Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Not really Aibu but a Wwyd

109 replies

hoolahoola22 · 20/05/2021 13:03

Dd goes to pre school, theres a dad that is friendly and chats to everyone, we say hello and as our dcs are friendly he asked a few weeks ago if we wanted to go on an outing at a weekend, i said i work every other weekend but he kept pushing for different days, the kids were both there and he was asking them and making it seem fun to them, and made me feel put on the spot so i said id let him know, few days later i saw him and told him i was busy and couldnt do a trip,i got called over by a nursery teacher so that cut the conversation short but he stood there waiting while i was talking to the teacher, he makes me feel really uncomfortable, hes always hovering about,i saw him drive past me and dd on the school run then must have gone around the block as he then drove past us again just in time to park up at the bottom of the road me and dd were on and then he walked to nursery with us and his dd from there even though i was on the phone, he does things like this all the time and its making me feel uncomfortable, what would you do

OP posts:
Justilou1 · 25/05/2021 07:18

This is a weird one... I think a chat to the mum about whether or not the Dad has “personal space” issues or problems reading non-verbals is not entirely out of order given the circumstances.

MagnoliaBeige · 25/05/2021 08:12

Please trust your instinct, start keeping a diary of every interaction that makes you uncomfortable and practice saying phrases you can say to him to cut off conversations with him. Unfortunately women are conditioned in society to be polite to people but you owe him absolutely nothing, take care!

billy1966 · 25/05/2021 09:00

Let your husband do a playdate.
What a twat.

Listen to your gut please.
Never doubt it.

You will have to ask him to back off OR now because of the twat you married, insist HE does drop offs.

RagzReturnsRebooted · 25/05/2021 20:41

At least your DH was sensible enough not to say where you live, but still disappointing he didn't tell the guy he's making you uncomfortable. I am the last person to expect women to want to be 'saved' by a man, but he should be standing up for when you've specifically said the guy is being creepy.
However socially inept the guy is, that doesn't excuse the driving around following you part, so you are absolutely right to be wary. Like PPs have said, it's time to be rude.

Notaroadrunner · 25/05/2021 20:47

Did you get a chance to check cctv at work?

hoolahoola22 · 25/05/2021 21:21

The cctv at work records over itself so they only have a couple of days worth, i was off yesterday so time i have asked today its too late

OP posts:
Pob13 · 27/05/2021 22:45

Any update?

VodkaSlimline · 27/05/2021 23:16

Ugh! Trust your instincts. The Gift of Fear is a great book about this - here's a link to a free PDF of it:
www.docdroid.net/yrC8MoB/the-gift-of-fear-pdf

aprilherewecome · 28/05/2021 00:27

I think he just sounds friendly tbh and as others have said a little socially awkward. he could just be trying to make friends? Maybe he doesn't have any and because of your children playing together he thought he'd try and make friends with you? if he try's to arrange another play date just tell him you will see when your dh is free.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page