do exactly what they wanted them to. I know they’re on MN so if you’re ready this and recognise yourself....you’re an arsehole.

Ahhhh wow that feels better 😂😂😂😂

Not as bad as some of the terrible things on here but sadly encountered a few choice specimen:

1. Sadistic nursery worker when I was 4. She was an oger. Kept me in the sun for hours on end, denied me toys, punished kids who wanted to play with me until they started kicking me when I was walking past them. Said horrible cruel things every day like no one would ever stand me. I hope she died a slow and miserable death.
2. The loser who raped me at 18 after a party and I was too drunk to resist. Almost as bad: his mates laughing and cheering when he dragged me into a taxi. I also hope they get their come uppance.
3. My teacher at 15 who had an affair with me and pulverised my heart. I'm still torn on that one but really I know it was bad, and he knows too. Nowadays it would be Daily Mail fodder.

Also the jerks who joked about it at school. Fuckers.

Definitely my father, who sexually abused my DSis and me when we were growing up. Thankfully, he’s been dead for 23 years, but he’s still in my head, despite years of therapy.

I suffer from complex PTSD. I had years of distressing flashbacks, at a time when I’d repressed the memories and didn’t know what they were about. (My DSis did the same. For both of us, the memories came back when we had young DC.)

My DB is even more damaged and unable to function as an adult. My F didn’t sexually abuse him but he involved him in it and allowed others to abuse him (and us too).

My DM had no idea. She’s had to come to terms with the fact that her whole marriage was based on a lie and it’s been very hard for her. (She’s 81 now.)

@LolitaIsNotRomantic

Not as bad as some of the terrible things on here but sadly encountered a few choice specimen:

1. Sadistic nursery worker when I was 4. She was an oger. Kept me in the sun for hours on end, denied me toys, punished kids who wanted to play with me until they started kicking me when I was walking past them. Said horrible cruel things every day like no one would ever stand me. I hope she died a slow and miserable death.
2. The loser who raped me at 18 after a party and I was too drunk to resist. Almost as bad: his mates laughing and cheering when he dragged me into a taxi. I also hope they get their come uppance.
3. My teacher at 15 who had an affair with me and pulverised my heart. I'm still torn on that one but really I know it was bad, and he knows too. Nowadays it would be Daily Mail fodder.

Also the jerks who joked about it at school. Fuckers.

I think those are up there with many of the worst on this thread Lolita. I am so sorry that you went through all of that.

A Teacher at Junior school in the 70's called Miss Crispin. She's probably dead now, she was a sad old spinster then, and I have no idea what she was doing children as she obviously didn't like them. She used to smack children or use the ruler or their knuckles. If I look back now, I think she sensed that I was timid and lacking in confidence and chose me to be her victim, and bullied me to the point I have very little self confidence. For 3-4 years I was in a very abusive relationship, and suffered domestic violence. I found the courage to leave and move on, but still have self confidence problems. I have been the victim of a bully at work a couple of times, and ending up moving jobs because of it. its funny how incidents in your childhood can shape your whole life. She was a member of the church choir and well thought of by other staff, but was awful to the children in her class. I hope karma caught up with her.

Hands down my ex husband.

Had affair whilst pregnant then left me for the OW with 3 small children whilst the baby was tiny, a year ago. Now is trying to take the house away from us as well as other vile stuff to do with the finances that i won't go into.

Kids don't even want to see him they cry when he comes to pick them up.

I hate him from the bottom of my heart.

I worked in a branch of local government that had 5 separate offices. In one office worked one of the nastiest women I've had the misfortune to meet. She considered herself the queen of the office and made it her mission to bully, intimidate and upset any new member of staff. I think she saw them as a threat to her position. Snide and sarcastic remarks, comments about colleagues appearance, lies and general spite were her stock in trade. She caused some staff to go off sick with stress and some to resign. She was a well educated, intelligent woman but unable to work well with others. Such an unpleasant and horrible person. She's retired now and has never been missed. Sadly, her daughter shows every sign of being just like her mother.

Thanks Livingtothefull
I have actually name changed for that as I'm a regular poster and I didn't want this to be linked to my other posts. It's the first time I've put this in writing so concisely and in one place. Feels great actually to be venting about that stuff. I don't lose sleep over what motivates people to do evil. It's always a proof of weakness, not much more. It's between them and their conscience- and ultimately nothing to do with me.

LizzieW I am really sorry - heart goes out to you, your sister and your brother.

@bathsh3ba

A guy I had a lucky escape from soon after I separated from my ex. Went on one date with him and got such a bad vibe. He insisted on walking me to my car and was all over me the whole walk, I literally had to keep disentangling myself. We got to the car and he launched himself at me with his tongue in my mouth; I got away and in the car and safely home, where I firmly told him by text there wouldn't be a second date. I honestly think he'd have forced himself on me more seriously if I hadn't parked in such a well-lit, public car park with people walking right past. He kept on at me by text after about how he couldn't resist me, so I blocked him.

A year later, I started a new job and made a new friend. It emerged over time that, at the time I had gone on a date with the guy, he was actually engaged to the girl who was now my friend. They were living together. He was physically, emotionally and sexually abusive to her. And then one day the police turned up and arrested him for sexually abusing the 8 year old daughter of another woman he was seeing on the side.

I had young children at the time. Makes my blood run cold - I'm so glad I never met him more than once.

Oh my lord

Truly horrendous

Love to all of you who like me have been through this kind of shit

Damn these types of scumbags

@Pebbledashery

It's a sad state of affairs when you wish death on someone and that would be more valuable than winning the lottery. I could never ever feel that way about anyone else in my life. If someone gave me a choice of him dying and a million pounds I'd take the former all day long as that's worth more than a million pounds.

I said many, many times that I wished my horribly abusive ex would “just drop down dead”, and because he was so manipulative, and an incredible craftsman of his own public image, “if he dies next week, there won’t be a venue big enough for everyone that will want to go to his funeral”. It happened! He had a heart attack & sure enough the plaudits didn’t stop for weeks, it was utterly sickening. They had to have a marquee for his wake; all those people taken in by his cheeky chappy, loves life & a drink, great sportsman, devoted father etc. Little did most of them know how abusive he was to me and other women he was involved with, stole money from me, let his kids down time & time again. The worst thing he did though was to take our DS out with him all-day drinking & then have sex in front of DS (then aged 8) with a woman he’d picked up. DS needed counselling after that and still has PTSD, turned out the woman was his brother’s DD’s mum, so his ex SiL. The relief I felt at his passing was immense.

Your poor ds @Carpedimum. 😢

My sister.
She blocked me when I was ill with cancer and having chemo

The man who horrifically abused me for 7 years when I was a child/ teen. Got me pregnant. Threatened to kill me.

Years of therapy and I’m ok. It’s destroyed all relationships with my parents and a brother though.

My MIL!!! When her husband was diagnosed with 3 separate primary cancer and mets which were terminal she told him it was his own fault!! When the Oncology team rang him to book in the meet and Greet session and to discuss treatment options she told him he had to ring them back and cancel because it clashed with her hair appointment. In the final few weeks of his life she withheld his pain relief and moaned constantly that he was too weak to do anything such as redecorating the house and cleaning the windows!! In the last week of his life he was not allowed to "lie around in bed all day" so she would drag him downstairs!! When the Palliative Care nurse arranged for a hospital bed to be delivered she threw a hissy fit because it would have to go in the Lounge and not upstairs!! When the poor man eventually died (on a very hot day in July) she refused to call the Undertakers until my DH had been to say goodbye. DH had already made it clear 48hrs earlier that he did not want to see his dad as a corpse and had already said his farewells. Fortunately, she only lasted a couple of hours before the smell got a bit much!!! Then she "forgot" to arrange his funeral until the Undertakers rang me to find out why she hadn't arranged anything and that technically she already owed them£2000 for 10 days storage of the body!!! I think I will stop here as I can feel the red mist descending!