Being ‘told off’ for minor rule infringements on Facebook groups

[justanotherneighinparadise]

AIBU to just roll my eyes and leave the group? Anyone else just cannot be bothered with the wrists slapping that goes on? I know its childish of me. I know if I sign up and agree ‘the rules’ I should respect the people who moderate the group. But man I feel like some of these people just love the power.

It’s like the only power I have is to think ODFOD and flounce 🤣

Caveat is that I don’t have any real Facebook group that I’m wed to. So to flounce makes no difference to my quality of life.

YABU - get over yourself and just follow the bloody rules
YANBU - these people just LOVE the power trip

@Slippy78

If you don't want to get told off then don't break the rules....

Sometimes you can break a rule without knowing it even was a rule....

I think the worst I've been on is a car seat advice group. For some reason that topic makes some people completely unreasonable.

I never read the rules.
I've been banned from quite a few places...

To be fair as well FB change the rules without even telling the admins

As someone who who runs 2 FB groups - and I've definitely had sex - we get posts removed months or even years after they were posted for breaches rules that weren't even in place at the time

And admins can also now be banned for approving posts that break FB's new made up rules

I got banned on a group called beat the balliff and the banks because I said that if you owe the money then you should pay it.

Got told that you should never pay a balliff, but contact the company who past the debt on and pay them directly.

I couldn’t understand this as the debt has been past on because the company couldn’t get you to pay in the first place!

People were in uproar and I got booted off

@justanotherneighinparadise

As of April 12th this activity was allowed again.

But was anybody left in the group,

Valid question . I stick around as it's now an well known source of amusement which is often discussed on a neighbouring village's FB group. Makes me chuckle at the ridiculousness of it all!

oh wow this reminds me of my experience with some diet FB groups. (I won't name the diet because my description will pretty much bring you directly to the groups if searched) I'd been in general groups for it but I wanted UK-based groups for shopping ideas etc as we don't have access to the same branded goods as they have in the USA.

Well I found the UK groups, and the two biggest ones are run by the same incredibly intolerant admin team. They have a very specific interpretation of this diet and any deviation from it results in posts being deleted. People new to the diet come in and list what they've eaten for the day, asking for advice, and get shat all over because they maybe had an artificial sweetener in something and that's just not HEALTHY and you should be on this diet because of HEALTH and not just weight loss. etc. You can feel that person immediately deflating and thinking they've done everything wrong (they're never told specifically what is wrong, just "read the group files" so they don't know it's about that sweetener, they just know they're WRONG)

Instead of being admins/mods for a group of people with a shared interest, they've appointed themselves experts on the topic and refuse to entertain any other experiences. I imagine it puts loads of people off even attempting the diet. I left because there are other support groups elsewhere (reddit for eg)

Just follow the rules or leave. No big deal.

I was banned from a resale group for pointing out other posters should probably be cautious about openly discussing how to get items artificially inflated in price on eBay. I took screenshots that I sent to admins. Some times breaking the rules is ok as apparently that was

They take it all so seriously. I got told off once and told if I apologised properly I could post/be unmuted. I think they expected me to be ashamed or upset or have an emotive reaction. It's Facebook, guys. I've got other things going on in my life I'll live without it.

@bridgetreilly

Just follow the rules or leave. No big deal.

I did leave. Not finding out the rules until breaking the rules was ridiculous.

You are right @wigglerose the Admin (and actually most of the members of the group0 had no sense of humour whatsoever it had to be deadly serious all the time.

@bridgetreilly

Just follow the rules or leave. No big deal.

With that sort of po-faced, Head Girl attitude you should probably start your own group.

I was once on a large FB group which was a splinter group from a large parenting forum that used to be very popular.

Said FB group had a huge team of admins that were very bolshy and made no secret of the fact that they had another, smaller, private group for admin and for their favoured group members that were in their clique.

However, they tried to make it a rule that no other members could have any private, smaller groups even though they had one themselves! I got added to a small group started by another group member and I think there were about 15 of us on there, and I got deleted and banned from the original group.

It's always one rule for admin and one rule for everyone else on that kind of thing, and admin are almost always keyboard warriors on FB groups!

I got asked to be a mod on a fb group today! I declined, it’s a massive group and I absolutely cannot be bothered with that kind of responsibility.

It's always one rule for admin and one rule for everyone else on that kind of thing, and admin are almost always keyboard warriors on FB groups!
That mirrors my experience in some groups. I can only assume they don't have much influence elsewhere in life.

DH is admin for our local village community group (for sharing local information) and I really wish he wasn't. The group has a list of rules (no advertising, no giveaways are the main ones that get broken) and he gets very irate when people ignore them, I have told him just to leave and let other people get on with it, but he won't have it. I do tease him about going mad with power (probably because I'm in charge of everything at home!).
To be fair, there are other groups for advertising and selling/giveaways and the actual important stuff would get lost if it was allowed in there, so he is right, but it gets really annoying listening to him moan about it. He doesn't usually have a go at people/tell them off though and he's generally polite when challenged about it (he has to be, as he's on the Parish Council). He just deletes things and then puts them on post approval if they are 'repeat offenders'.

I was once banned from a group relating to my profession.
Admin edited a post (didn't remove it, edited it) to say above their post that this was a silly question and that the person who posted it needs to learn how to use Google for basic questions because the answer was so obviously X. The answer was actually not X - I commented with a link to the answer, which was not X. I didn't say anything in my comment other than the link to the answer.
Admin banned me from the group and sent me a follow-up message to tell me to "learn my place" and "not question admins who spend considerable time researching to provide help and guidance". Unknown to her, we were working for the same firm and I was more senior than her.

Haha - brilliant ‘Learn your place’ indeed.

I dont post on FB but I d post on another forum for older people.

There is a "jokes and funnies" section. However someone had posted 8 threads in general chat, each of which comprised a stale old cartoon of the kind that my gran would have fallen out of her cradle laughing at. So you had to wade through random rubbish to get to an interesting thread. When I remarked that these stale old jokes were in the wrong category the poster did a drama queen flounce. Then the forum snitch made sure that everyone knew how "nasty" I had been to object to jokes in the wrong category.

You would expect older people to be more mature but they are worse than teenagers. The atmosphere on some forums can be toxic. with wonderful examples of witch hunts, trolling, etc.

They are providing some wonderful material for a colleague of mine who is doing her doctorate on cyber bullying.

I admin a Facebook group where one of our rules is to only pay for items purchased in the group using PayPal, goods and services.

Easy enough you’d think?

No. The number of times I get messages from someone who has lost £4 to Sandra because Sandra never sent the items and they paid using bank transfer is ridiculous.

You would be surprised at how long being admin for a group can take.

I got told off on a local freebies group.
I was giving something away and one person had commented wanting it so I said something in reply like ‘brilliant, pop me a message and we can arrange collection’. Then an admin came along and told me off because apparently you have to simply say ‘yours’ and anything else is not acceptable.

I admin some Facebook (political) groups. Facebook are very strict in what they allow. If transgressions (in Facebook’s opinion) occur repeatedly they can and do on occasion shut groups down.
That having been said there are different groups, some will allow all sorts, others (which I much prefer) have standards which protect participants. Groups have rules, if you’re not prepared to abide by them then those groups aren’t for you.

It’s not the same thing, but on the Mums Fb group for my town every single post has to be approved by an admin, but they only seem to bother every couple of days at completely random times, so almost every single time somebody posts something that is time sensitive (trying to find balloons for a birthday the next day for example) by the time an admin has got round to approving the post, the time the person needed help by has been and gone! Bloody annoying.

@Babbly

I was once banned from a group relating to my profession. Admin edited a post (didn't remove it, edited it) to say above their post that this was a silly question and that the person who posted it needs to learn how to use Google for basic questions because the answer was so obviously X. The answer was actually not X - I commented with a link to the answer, which was not X. I didn't say anything in my comment other than the link to the answer. Admin banned me from the group and sent me a follow-up message to tell me to "learn my place" and "not question admins who spend considerable time researching to provide help and guidance". Unknown to her, we were working for the same firm and I was more senior than her.

Oh. My. God 😱😱😱

@Thesearmsofmine

I got told off on a local freebies group. I was giving something away and one person had commented wanting it so I said something in reply like ‘brilliant, pop me a message and we can arrange collection’. Then an admin came along and told me off because apparently you have to simply say ‘yours’ and anything else is not acceptable.

You were meant to just write ‘yours’ for continuity sake and perhaps to make the forum look tidy? I mean honestly individuality is dead isn’t it. Fucks sake.