For the love of all things... read the thread

[Peachesarepeach]

I'm so tired of posters not reading the thread and either missing crucial updates or repeating the same comment 500 times.

Go on, I dare you to tell me I'm being unreasonable... but only if you read all the previous comments!

its only mumsnet....a bit of a time wasting forum, nothing special!

why should anyone have to plough through loads of messages before giving an opinion?

why should anyone have to plough through loads of messages before giving an opinion?

Basic manners should mean they at least read OP's posts. It's not hard.

Also, if it's a long thread, it's usually a good idea for posters to consider their pearl of wisdom might just have been shared already & that the thread may have moved on.

I tend to read the OP’s posts and maybe the first and last page of very long threads. It takes ages to plough through exceptionally long threads. Do occasionally miss the odd bit of info because I tend to skim read. It’s thankfully Mumsnet, not a dissertation.

It's more annoying when people repeat the same comment 500 times.....

It's especially annoying when the OP takes some of the reactions on board, and the thread moves on and gets interesting, but then it keeps being interrupted by people who haven't even read the OP's subsequent posts, and all say the same thing in reaction to the first post.
I sometimes think they must have enormous egos believe their opinion simply must be given, even though they haven't time to read past the first post.

@EarringsandLipstick

why should anyone have to plough through loads of messages before giving an opinion?

Basic manners should mean they at least read OP's posts. It's not hard.

Also, if it's a long thread, it's usually a good idea for posters to consider their pearl of wisdom might just have been shared already & that the thread may have moved on.

oh dear, you take it all so-so seriously don't you?

thankfully I have a busy life, dip in and out of here as time/boredom permits.....it JUST a forum, as someone up thread says....mumsnet not a dissertation!

Cancel the cheque, OP.

why should anyone have to plough through loads of messages before giving an opinion?

There was a recent thread asking for holiday suggestions which had been updated to say that the poster had passed away.

People were still posting in response to the orignal OP and wishing her a good trip.

Cancel the cheque

@GirlCrush you could always not comment?! Honestly if there is a thread of 300 comments unless you think you have some really novel of view point (or you're fucking hilarious in which all is always forgiven ) then it's probably safe to say someone has already made your point.

Lurking for busy lives saves lives. Or at least my sanity.

Its okay if the thread is only a few pages long but some are 20+ pages and most of them not all that interesting.

There's a thread at the moment with an OP annoyed that her young nieces and nephews let it slip to her kids that their older sibling is actually their half sibling (they didn't know). When they came downstairs asking if it was true the OP's MIL uttered "You'd better tell them".

So many comments calling the MIL nosey/a witch/telling OP to go NC - is this some sort of unconscious misogyny that people read a perfectly clear OP and decided to blame the nearest woman?

As much as I agree, we have all been there . But atleast the OP's posts, please.

But from your op, you are unreasonable as you seem to have anger issues. Do you want help with that 🤣.

@FrangipaniDeLaSqueegeeMop

There's a thread at the moment with an OP annoyed that her young nieces and nephews let it slip to her kids that their older sibling is actually their half sibling (they didn't know). When they came downstairs asking if it was true the OP's MIL uttered "You'd better tell them".

So many comments calling the MIL nosey/a witch/telling OP to go NC - is this some sort of unconscious misogyny that people read a perfectly clear OP and decided to blame the nearest woman?

And the pile ons. Sweet Jesus the pack mentality of repeating the same comment a trillion times in increasing vitriolic ways.

There's a thread at the moment about an interviewee accessing companies house, op admitted she was being unreasonable and people are still going at her, piranha peperami style

@EarringsandLipstick

why should anyone have to plough through loads of messages before giving an opinion?

Basic manners should mean they at least read OP's posts. It's not hard.

Also, if it's a long thread, it's usually a good idea for posters to consider their pearl of wisdom might just have been shared already & that the thread may have moved on.

Agreed. Basic manners matter but people are all too intent on having their say without making any effort. It's like barging into a pub conversation.

YABVU

What's the question again?

@Giantrooster

As much as I agree, we have all been there . But atleast the OP's posts, please.

But from your op, you are unreasonable as you seem to have anger issues. Do you want help with that 🤣.

Yes! What can you suggest? (And will 20 others have identical ideas )

It's more annoying when people repeat the same comment 500 times.....

@GirlCrush

oh dear, you take it all so-so seriously don't you?

Why the rudeness?

No, I don't take it particularly seriously. I do think that when people post, they deserve respect for their query or dilemma (when they have one), and reading their posts & seeing where the thread has gone, isn't hard to do.

It seems I'm not on my own with that view.

I've no idea why you needed to give such a sneery reply?

@DynamoKev

YABVU

What's the question again?

I was kind of hoping to swing your thread into the quite unreasonable guessing and derailing. As with the 'lovely' thread about a dad going upstairs at a birthday party, ending up accusing him of being a drunk pedo .

I get annoyed when this thread appears pretty much weekly

Posters should at least read all of OP updates, however on a fast moving thread cross-posting happens.

I find someone (other than OP with an update) randomly resurrecting zombie threads more annoying, and I kinda wish MN would lock new responses from anyone except OP 3-6mths after the last post - on AIBU if nowhere else

What's more annoying is when someone always has to find a way to show how inclusive the are by suggesting that the OP's husband might be acting like a twat because he has undiagnosed special needs or a hidden disability. Likewise, when describing a scenario whereby a child known to the OP has behaved dreadfully, many posters will pile on almost insisting that the child must be neurodiverse and the OP couldn't possibly know this is not the case, despite numerous posts saying it isn't, and therefore shouldn't be such an 'ist'.

@Giantrooster

I was kind of hoping to swing your thread into the quite unreasonable guessing and derailing. As with the 'lovely' thread about a dad going upstairs at a birthday party, ending up accusing him of being a drunk pedo .

Please do that, I value novelty over sensible conversation so as long as it isn't repetitive!