To ask if you returned to work full time after mat leave, who looked after your baby?

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Contemplating putting 1 year old in nursery full time and I feel awfully sad about this, and just wondered how common it is and what other people did?

I think mine will love nursery, in fact. He’s a sociable little chap I wish it wasn’t full time, but it isn’t forever.

I worked 4 nights a week and looked after my little one until my ex came in from work, then got a couple of hours before going back. It nearly killed me to the point I nosedived massively into PND and it ruined my firstborn relationship, so if I could offer any advice, it would be to take whatever help is offered and work to what suits you !

@FloconDeNeige

Full time crèche from 4 months for both. Max maternity leave here in Switzerland is 4 months. You can obviously quit your job if you don’t like this, but it won’t be there for you when you want to return.

To be honest I was fine with it. SAH is absolutely not for me (neither DH), so it worked well. DSs now 5 & 3 and love it! Even ask to go at weekends sometimes!!

Very similar here in the ME. I went back at around 14 weeks both times and this was the right decision for our family.

We had (well, still have) a full time nanny who was at the home with them, and then when they both turned around 18 months, they started attending nursery a few times a week as well.

Childminders. Fab home from home experience. My DC still in touch with the other children there and they're all in their 20s now. They are like extra brothers and sisters. And the childminders like extra mums! Very lucky to have found three amazing ladies over the years.