AIBU to not wee in the hotel kettle?

[greatauntfanny]

Summary of events:

• In hotel room with new(ish) partner.
• Go to make myself a cup of tea, ask if he wants one.
• His eyes widen and he yelps 'No! Don't use that! People wee in them!'
• I have never heard this and say something along the lines of 'What? Why would anyone wee in the kettle? There is an ensuite.'
• He says that everyone knows you should never use the kettle in your hotel room because people wee in them 'and worse'.
• I tell him I'm going to take my chances and make a cup of tea (although I boil it out once first to be on the safe side).
• He looks repulsed and says 'I can't believe you're doing that, that's disgusting, I didn't think you were like that' (basically how I'd expect him to react if I actually did a wee (or 'worse') in the hotel kettle myself.
• We go out later for an after-dinner walk and he points at a dog poo and says 'look, there's your dessert.'
• We are getting ready for bed and he picks up kettle and asks me if I want a cup of wee to take to bed.

So, question, in case you haven't guessed: is weeing into the hotel kettle 'a thing' (in which case IABU for making a cup of tea in what is essentially a toilet) or is my partner being weirdly OTT about this? Girls group chat theories have so far ranged from he's an extreme germophobe (red flag) to he's testing my reaction because he's 'into' poo and wee related 'activities' (also a red flag) to he wees in hotel kettles himself (also a red flag).

The only non-red flag is that he's right and people are weeing into their hotel kettles left right and centre which would be a a green flag for him but a red flag for the rest of society. I'm not really sure what outcome I'm hoping for here. Help me out?

Never heard of this at all. Seems you have met a man who is either strange or indicating a strange fetish or worse.

Never heard of this before this week, and I reckon it’s nonsense. I love a cup of tea from the hotel kettle.

Is your partner from a lower middle class background?

I remember reading about the band Then Jericho doing this, in Smash Hits back in the 1980s. I can well believe that the occasional weirdo does this, and worse, but I hope that it's sufficiently rare that the hotel kettle has been boiled and emptied many times since by the time I use it. I do always pre-boil and empty the kettle myself, just in case.

His apparent obsession with this, coupled with going on and on about poo desserts and cups of wee, would make me suspect a fondness for, um, unusual practices though. He might just need a sharp word but I would proceed with caution, OP.

Is your partner from a lower middle class background?

😬 Is that something ‘they’ do? 🤣🤣🤣

Erm wtf. Your partners a creep. Saying there’s your dinner to dog crap. Nah I’d be out of there.

Urban myth. And the ‘there’s your dessert’ comment whilst pointing to dog excrement, why the fuck would you want to be with someone as juvenile?

Boiling will sterilise any nasties.

@Rosehip10

Is your partner from a lower middle class background?

😂

@cupsofcoffee

I've heard it. I've also heard of people using them for cooking eggs and all sorts.

It wouldn't stop me using one BUT I would clean it out first

this I have done

i also remember an ex boyfriend trying to cook a yam in one

@HollowTalk

I think in Premier Inns the thing they drape over the bed (containing the logo) is supposed to be pretty disgusting.

That sounds very familiar and may possibly have been included in the same documentary I watched. I have an idea Gordon Ramsay was involved in the programme (?). Yes they showed the bed cover (with an ultraviolet lamp) which was not cleaned between guests and the invisible to the naked eye stains were, well, think teapot spout and you get the idea.

I doubt it is only Premier Inns who don't launder the top cover every changeover of guests.

No idea how true it is because people talk a load of white but I've read people claiming to work in hotels who say this and far far worse goes on. I also read some women claiming they boil their knickers to clean them. Again, women? 🤷‍♀️ True? 🤷‍♀️

There's a part of me that suspects there's truth in it because look at the things done to public loos! People can be disgusting.

I've heard this on Mumsnet, think it's an urban myth. I use the kettle for making tea!

I'm wondering if it comes from the era before en suites?

@WaltzingToWalsingham

I remember reading about the band Then Jericho doing this, in Smash Hits back in the 1980s. I can well believe that the occasional weirdo does this, and worse, but I hope that it's sufficiently rare that the hotel kettle has been boiled and emptied many times since by the time I use it. I do always pre-boil and empty the kettle myself, just in case.

His apparent obsession with this, coupled with going on and on about poo desserts and cups of wee, would make me suspect a fondness for, um, unusual practices though. He might just need a sharp word but I would proceed with caution, OP.

I am feeling cautious 😬

White = shite

I dunno, I always check the hotel kettle to make sure someone hasn't left a shit in it. I read something once and it has unfortunately always stuck with me...

As an aside, I love ypur writing style @greatauntfanny your OP really made me laugh!

I wonder if this is where the saying boils my piss comes from

Your DP is pretty weird and has a gross imagination

It's really put me off him, especially his comment about dog poo "look there's your desert". His paranoia is one thing but the nastiness afterwards when you were taken aback by it, is a whole different level.

@Aprilwasverywet

I turned down a job in a posh town hotel. I had a trial with 2 long standing staff .. Who dried shower doors and the cups etc with the guests used towels... Not envy..

I once worked somewhere where another member of staff used to be a chambermaid in a chain hotel near London. They had so little time to clean rooms they just used the same sponge to clean the toilet, cups, shower -you name it! I never make a drink without washing the cups, spoon, glasses myself first and boiling then rinsing out the kettle too. They also just remade the bed for the next person, instead of changing it, if someone stayed just one night

DH ran a hotel for a few years and it's not an urban myth. He definitely had urine and shit in the kettles.

But then I worked in TK Maxx when I was a student and people did the same in the fitting rooms.

Some people do it - although I've normally heard a poo rather than a wee - simply because they can. They probably find it hilarious and a cracking wheeze. Also, those who 'waffle stomp' in the shower, even though there's a toilet right there next to them. Just weirdos/possibly mentally ill people having their 'fun' or a cry for help.

Bearing in mind how many people smear it up the wall of a cubicle, ostensibly whilst they're actually sitting there over the intended receptacle for their waste, I'm sure the vast majority don't do it, but there's likely a sizeable minority that joke about it - and then a few of those who take the 'joke' too far.

• It'd really put me off him

Not "it's"
I don't know your DP nor would want to
Check his baseball cap for him foil

Never heard of that !! Always use hotel kettles

It absolutely does happen, I chambermaided in a mid-range hotel at weekends and school/uni holidays for 5 years and saw such grim things that I will never ever ever ever ever under any circumstances use the kettle or even the cups in a hotel room!

Is your partner from a lower middle class background?

Is this a real comment? 😂😂