To find it weird that DD won't tell me anything about her dad
gelatodipistacchio · 17/05/2021 19:23
She is almost 5.
When she goes to her father's house for a night or weekend, she refuses to tell me anything at all about her visit. Examples of questions she won't answer:
Daddy said you had a playdate. Who did you see?
What did you do at Daddy's?
Did you have fun?
AIBU to find this odd and concerning?
She usually strongly objects to seeing him, if this makes a difference.
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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Ponoka7 · 17/05/2021 19:34
You've answered your own question, 'she knows I don't like him'. How does she know that? My six year old GC won't answer her Dad's questions because there's always a comment. Perhaps stop asking and make small talk. Children give things away in conversation. That's what SWs do, they avoid questions.
MonsterMash2210 · 17/05/2021 19:36
My answer to this would depend entirely on how forthcoming she is about other areas of her life.
My son has never answered questions like that about anything. He just doesn’t (for some reason) like telling me about his day, what he did, who he played with, what he ate?
Occasionally he will volunteer information himself, but he rarely answers questions.
So, this wouldn’t be unusual for me.
However, if your daughter will usually answer questions like this, then yes there may be cause for concern.
Countrycode · 17/05/2021 19:53
It could be concerning, but honestly my youngest one is in nursery and he loves it, but refuses to answer any questions about what he does (literally nearly every day of the week). It could just be one of those weird things
Same here. I think some children are just resistant to any type of "interrogation". My eldest who I have a very close relationship with tells me nothing! I have spent every minute of every day withher besides preschool yet she tells me nada when I ask her how her day was and I'm not pushy at all. Yet when her dad comes home he gets the whole unasked for minutae of her day.
Countrycode · 17/05/2021 19:56
She shouldn’t be ‘well aware’ you don’t like her Dad at the age of 5, tbh. I'm afraid I agree with this too. How does she know? Has she picked it up from when you were together and the environment was hostile (understandable) or have actually voiced your dislike of him (completely innapropriate).
lockdownalli · 17/05/2021 20:01
When I was 5 my mother used to interrogate me on my return from weekends with my dad and his new wife. It was absolutely awful and I dreaded it. Not seeing him, but the bloody Spanish Inquisition and nasty comments when I got back.
I agree with PP - why on earth does your 5 year old know you don't like her father?
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