AIBU to not wee in the hotel kettle?

[greatauntfanny]

Summary of events:

• In hotel room with new(ish) partner.
• Go to make myself a cup of tea, ask if he wants one.
• His eyes widen and he yelps 'No! Don't use that! People wee in them!'
• I have never heard this and say something along the lines of 'What? Why would anyone wee in the kettle? There is an ensuite.'
• He says that everyone knows you should never use the kettle in your hotel room because people wee in them 'and worse'.
• I tell him I'm going to take my chances and make a cup of tea (although I boil it out once first to be on the safe side).
• He looks repulsed and says 'I can't believe you're doing that, that's disgusting, I didn't think you were like that' (basically how I'd expect him to react if I actually did a wee (or 'worse') in the hotel kettle myself.
• We go out later for an after-dinner walk and he points at a dog poo and says 'look, there's your dessert.'
• We are getting ready for bed and he picks up kettle and asks me if I want a cup of wee to take to bed.

So, question, in case you haven't guessed: is weeing into the hotel kettle 'a thing' (in which case IABU for making a cup of tea in what is essentially a toilet) or is my partner being weirdly OTT about this? Girls group chat theories have so far ranged from he's an extreme germophobe (red flag) to he's testing my reaction because he's 'into' poo and wee related 'activities' (also a red flag) to he wees in hotel kettles himself (also a red flag).

The only non-red flag is that he's right and people are weeing into their hotel kettles left right and centre which would be a a green flag for him but a red flag for the rest of society. I'm not really sure what outcome I'm hoping for here. Help me out?

I've heard of this before, but thank goodness never seen it or done it myself! Does he play rugby or is he ex forces by any chance?

Is this is question about civilised grown up respectable human beings compared to a zoo of wild animals? I can’t fathom such behaviour but I suppose perhaps evil, intoxicated (hard drugs etc) will always cause harm to others by their selfish acts. Beggars belief but what an eye opener and let this be a warning to all decent folk that a few exceptional others are unbelievably exceptional!

I've never heard of this but it makes me think it's him that's done a wee in a kettle!

Thank goodness for covid regs then - hotel (5*) has emailed me to say they are using disposable cups in the rooms and suggested we bring mugs and glasses from home if we prefer (I'll make do with disposable). Them not providing toiletries due to covid is annoying though. I was planning on acquiring some off the laundry trolley for forthcoming camping trips

I wonder if this is where the saying boils my piss comes from

Eeeuuuuwwww!!!!

If that is the case, then we've found our exclusive group of culprits: Mumsnetters!

I take Milton tablets with me.
One of my closest friends was a cleaner in a hotel.. your DH is correct lots of wee and other unmentionables in the kettles

@greatauntfanny

Summary of events:

• In hotel room with new(ish) partner.
• Go to make myself a cup of tea, ask if he wants one.
• His eyes widen and he yelps 'No! Don't use that! People wee in them!'
• I have never heard this and say something along the lines of 'What? Why would anyone wee in the kettle? There is an ensuite.'
• He says that everyone knows you should never use the kettle in your hotel room because people wee in them 'and worse'.
• I tell him I'm going to take my chances and make a cup of tea (although I boil it out once first to be on the safe side).
• He looks repulsed and says 'I can't believe you're doing that, that's disgusting, I didn't think you were like that' (basically how I'd expect him to react if I actually did a wee (or 'worse') in the hotel kettle myself.
• We go out later for an after-dinner walk and he points at a dog poo and says 'look, there's your dessert.'
• We are getting ready for bed and he picks up kettle and asks me if I want a cup of wee to take to bed.

So, question, in case you haven't guessed: is weeing into the hotel kettle 'a thing' (in which case IABU for making a cup of tea in what is essentially a toilet) or is my partner being weirdly OTT about this? Girls group chat theories have so far ranged from he's an extreme germophobe (red flag) to he's testing my reaction because he's 'into' poo and wee related 'activities' (also a red flag) to he wees in hotel kettles himself (also a red flag).

The only non-red flag is that he's right and people are weeing into their hotel kettles left right and centre which would be a a green flag for him but a red flag for the rest of society. I'm not really sure what outcome I'm hoping for here. Help me out?

I've heard about it, not sure if it's true but for me it's a red flag if he won't let it go. Sounds like a knob

I only heard this for the first time watching Inside No 9. I have used lots of hotel kettles. I always rinse them out but they never smell or taste dodgy.

I've worked in several hotels (not housekeeping) and I've heard many stories but this has never come up. I use the kettles, have done for years and never had an issue. Think in my last job I used to stay over weekly and would always use the kettle, no funny smells or taste to my coffee.

I think if it were that common I would have heard it from one of my workplaces, these kinds of things would never stay secret.

I wish I hadn't read this OP, I won't be able to use a hotel kettle again

it is a famous thing that hotel kettles are pissed in but I have still used them.

I could see how it could have happened in the old days to start the rumor (like a drunk lads holiday, old B&B with shared communal bathroom on another floor, hungover bloke decides to piss in kettle instead etc...) but theres zero logic to why someone would in a travelodge etc... which has a bathroom.

I guess there always a risk someones done something wierd, gross or kinky in a hotel room your now in but you have to just accept that risk but its certainly not 'normal' to go around pissing in kettles.

Hahaha hilarious. I think the red flag is that he believes everything he reads!

I'd suggest he had some pretty grim friends in his youth, and he knows people who have actually done that. Groups of boys do absolutely disgusting things together - having accidentally witnessed part of university hazing rituals for all-boy groups, a bloke urinating into a kettle is not something I would rule out as a thing.

I used to be a hotel manager. In a hotel that had frequent hen/stag parties I only ever remember ONE kettle that had an issue- and that was that a foreign visitor put teabags and milk in it to make tea

The room attendants rinse them out and would hopefully notice if they were rinsing piss out! Plus hotels have bathrooms, why piss in the kettle?!

I have never heard of this in my life, but let's say for the sake of argument that it's true.

What does he think is going to be left once you've cleaned it with literally boiling water? How does he think thinks are usually cleaned? Would he refused to eat off a plate that had ever had something gross on it once it had been through a dishwasher (at a far lower temperature)?

His snarky comments afterwards would piss me off.

I’ve definitely heard of this, along with boiling eggs in them and other cooking related things. Also frying eggs on the iron.

I think he’s a bit ott but otoh, his comments about the poo and cup of wee, are actually humorous - even if he means it.

@BananaCustard85

I’ve also worked in hotel housekeeping. Never found wee in the kettle. But echoing previous posters here - don’t use the cups. In one place I worked we rinsed them out in the uncleaned bathroom sink, regardless of the previous occupant’s whiskers or toothpaste blobs, then dried them off with used towels.

I’m not doubting you, but since I’ve never had an incident of cup related illness, I’m going to carry on not worrying about this.

I've heard of it OP - on here years ago - think it was Butlins though - not a hotel.
Think I'd put it down to experience (on his part) as maybe he knows someone who has done it.

He sounds batshit. Does he have anxiety issues?

He’s a weirdo

I’ve heard this as a roumour but no actual first hand evidence (and I have done a summer as a chamber maid). I still use hotel kettles but I do check and rinse first.
Even if someone had once upon a time weed in a kettle it could be more clean after repeated boilings.

Changing subject slightly, never use a hotel ice bucket. I haven't since a horrendous trip to Legoland where DH, DD & DS all got food poisoning. DH locked himself in the bathroom, DD had the bin, I'd already had to contact the night porter for 2sets of fresh sheets & duvets so when DS started I had to hold the ice bucket for him. I don't know what I'd have done if I'd started - kettle?!

@WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll wth is a ‘ waffle stomp’?
I’m too scared to google

Never heard of this at all, he must be the one doing it. He's sounds like a bit of an arsehole, with his underhand comments.

In normal times, I travel quite a lot and spend at least 5 nights a month in hotels. I always clean the remote control and wash the mugs, spoons & glasses in the room before using them, but I can honestly say that the thought that people might pee in the kettle has never, ever occurred to me. Why the hell would anyone do that? It’s quicker & easier to just pee in the loo. Or, one assumes, the sink if you’re male.