Sun out-dickhead neighbours out. What are your neighbours doing today to annoy you? (lighthearted

[Adultasd]

My neighbours do my head in year round as they are so bloody entitled in general but when the sun is out it's worse. Loud music, they can't talk, they shout to each other and when they have visitors it's even worse and that's before they get the outdoor fire going and force us indoors after quickly getting the washing in.
I have massive sensory issues with noise due to possible ASD (awaiting assessment) so I know IABU and need to find ways to manage. Unfortunately moving to an island isn't an option although I did eye up that advertisement for a caretaker of an unpopulated Scottish island with interest and wish I could live somewhere like that.
What are your neighbours up to today that's annoying you and how do you deal with it? Stereo wars? Hosepipes at dawn? Penguin bollards (CFs have been known to park on or across my drive and then make out it's me being unreasonable), playing the sweariest music you can find at full volume? I'm not actually going to do anything but humour me here.

@vivainsomnia

What really gets to me is why families who are tolerant and embracing of constant noice opt to move to reknown quiet areas. We are a quiet close in a quiet area. Mainly retired people and a few families with children but all very quiet.

then comes the family from hell, loud all the time. Can't be outside without shouting and screaming, loud play in the garden, loud music, dog barking.

Worse is when they moved in and commented on how lovely and quiet the street wise. The bottom line is THEY don't want to be disturbed but have no qualms at annoying everyone else around them. If you like noise and it is normality to you, go and live in a neighbourhood with people who share the same lifestyle.

Had no idea what the area was like when we moved, but it's nice and quiet. It makes me feel really awkward going out in the garden though. No loud music or hot tubs, but my toddler never stops talking, and I feel like I'm being judged.

Mine have poured half a gallon of barbecue fuel on their grill, and lit it, but wandered off, worst bit being that the barbecue is in the patio and only a few yards from my french doors. They do this every sunny holiday or weekend.

I’m going to put a “barbecuing for dummies” through their door when I get chance.

One neighbour his 82 sat on front with daughter with a speaker hanging out of the window both drinking. Other side kids in garden playing but they did just get wet with my youngest getting hold of the hose pipe. Across Rd cutting grass but the usual noise neighbours with a table, bbq and pool in front garden with loads of visitors which park over my drive aren't in today. So not to bad for a council estate in this weather.

Sal

Yeah. My opinion is that most people shouldn't be allowed coal bbq🙄
If the bbq smells like the firestarter fuel, you are doing it wrong.

Not direct neighbours, so thankfully we can't actually see it, but somewhere in the neighbourhood...

They spent most of Saturday building what we assumed (from the sound of air gun into wood) some decking.

Oh no, we can now hear the incessant sound of their creation - it's a skate board ramp / pipe.

I have held back the urge to go to the end of the garden and shout at the top if my voice 'Oi, Tony Hawkes, shut the fuck up' but DH has talked me out of it.

Spent two days chopping a massive tree down with chainsaw and music along with two days of bonfires.

It’s not like it’s been raining lately and people might have washing piling up

I really like my neighbours on both sides. We would be quite friendly with them. I just cannot stand their screetchy kids. They cry for EVERYTHING.

If its any consolation the only reason the neighbours have banded here together today is because the onslaught of tourists in the area (we are about 3 minutes from a well known seaside destination) has become insane and something akin to the 7 circles of hell with chips, ice cream and a snazzy sunhat. Far worse than any other year in level of assholery. So it's oddly created a supportive community where the suspected drug dealer down the road apologised for his music being too loud and got rid of a visitor trying to wee in next doors front garden for them.

The couple with the hot tub over the road (that drives everyone mad with the humming) came out to help her neighbour clear up after someone was sick on the path and his dc had accidentally ridden his bike over it.

Even the guy who sits on his front doorstep smoking constantly and playing his music and annoying the whole road switched it off and helped DP when someone tried to tell him to move his car from a parking space because they had more right to it as they were tired and didn't want to battle with the actual seafront car park and apparently was horrified that we wouldn't "lend" him our residents permit and park elsewhere!

Look whilst I don't personally make my income from tourism, I completely understand the town needs it, completely understand people are making the most of it but seriously the level of assholery today is ridiculous. But hey its banded the residents together , united in our attempts to keep our homes and cars and sanity in one piece until they bugger off hone this evening. So no neighbours arguing at all today (whilst writing this I just heard smashing glass and the neighbour 5 doors down distinctive accent Yell to someone to take their rubbish home....I'm assuming it's related)

Hell the local alcoholics (descriptive not derogatory they actually are homeless and alcoholic ) who usually drive us all mad with anti social behaviour at the top of the road have been included in the protective circke got saved by the guy 4 doors down after a tourist pushed one of the women into the road as a bus was coming because he was straining to see the sea over the top of the shops. Neighbour grabbed her back.

But in a wierd way it has stopped the usual neighbour grumbling....we seem more tolerant of each other when the hounds from hell are at our door so good things come out of it.

Fucking swingball all weekend. All I hear is the bats hitting the ball for hours.

I'm heavily pregnant and not amused 😂

Nothing ❤️ can vaguely hear the little girl a couple of houses away chattering to herself but the birds are louder and she's a sweetheart :)

Neighbour on the left is putting in a driveway. It's been constant sawing and drilling and fucking stones everywhere for weeks and it still doesn't look like he's really done much. His partner occasionally pops out to observe but she's generally getting pissed in the back garden.
They're actually very nice people, just the noise has driven me to the edge of insanity for weeks!

Neighbours on the right have their bbq, paddling pool etc out. So just the noise of the children and general chit chat.

My kids are at their grans until tomorrow and DH is working so I'm lounging in the garden with my headphones on in blissful peace

@SchrodingersImmigrant

Yeah. My opinion is that most people shouldn't be allowed coal bbq🙄 If the bbq smells like the firestarter fuel, you are doing it wrong.

IKR?

It would take five minutes to learn the correct way.

@junecat

Nothing ❤️ can vaguely hear the little girl a couple of houses away chattering to herself but the birds are louder and she's a sweetheart :)

Aww! I used to have a tiny neighbour in London who sang to the cat for hours. She was adorable.

I feel your pain OP, like you I am sensitive to sound, my neighbour has been out in the garden all day building a huge shed against my fence, they obviously need music whilst doing it. I can’t go outside to sunbathe as they are on the roof of the shed overlooking my garden.

@vivainsomnia

What really gets to me is why families who are tolerant and embracing of constant noice opt to move to reknown quiet areas. We are a quiet close in a quiet area. Mainly retired people and a few families with children but all very quiet.

then comes the family from hell, loud all the time. Can't be outside without shouting and screaming, loud play in the garden, loud music, dog barking.

Worse is when they moved in and commented on how lovely and quiet the street wise. The bottom line is THEY don't want to be disturbed but have no qualms at annoying everyone else around them. If you like noise and it is normality to you, go and live in a neighbourhood with people who share the same lifestyle.

@vivainsomnia

Some housemates are like this. They do a house viewing, think 'Oh it's nice and tidy here, nice kitchen', yet when they move in they live their shit in the kitchen sink and don't do their dishes so you are forced to do theirs in order to cook. What they want is a tidy nice house in which they have no intention of applying the same standards to their own behaviour.

Our next door neighbour is an elderly lady who moved out about 2 years ago. Her husband was a bit of a hoarder and the house and garden are still cluttered with crap. She comes over every day for about 40 minutes, no improvements to the house. This weekend though, the relatives have decided to get a skip and clear the place out. This is the third skip they’ve done over two years, with the previous two not making a dent.

So today and yesterday has been banging in the house, loudly throwing crap into the skip and burning god-knows what in the back garden. So we can’t sit in the garden because we have thick, black smoke blowing over into our garden, which absolutely stinks. They definitely aren’t just burning garden waste. Can’t have any of the window open to minimise the house stinking. Sitting inside listening to the banging on the walls and in the skip.

The added bonus is that we are semi-detached in an old property and last time they hired a skip, we had a mouse infestation because they disturbed all the nests. They were definitely coming from next door as we had bait and traps all over the house, those on the adjoining wall is where we saw all activity with no activity in the other parts of the house. It was a huge infestation. We had 3 visits from an exterminator with a lot of bait traps, after the 3rd visit from the exterminator we still caught 7 mice in a 48 hour period. I’m going to be so pissed off if we’re infested again. When I told her she had mice and they were coming into ours, she couldn’t have given less of shit.

*My neighbours are a decent couple but sometimes come across as strange.Will chat one day but then totally ignore you the next.....

This morning my husband was outside.Next door neighbour was painting the fence that he owns between our houses.

My husband looks over to say hello,neighbour turns his back on him.
Husband comes in for 30mins to have lunch .
When he goes back outside the fence on our side has been painted.
So why couldnt he say earlier....good morning ,just painting the fence,do you mind if I come round later to paint the other side*

He / they might be an introvert. That's the sort of thing I would do if I wasn't feeling up to having a conversation. I have to really psyche myself up in order to chat socially. It's exhausting 😞

Sympathies for everyone who has sensory issues and struggled with noise - I do and started a thread in Chat the other day. I was amazed by the responses - so many others struggling with noise. Our neighbours have 4 adult kids - youngest being 18, but show no signs of moving out, which IMVHO is just so odd . I can hear talking, lawn-mowing, a radio on. I fully accept that a lot of it is to do with my own sensory sensitivities but I long now to live in the middle of nowhere with no neighbours I need a lottery win first 😂

It would take five minutes to learn the correct way.

Yup. Or do what I did and buy gas one🤷🏻 No shame in it. I just couldn't be arsed about coal and chimneas etc.
I think these last few weeks I smell more starters than the actual bbq meat smells😂

Lovely man, retired adjoining us and a retired couple detached next to us.
Peaceful, no loud music, no trampolines and definitely no hot tubs, it's beautiful.
I think living on an estate you have to be prepared for all of the above, unfortunately.

Nothing. Neighbours one side occasionally have the radio on in the garden but they're away. The other side are always very quiet.

I get on well with them. The side who are away and I share the bin duties and I do bits of Asda shopping delivery for the other side and they buy me a box of chocolates at Christmas.

Various lawnmowers and strimmers, building noise (would've thought builders weren't permitted to work on a bank holiday), loud shouting / screeching, hoovering with doors open, random banging, baby crying, dogs barking ..
My garden backs onto a lot of other gardens 🙄🙈

The proximity of other people and noise is why I feel people are getting angrier and more intolerant in general. Oh for the wise open spaces of the prairie !

My husband looks over to say hello,neighbour turns his back on him
We thought our neighbour was like this-turns out a) he's hard of hearing and has sensory issues and b) he has earphones in sometimes. I felt really bad when I found out

"Manky inflatable sex pond" 😅

Seriously though? For us, not at all. I'm extremely lucky that our neighbours are so tolerant of loud autistic DC. We seem to be a live and let live neighbourhood although I am waiting for a MN thread on the family where one child won't stop chanting nonsense words in the garden and the other has to be constantly chased around with us shouting "nooo take that out your mouth!"