For the love of all things... read the thread

[Peachesarepeach]

I'm so tired of posters not reading the thread and either missing crucial updates or repeating the same comment 500 times.

Go on, I dare you to tell me I'm being unreasonable... but only if you read all the previous comments!

Yeah I don't have the time or the inclination to read 20 odd pages of mainly monotonous, insipid comments.

Or maybe adding 'rules' to threads kills people's desire to take the conversation further by implying that anything repetitive or not deemed 'worthwhile' will be ridiculed.

As I stated earlier, if you introduce boundaries nuance or new conversation from New posters is less likely to happen. I think it's no coincidence that this thread has been slow moving. A lot of people will have been put off posting by the premise and subsequent pile ons, meaning the conversation has stagnated as there's nothing more to say.
This thread kind of went:
Read the thread
It's sometimes tedious to do so, I don't have time or inclination.
Anyone with that attitude is self important and rude.
Radio silence.
Tumbleweed.

It's a pretty good example of why you shouldn't try and police how threads go.

But also there's just not much more to say.

@HowToBringABlushToTheSnow

Yeah I don't have the time or the inclination to read 20 odd pages of mainly monotonous, insipid comments.

So why do you think anyone's bothered to read your post repeating a point that others have made?

@SunnydaleClassProtector99 - I agree the idea of "policing" or trying to get MNetters to agree rules is useless.

I see this more as trying to be informative that if you come to a days-old thread with hundreds of posts and write a reply without even glancing at the most recent posts (especially any OP update) then your reply will have little value and might even make you look ridiculous.

But I don't know why I'm bothering, as the people who will read this probably already agree, and the ones who need to read it won't by definition.

@SunnydaleClassProtector99

Or maybe adding 'rules' to threads kills people's desire to take the conversation further by implying that anything repetitive or not deemed 'worthwhile' will be ridiculed.

As I stated earlier, if you introduce boundaries nuance or new conversation from New posters is less likely to happen. I think it's no coincidence that this thread has been slow moving. A lot of people will have been put off posting by the premise and subsequent pile ons, meaning the conversation has stagnated as there's nothing more to say.
This thread kind of went:
Read the thread
It's sometimes tedious to do so, I don't have time or inclination.
Anyone with that attitude is self important and rude.
Radio silence.
Tumbleweed.

It's a pretty good example of why you shouldn't try and police how threads go.

But also there's just not much more to say.

The only thing that makes sense here is your final sentence. There was nothing more to say on the thread - nothing to do with ‘pile-ons’. What did you want people to say - that they didn’t find that attitude self-important and rude?

I actually think this is the perfect example of why reading the whole thread and not just posting the same old crap over and over is a good idea. The thread hasn’t ‘stagnated’ - it’s just ended, as most threads do. And it’s ended without an unnecessary 15 pages of repetition because people who haven’t read it feel their uninformed contribution is still somehow vital.

I don't agree. I think you can read ops post, the first and last pages and get a good understanding without having to read every single point. Skimming like this gives you a clear idea of the shape of the thread.

But actually, all that's happened here is a man-made echo chamber. I don't actually think most people post irrelevant posts except on aibu where people post for traffic and is to be expected.

What did you want people to say - that they didn’t find that attitude self-important and rude?

Well one thing that was said was that when I posted as an Sen mum on aibu I found people saying 'hand hold' and kind things helpful, no matter how many times it had been said.

Of course, you'd have had to have read the thread to pick up on that point

I love it when a poster posts on the wrong thread in error. A post about Christmas presents with the in laws and suddenly you get "well if he will get it wet and not hang it up what can he expect "

It's sad to think that those of us who made the last few posts on this thread will have written words that no-one else will read. It was inevitable, I guess.

If you read this, for entertainment's sake, reply with one of your favourite film quotes or song lyrics, just to show you were here and that you care. I'll read it at least...

Th-Th-The, Th-Th-The, Th-Th... That's all, folks!

That's a lotta nuts!

We’ll meet again.

Hopefully on a more interesting thread than this.

So you're saying, "I''ll be back", but not on this thread...

How do you read the OP's posts on the app? I can't figure it out.

Frankly, my dear, I don’t give a damn.

Johnny’s in the basement mixing up the medicine.

The unwashed phenomenon , the original vagabond

Ooh, a few new passers-by! I'm still here and I'm still reading.

@butterpuffed - the basement medicine lyric sounded vaguely familiar - and I see it has a memorable video with Dylan.

And @HaveringWavering, you've got me sitting here listening to Joan Baez's haunting voice and feeling her aching longing.

Now you're telling me
You're not nostalgic
Then give me another word for it

Other way round, it was me who posted the line from Subterranean Homesick Blues, but I love Diamonds and Rust as well and recognised the line immediately, the "live in the Bullring" version is the best. I reckon she's still glad on balance that she didn't end up with him though!

I hate it when there’s only one answer to a question, something like ‘when’s Will and Kate’s anniversary?’ Loads of people just say it over and over again (plus the OP could have easily googled it!!)

Even worse is people ask questions which were covered in the op! Read it properly!

There's a couple of parking-related threads on the go on AIBU at the moment (hundreds of posts - look for "block" and "bump" if you're interested) and half of the responses currently are posters getting cross about others not reading the thread. It can be frustrating, but I have to admit it does add to the "entertainment" value.

It seems that it's parking threads that bring out this behaviour - there's a couple of new ones this weekend.

At the time of writing on the following thread, X wondered why Y had posted without reading the thread, someone else commented "because sometimes posters are too lazy to read the thread but are not too lazy to post an opinion" and Y has replied "guilty as charged."

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/a4304470-Random-car-parked-on-my-drive?msgid=109362434#109362434

I think we need a MN shorthand (along the lines of "CF") for such posters.

Another prime specimen of posters not even thinking to check the OP's updates and thinking their contribution is somehow original.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/4373096-Shit-I-think-I-have-a-zoom-meeting-with-my-childhood-bully