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How passive aggressive is this! Neighbour and parking

121 replies

WildWestWanda · 29/05/2021 14:08

We live on a street on which all of the houses have drives and where there are always lots of parking spaces on the road.

We have two cars and park one of our cars on our drive and the other on the road outside our house. Our neighbour has one car and always parks it on their drive. The space outside of their house is always empty.

Yesterday we had a visitor to our home who was here most of the day. They parked outside of our neighbours house. This wouldn’t have caused them any inconvenience because as I mentioned they always park on their drive.

This morning dh has gone to work and the neighbours have moved their car off their drive and parked it outside of my house.

It’s not a big deal but it’s so ridiculous it’s funny! Who has the time or headspace to be this petty!

OP posts:
Viviennemary · 30/05/2021 20:17

People and their visitors need to park outside their own house.

Doris86 · 30/05/2021 20:38

@Missteebeee

Your friend could have parked over your drive when they visited surely?
Why would they when there was a space available which didn’t block any driveway?

Op - yes it is hilarious that some people in the world are this ridiculous and petty!

littlepattilou · 30/05/2021 20:48

@WildWestWanda I agree that YOU sound like the petty one... Petty regarding this parking issue, and petty to start a thread about it, saying how 'not bothered' you are. Wink And as a pp said, you are nosey too. Knowing that they go out for a daily walk, and you just happen to see them ever time. Wink

Also, why is it OK for you to stick YOUR car on the road, but not for them to?

Lucked · 30/05/2021 20:48

@Missteebeee

Your friend could have parked over your drive when they visited surely?
I have never parked over my friends drive when I visit them, if there isn’t room on their drive I park legally and safely on the road. It is more convenient for me if it is outside their house but if I can’t park there I take the next most convenient space.

This is normal.

juice92 · 30/05/2021 20:52

You can't be sure why they have parked there. My Husband and I share a car and it stays on our drive 99% when we are parked at home and the neighbours park on car on the drive and one car in front of our house (or theirs), but every now and then we park our car out in front of our/the neighbours house. Sometimes we do it because we know we will be loading stuff into the car, having people round or we are just too lazy to park it in the space

Could they be doing the same?

lakesummer · 30/05/2021 20:57

OP could run an experiment and see how often their friends parking outside a neighbor's house led to them parking outside hers.

Honestly I absolutely remember this PA nonsense as I've said before although it took DH and I a while to realize it was happening.

Trumpetpants · 30/05/2021 20:59

I have a batshit neighbour who is obsessed with only her car being parked outside my house! She has a drive but parks outside mine, and has two cars but obviously can only drive one so leaves one car permanently outside mine. She has a work van that she leaves outside other neighbours house and leaves brand new car on her own drive.
Totally batshit! On the plus side it makes me feel normal😂

MissyGez · 30/05/2021 22:44

[quote littlepattilou]@WildWestWanda I agree that YOU sound like the petty one... Petty regarding this parking issue, and petty to start a thread about it, saying how 'not bothered' you are. Wink And as a pp said, you are nosey too. Knowing that they go out for a daily walk, and you just happen to see them ever time. Wink

Also, why is it OK for you to stick YOUR car on the road, but not for them to?[/quote]
I don't think the OP had an issue with the neighbours parking outside her house, she was pointing out she thinks they have done it because and visitor parked outside their house.

MissyGez · 30/05/2021 22:45

@Viviennemary

People and their visitors need to park outside their own house.
Why?? You do realise this is impossible in a lot of streets
WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 31/05/2021 00:34

People and their visitors need to park outside their own house.

I agree - but 'outside' is a very big place, so you might not end up especially close to the house itself.

Of course, you can't expect to have a certain space available to you and to you alone to park on the public road, if you don't have a drive and need to rely on communal parking; any more than you can expect to have your favourite bench and section of the park reserved for your exclusive/priority use, just because you have a house/flat without a garden.

PierrethePenis · 31/05/2021 08:49

You have to live next door to your neighbours, for a peaceful life its better you get on. Why not just apologise and say you didn't realise it would offend them to have a visitor park there and that in future you will check they won't be using the space before a visitor parks there again. It might seem fun at first to start a war. Then you need to live with them next door, and your life could be hell.

h1nch · 31/05/2021 09:22

Your visitor parked their car on a public highway and weren’t obstructing anyone’s drive. Now your neighbours are parking their car on a public highway and are not obstructing access - am I understanding correctly?

Sometimesfraught82 · 31/05/2021 09:24

@h1nch

Your visitor parked their car on a public highway and weren’t obstructing anyone’s drive. Now your neighbours are parking their car on a public highway and are not obstructing access - am I understanding correctly?
Yes Exactly But doesn’t stop some frothing at the mouth
h1nch · 31/05/2021 09:43

I’m sorry but to me this seems utterly ludicrous. You are spending time and energy frothing at the mouth about something that neither party has been wronged or done wrong. Forget it and enjoy the sunshine

Ratonastick · 31/05/2021 10:31

I love a bit of petty parking. I lived in a terrace and had a batshit neighbour who was obsessed with “correct” parking precisely outside her own house. It was wholly unnecessary as a row of 6 houses had 3 cars between us so there was always plenty of space. One day I parked about 6 inches into “her” space and it drove her berserk. She proceeded to park mm from my bumper every day from thereon. Not a problem because the neighbour on the other side didn’t have a car so there was rarely anyone in front to block me in so I just didn’t give her the reaction she was dying for. But it was bizarrely passive aggressive behaviour for absolutely no reason and great entertainment in a small village (mind you, it was the least barking thing she did, but that’s another thread).

WeBuiltThisBuffetOnSausageRoll · 31/05/2021 11:57

Ratonastick

Did she wear a pink dressing gown all the time and go by the epithet of 'Mrs B' Grin

Whammyyammy · 31/05/2021 13:44

@Topazmumma

We live in a corner of a cul-de-sac and the parking has become crowded over the years, primarily due to all of us having kids around the same age, so all now owning their own cars. It may have diffused a potential situation if you had just popped round and said something like "Hope you don't mind, but friends will be visiting and leaving the car there. Give us a shout if you need us to move it." One of my NDN's doesn't drive so doesn't use her drive but I always make a point of asking (even though she is always fine) it's the courteous thing to do. 🙂
So pop round to someone's house and say "I hope you don't mind, but my father is visiting and will be legally parking his car on the public, the one that you do not own and has absolutely nothing to do with you, but I thought I would let you know anyway"..... strange
Whammyyammy · 31/05/2021 13:46

@h1nch

Your visitor parked their car on a public highway and weren’t obstructing anyone’s drive. Now your neighbours are parking their car on a public highway and are not obstructing access - am I understanding correctly?
Yep
Usernamerequired · 31/05/2021 14:53

They sound like total dicks!

Juststopamoment · 31/05/2021 22:30

I had a neighbour park her friend’s car opposite my drive for two weeks when her friend went on holiday. I use my car numerous times daily and it made it more difficult for me to get out and into my drive. Meanwhile their drive was kept clear. That hugely pissed me off. I don’t think I was wrong to be pissed off.

Bangolads · 02/06/2021 09:51

Kill them with kindness!!

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