I'm addicted to holidays, help me!!

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I know aibu. More so because my husband has to pay for them.
I'm a sahm / housewife, I don't have much of a life /no social life/no hobbies . Pre covid we took the kids out alot, days out to theme parks etc and holidays. Went to Disneyworld in 2018. Then covid came and stopped everything
My issue is I'm obsessed with looking at holidays, thinking about holidays, researching holiday destinations, reading reviews, booking holidays and wanting to go on holiday all of the time. Not necessarily abroad, happy with the UK. In fact I would like to be a travel agent .
I could sit at the computer and do this all day every day. I get immense pleasure from it.
I want to travel the world and experience things. Especially with my children. And I feel like there is only a certain amount of time you can do this with them before they grow up. Last night I had a homonal crying meltdown /tantrum because of this. I basically upset myself thinking about it and the fact my kids will be grown up in 10 years.
Weve always spent money that came in and didn't save ( very silly I know). Covid preventing us from doing anything has meant my husband has been able to save large chunks of his wage and we have a good savings pot for the first time ever. I want to spend some of this on holidays over the next couple of years and he doesn't. He wants to continue saving l for a few years, but also he has no interest in ever going anywhere. He's a home biddy and I'm not. . I know he is right but the effect this has had on me is absolutely stupid and so over the top. I feel like an addict being refused something! I know this is completely rediculous, and I know the reason is because I'm stuck at home all day every day and my life is just boring and monotonous. Please help me by suggesting how to snap out of this daft obsession and fill my life with other thinsgs

Use the savings to pay for childcare. You state you can only get a low paid job.. well maybe tomorrow, but you have 30 years before retirement! 30 years to gain experience and skills and stand on your own two feet. Sitting at home waiting for your husband to pay for your next holiday is not going to fulfill you for the next 30 years, especially now he won't actually pay for them.

If I was you, I would put my foot down and insist that I could take on a paid job. I think this would help with your self fulfilment and self esteem and also your boredom. Once you are working, you will have some say over how much you travel as you will be contributing to the household income. Children can spend time in holiday camps in the holidays when you are not taking annual leave. Good luck!

Your H is a tosspot. He'd have to take leave to look after the kids if you got divorced wouldn't he? Good luck with the job search.

If you are in UK, I believe that you only receive a "stamp" or contributions towards your state pension when you are not working for a certain number of years if you have children. Up until your children are up to a certain age.
You can check your National Insurance contributions per year & your state pension forecast on www.gov.uk

You need 35 years contributions to receive a state pension

So it would make sense for you to get a paid job

Your DH should contribute towards some of the childcare costs in future

You need to get rid of this man. ! He is simply not good for your mental or physical health . End of .