AIBU to not wee in the hotel kettle?

[greatauntfanny]

Summary of events:

• In hotel room with new(ish) partner.
• Go to make myself a cup of tea, ask if he wants one.
• His eyes widen and he yelps 'No! Don't use that! People wee in them!'
• I have never heard this and say something along the lines of 'What? Why would anyone wee in the kettle? There is an ensuite.'
• He says that everyone knows you should never use the kettle in your hotel room because people wee in them 'and worse'.
• I tell him I'm going to take my chances and make a cup of tea (although I boil it out once first to be on the safe side).
• He looks repulsed and says 'I can't believe you're doing that, that's disgusting, I didn't think you were like that' (basically how I'd expect him to react if I actually did a wee (or 'worse') in the hotel kettle myself.
• We go out later for an after-dinner walk and he points at a dog poo and says 'look, there's your dessert.'
• We are getting ready for bed and he picks up kettle and asks me if I want a cup of wee to take to bed.

So, question, in case you haven't guessed: is weeing into the hotel kettle 'a thing' (in which case IABU for making a cup of tea in what is essentially a toilet) or is my partner being weirdly OTT about this? Girls group chat theories have so far ranged from he's an extreme germophobe (red flag) to he's testing my reaction because he's 'into' poo and wee related 'activities' (also a red flag) to he wees in hotel kettles himself (also a red flag).

The only non-red flag is that he's right and people are weeing into their hotel kettles left right and centre which would be a a green flag for him but a red flag for the rest of society. I'm not really sure what outcome I'm hoping for here. Help me out?

Bet he slept on the pillows that have been god knows where,and used the toilet and the sink. For goodness sake even if the kettle had been
weed in the water in it is boiled. (This urban myth has been around for years and som people fall for these myths) I think hes a plonker and will only get to be more of a plonker the longer you know him. Get rid.

Come back OP, did you believe him after this thread, did you drink out of cups and glasses, did you pee in the kettle?

So many questions, but most important of all did you LTB for taking you to a steady hotel, for mocking your unawareness or what else posters have suggested should be done?

Steady seedy even.

I have never heard of this either until this thread.

Anyway your boyfriend sounds immature and tiresome.

Surely if 'everyone' did it, the kettle would stink as soon as you took the lid off? I'm assuming he means men do it? I don't know many women who could hover over a kettle and pee in it. My initial reaction was 'why are you with someone like that?' He sounds bizarre if not perverted. Get rid, ASAP.

Seen wee for myself in a kettle at butlins. Barf! Never thought about it since but i do check!

More likely at Butlins where you get groups of youngsters going, hen parties, stag do's etc! I suppose it depends what hotel it was, but I wouldn't be impressed if my partner took me to a 'dodgy' hotel!! I thought I was bad for weeing down a lane in my teens!!

Never heard of that being a thing! I've used plenty of hotel kettles and it never crossed my mind some twat would do that!

What would worry me is his over reacting and taking the whole thing way too far - married someone like that and it only gets worse! See this as red flag and be glad you got out quickly.

I have never heard of it, and usually use the room kettle. Hotels always check these out for new clients and wash and refill them.
The only time it might happen is in a cheap hotel room without either a loo or sink, by someone caught short in the middle of the night.

However, some hotel rooms are truly appalling. The worst I ever used were in the US where (near the bus stations) the rooms were disgaceful and used for perverted dirty purposes. I was a student with very little money at the time.

Er never heard of this ...
You can buy travel kettles.
I'm sure everyone would live. Boiling kills most germs anyway . Maybe that's a myth too.
Doesn't sound like a man who you could have a lot of fun with to be honest.

I always take a couple of Milton sterilizing tablets when I stay in hotels / caravans etc and drop one in the first lot of boiled kettle water before I use it. I also soak the cups with a sterilizing tablet too.

@kifaha
That's just for starters... I take our own pillows, duvet, mattress, side tables (of course) soap, shampoo (I take those provided by the hotel for Christmas gifts for close relatives) light bulbs, towels, kettle, mini deep-fat fryer, toilet seat, taps, etc.
I do sometimes wonder if it is worth going away at all - but then it's nice to have a relaxing break isn't it?

The whole pissing in kettles topic came up on a QI episode once... I'd never heard of it before or since. Maybe he got his idea from that if he (or anyone else who may have mentioned to him) watches the show?

@Jizzonmy 🤣🤣 I’m the same

I reckon he has pi*ed in a hotel kettle himself and that's where his theory stems from. I have never heard that in my life!! Regardless, however, his reaction seems OTT - so what if you wanted to drink from a potentially pi*y kettle? You do you hun.😂 If I were you I would pee in his kettle to teach him a lesson x

Just got back from 2 hotels over the last week or so, YES I've heard about the shady goings on with kettles, and so I ALWAYS boil and throw the first water. There are MANY FREAKS out there, NEVER trust a kettle until its been boiled first.

I have to say, I think the date with ‘Howard Hughes’ would worry me more than the threat of wee-tea. Tell me he got the boot on the basis of having no sense of humour and or fun? Poo dessert indeed. How rude!

Oh God, this thread has turned me into a hybrid Greta Garbo/Howard Hughes. I'm never leaving the house again.

Wee is actually sterile. Prime Minister Modi is said to drink his own wee in the morning. It may not be true. People always say funny things bout prime ministers. Anyway your boyfriend is a weirdo. He probably has a lot of other weird things about him. Don't wait to find out! Unless he's rich, dump him.

@Annaram1

Wee is actually sterile. Prime Minister Modi is said to drink his own wee in the morning. It may not be true. People always say funny things bout prime ministers. Anyway your boyfriend is a weirdo. He probably has a lot of other weird things about him. Don't wait to find out! Unless he's rich, dump him.

No, it's not actually! @annaram1

Wee is actually sterile

It isn't. And even if it were once it hits fresh air it deteriorates quickly.

What if you stored it in bags and called it Pee Gee Tips?

Not a kettle but at an expensive holiday home I used to clean, there was a decorative china jug in a bowl in one of the bedrooms, it was on top of the chest of draws and someone peed in it & left it there. I don’t know if they thought that was what it was for? Disgusting.