Hi all,
Our wedding was postponed due to Covid, meaning we sent our original save the dates over a year ago - to those on our day list only.
In the time since then, my mum's been going through a difficult time and I've been very disappointed in how some of my aunts/uncles have acted. For example, my uncles are tradesmen, but have refused to help fix some maintenance bits mum needed doing but couldn't afford (e.g. fixing a broken tap), saying my mum should pay for it herself. She was on universal credit at the time.
My mum's also having to sell the family home for financial reasons, and my aunt/uncle were telling her to do equity release rather than downsize. I felt downsizing was the better option, but my aunt/uncle told my mum she shouldn't be discussing it with me as I'm only interested in my inheritance(!) Absolute rubbish - and I was quite insulted they would think that.
To top it off, one of my uncles text my mum (out of the blue) saying 'I bet your ex can't wait until you've sold the house and he can finally stop paying into the mortgage'. When my mum showed me the text, I sent my uncle a message saying it was bullying and that as her brother he should be being supportive given the difficult time she's going through. He replied saying I'd better stop right there as he didn't like my tone. I wasn't looking for an argument so just didn't reply.
Back to the wedding - I've sent these relatives save the dates (and when we postponed, let them know the new date), but I don't really want them at the wedding anymore, especially as we're only having about 40 people during the day. AIBU to send them evening-only invites given they've had save the dates? It does make me feel sad as I've had good relationships with these relatives most of my life but right now I can't forgive them for how they've acted over the last 6-9 months.
Keen to hear others' perspectives on the situation....
Thank you!