Worst Human being you've ever known?

[thebatman]

After life saving surgery at the start of the year I've been doing some soul searching and re-evaluating a lot in my life, and looking back it astonishes me that I put up with some truly awful people for so long, even when I knew what complete and utter unrepentant shits they were, so, can I ask, who is the worst Human being you have ever known and why?

My mother. She gave me cigarettes at the age of 3 because she thought it was funny, then roll ups, then eventually a cigar to "put me off"
She hyped me up and told me how to act before social services came around, so she could get me into respite. She ended up getting me medication that I didn't need too.
She allowed a known paedophile in our home, to stay, when he sexually abused me, she said she heard me giggling, so I must have enjoyed it (I was being told by him that he would kill me if I made a noise, so no I wasn't giggling)
She didn't allow me to have friends, she admitted it made her jealous. She emotionally, and physically abused me, and neglected me.
She made me lie about who her husband was- he was my uncle. And allowed my siblings to tell me I was only there out of the kindness of their dad's heart. He hated me. That was an open fact.
She allowed him to beat me too.

She threatened to chuck me out often. She chucked me out for the last time when I was 17, all I had was the clothes I stood in. I tried to turn to my dad and was told to never darken her door again, because I was the most spiteful backstabbing bitch she had ever met.
She then decided she wanted to try and get custody of DD when I was being investigated because of irregular bleeding at 21. DD didn't need to see her mother wither away and die apparently.
A few years later, she started sending DD letters about how I would be met by Karma and how they would be together soon. I've spent the past 6 years very careful that no one who knows her knows my address. She's used every opportunity to try and get back into our lives. No chance.

That woman is as close to a narcissist as ill ever meet.

@friedafried

A woman who is friendless, single, child less who is judgmental, over bearing, grossly obese, lazy, is shit at her job, worthless as an individual and is not worth giving the time of day to at all. I hate her.

Why would her being obese have any bearing on her personality?

@Fuckitfuckit: you can file a police report on that behaviour, so that if she continues, she can be charged with harassment. Yes, I did, and yes, it works. Mine tried. She called my bluff. I forwarded the message to the police. They dealt with her. I've not heard from her since.

@CheeseCheeseCheeseCheese

the wrong sort of children

@Doodlebug71 that made tears come to my eyes. Someone who could say that about a victim of paedophilia is evil

That particular nugget stunned me, too. I'll never understand how people can enable/support paedophilia, or any sort of abuse, but they did/do. :(

How horrible! I bet that poor au pair didn't stay with them long.

Someone I once worked with. He always seemed odd but dh and I went out for drinks with him and his partner a couple of times because I really liked her.
He murdered her. It all came out that he'd been forcing her to go to dogging sites.
I was so shocked. She came across as a strong bubbly woman. Awful.

@Damnthemansavetheempir

The teachers who ignored my daughter when she went to them for help when she was sexually assaulted by a boy who has relentlessly bullied her for years, they failed her so badly. Not only was she sexually assaulted, she had chairs thrown at her, was punched, had scissors held to her throat, when she eventually told us what was going on and we took her out of school, he then turned to hurting her friends because he couldn't get to her. Not one teacher listened to her or helped her, in fact it was some of the other kids in the class that helped her and they were threatened with punishment for doing so. They also victim blamed her, saying well she winds him up!

It wasn't until secondary school when she started counselling that it became apparent that she had told the teachers what he had done, and they just dismissed her, didnt even bother to look into it! So now she is scared
to tell an adult anything because she thinks they won't help, she also has severe anxiety and is dealing with feeling of being unclean, dirty,etc and it being her fault.

And don't even get me started on the boy who has done this to her, he deserves a special place in hell where he has to relive the pain she goes through every day

Am so sorry to see what happened to your daughter !

I was bullied long term at my primary school and in year 6 three of the children in my class sexually assaulted me. Teacher blamed me for lying then said to my mum I had asked for it for being provocative! The shame I felt then was horrific! I don't like myself now either but don't know if it was because of that. Was already being abused by my dad and grandad.

I know so many horrible and unkind people. I sadly think that the world is full of them.

Not nearly as bad as some here but the CEO of my last company. Employed bullies and worked through them to get rid of anyone who wasn't like him. Then acted fake concern when they had a breakdown. Absolute sociopath. Wended up leaving and taking a pay cut then read in an online publication in the sector that other staff had come forward and accused him of bullying so wasn't just me.

My first boyfriend. He was the definition of controlling and coercive behaviour decades before anyone talked about it. He was a lot older than me, I was 16, he lied about everything, told all sorts of stupid lies and serious ones including claiming he was terminally ill. He tried to persuade me we should kill ourselves together. He'd constantly accuse me of cheating on him and would demand I phoned him and left the call on to prove where I was. He threatened to kill him self constantly but would then perk up and be all happy as soon as I gave in to what he wanted (I think he's still alive now btw). He tried to stop me having any friends. He turned up threatening to kill himself when I was about to have an interview at oxford university - he didn't want me to move away, I missed the interview so never got a chance to go. He hacked into my emails when I was applying to uni and wouldn't let me back in so I couldn't get to my ucas application. He'd got me quite trapped for a while because my parents had banned me from seeing him so he knew I'd do whatever he wanted to stop him turning up and causing a scene as I'd have been in so much trouble and I was scared of my dad. I became immune to the threats and left the area at 18 and never spoke to him again.

@LakieLady

A venal and corrupt bully who owned the chain of estate agencies I worked for for a couple of years when I was in my 20s. He would regularly and publicly humiliate staff who he didn't think were selling enough, sexually harrass the women and rip off buyers and sellers.

The final straw was when I found out he'd blocked a surveyor report that had pretty much condemned a house that a man approaching retirement was about to spend his life savings on. The house was at the bottom of a chain that ended in the sale of a massive mansion on an estate that was home to a couple of rock stars, so the commission value of the whole chain was massive. He got a bent surveyor to issue a more favourable report, in exhange for fuck knows what. He had a couple of bent solicitors in his pocket too.

He'd actually been in prison for embezzlement, which put paid to his previous career selling insurance and financial products.

The day I walked out, I vowed that I would never set foot over the threshold of an estate agency again, unless I was buying a house. Thankfully, Rightmove has meant that I haven't even had to do that.

Oh, and he was racist to boot and treated his wife like shit.

His name didn't begin with D did it @LakieLady ?

My first job share as a nursery teacher. She had been teaching for 30 years and was an utterly terrifying bitch. Huge, louder than life and adored the sound of her own voice. But the evil part was that made kids wet themselves in terror and other children confess to things they hadn’t done. She was straight out of Roald Dahl. I tried to be extra kind when I was there to make up for her horrible behaviour. When I did complain about her I found out that she was the head teacher’s best friend.

I was only employed temporarily and I didn’t get the permanent job when I applied for it. I later heard that evil teacher had been promoted and had I got the job she would have been my line manager. What an escape! The girl who they did appoint over me only lasted 6 months before quitting.

P. The narcissist I have just left after a 2+ year relationship.
I tried so many times and every time he threatened my job, livelihood, has posted my number on sex and dating sites and done every vile, cruel narcissistic thing there is to do. So I've given in and stayed with him.
So this time the police are involved for harassment, I'm in the process of arranging a non mol and although I feel so free for no longer being in a relationship with him, the after effects and his behaviour since are taking their toll.

I truly cannot believe what I've put up with over the last 2 years. Not any longer.

My landlords. Greedy, miserly, rude, entitled and see tenants as cash cows rather than people. Cant wait to cut ties with the horrible gits.

That’s terrible Losttheplot - I’m a mental health nurse and I have come across uncaring ones in my time. The CPN you have was cruel and callous.💐

Mother-in-law.

Living with her for 3 years was the hardest years of my life. I wish I had the courage to stand up to her but she is that scary.
Always used to complain about me and my petite height to the point where she used to humiliate me in front of guests. Even got sister in law to humiliate me at a dinner party we went to. Deep down think she hates my guts. She doesn't bother video calling to see the kids. The relationship with her grandkids is more or less non existent.

@ihtwsf I’m so sorry you had to go through that too. It me how many of these awful types of people schools can attract. Reading your experience sounded scarily similar - especially the ‘oh dear, you’ve forgotten AGAIN’ about information that had deliberately been withheld. My mentor did the exact same thing to me.

Sending you solidarity and hoping you have managed to recover.

My dad's mother. One of the best days of my life was the day that bitch died.

@Headlesschic

My 35 year old daughter is very sentimental. Over the years she’s held onto things that have a special meaning to her. Pictures, cards, letters, baby teeth (!), rosary beads from her first communion that my now passed mum gave her, etc etc etc. Boxes of stuff. She recently broke up with her partner of 10 years. She kept asking when she could go back to the house to pick her precious boxes up. He kept saying as soon as he had the time to get into the garage he would let her know. He knew how much her ‘stuff’ meant to her. What he did instead was take every box to the skip. 35 years of precious memories discarded as ‘punishment’ for leaving him. He’s 10 years older than her with his own successful business so not some silly little boy. He might have plenty of money but he’s morally bankrupt. I hate him for doing it.

This is so sad. What an utter bastard. Your poor daughter...memories like that can't be replaced 😢

@prettypinkflamingo
He put a virtual knife through her heart, and mine, when he did that. Her adult brother broke down when we told him. Who could do that to another human being? To rob someone of their past, their memories. He had no right. This has just recently happened so it’s still very raw.

When I think of the worst people I've ever known, they all have three things in common:

1. No empathy/compassion (they will fake it, "I'm here for you babe", etc, but deep down they feel nothing)

2. They take pleasure in other people's misfortune and pain (though they hide it)

3. 100% selfish and self-centred, with zero real interest in anyone else, unless it's spiteful gossip. To them, everyone exists for their benefit. Either you are of use to me (to flatter my ego, give me money, entertain me, etc), or you are nothing.

God, I've know so many arseholes I wouldn't know where to start. My grandmother's sister, maybe. Jealous, spiteful, full of ill-will. She never missed a chance to hurt you, and would plant little seeds of fear and doubt in your mind whenever she got a chance.

My cousin. A borderline psychopath. She's all smiles on the surface, but totally cold underneath.

The thing I really hate about such people is that they bring out the worst in the rest of us.

@CharityDingle

Two work bullies, at different times. I think one in particular would make a fascinating study for a team of experts. He caused a lot of harm to a lot of people.

Have a nasty neighbour who (apparently) thinks yelling will make everyone do what she wants, at once. Clearly a very unhappy person.

Sounds just like my neighbour! She also screams and shouts in the street. It's a small village. You're not in the south of England are you?!

'Saville.

you knew J Savile personally? Wow. Were you aware of what he was really like when you knew him or were you taken in by him, as so many seemed to be?'

It is not necessary to have known Savile personally to know that he was evil and sank as low as it is possible for a human being to sink. There is overwhelming evidence that he was a serial abuser; among his many many victims, he actually sexually abused sick children in their hospital beds. For that alone I hope he is roasting in hell right now.

My in-laws.

DH is so used to their vile way of talking down to him that he didn't hear it when FIL said 'you are a fucking waste of air. Wish we'd never had you.' the kitchen fitter came and asked if he could come back another day as he felt sick listening to it DH thought he and his father were working well together fitting an extractor hood. Err no DH, can you see my wobbly cutting in here where I was shaking with rage while painting?

I've been NC for a while now because of their bullying. Started with snide remarks and worked their way up to constantly running me down when I had PND. I knew they were bitching about me a lot from other family members reactions - protective of me at family gatherings and keeping ILs away to give me a break from what they knew was going on. PIL's tactlessness and bullying is legendary in the extended family.

DH and 2DDs were LC with an agreement that if they ever turned on DDs, tried to limit DDs aspirations (one of their special skills with their own children), or bad mouthed me then DDs would go NC.

So last September, the only time they saw their grandchildren in 2020 because of COVID, they bullied DD2 (was 9) who has crippling confidence issues (selective mute. Chatty when comfortable and silent when not. She didn't talk at school at all for over a year. So I guess MIL thought she said wouldn't be repeated. Selective mute you stupid woman - she talks to me getting her to shut up is the trick ) Calling my child a 'rude ignorant little shit, just like your mother' just won you NC with both of my children, and DH is beginning to get really angry now.

I’ve known many an arsehole I’ve rather years, but an ex of mines older brother was the first person to spring to mind.

He was just vile, he hated me as he knew I saw through his life and soul of the party act. I’ve witnessed that man smash up his elderly, ill fathers house. Punch his girl friend and then smash up her car, this was over nothing, I think she may have had a brief innocent chat with another man. The next girl friend he had he wore down so much she was a broken woman by the time they split, I never witnessed physical violence towards her, but I wouldn’t be surprised if there was, I definitely witnessed him mentally abusing her on many occasions. Several years later he was with someone I knew from school, I’d lost touch with this crowd by that point. All seemed well, but then I heard he’d strangled her and the police had been called and she had been hospitalised. I’ve not heard anything of him for years now, but what an absolute dick! People at time used to think I was miserable because I couldn’t stand him, he put on a good show and from the outside appeared all smiles and fun. But he was and is to this day one of the most disgusting human beings I know.