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Husband won’t wear his wedding ring

152 replies

PleaseSendNoodles · 15/05/2021 16:10

I am aware this is not a big deal. My DH hardly ever wears his wedding ring. It’s just lobbed in a drawer. He says it’s uncomfortable and he’s ‘not a jewellery person’.

We bought one of those silicone ones as a compromise. It’s more practical for his kind of work and the gym etc... but he doesn’t wear that very often either.

I have zero concerns about him trying to convince other women he’s single.... it just irks me. AIBU?

OP posts:
Lemmen · 15/05/2021 18:18

We took them off at the start of covid and haven't put them back on. At first it was all the hand sanitiser and washing stuff, plus you can get germs caught under them, but now we're just too used to it. Not 100% sure where they are actually.

AlmostSummer21 · 15/05/2021 18:18

@DinosaurDiana

My DH lost his so went without until he was chatted up by a man. Then he went and bought another one.
🤣🤣
PinkiOcelot · 15/05/2021 18:19

DH hasn’t even got a wedding ring. He didn’t want one. I’m not in the least bit bothered. I go through stages of not wearing mine for months then wearing it again.
With all the hand washing and hand sanitiser, my fingers get itchy and red so I don’t wear them.

Inthemuckheap · 15/05/2021 18:30

I never wear mine - still happily married after 30 years. Don't need a bit of metal round my finger. My DH wears his. It's called choice.

MerlinsSaggyLeftTit · 15/05/2021 18:47

If it's not a new thing, I wouldn't worry about it. My DDad never had one so I didn't mind if DH wanted to wear one or not as he isn't a jewellery person.

Mandsy100 · 15/05/2021 18:54

Op I don't wear mine. It's difficult taking it off every time I'm cleaning and I've misplaced it often.

Sarahlou252 · 15/05/2021 19:00

I've been married for years, fully committed and love dh very much, but due to the fact rings flare up my eczema on my hands within 10 minutes of putting them on, I have not worn a wedding ring for years and years. Nobody has ever questioned it.

Hankunamatata · 15/05/2021 19:04

My dad never wore his as in his manual job he saw a bloke get his finger ripped off whole working. Dh doesnt wear his for same reason - saw friend nearly have his finger amputated when his wedding ring got caught while they were working.

Allthereindeersaregirls · 15/05/2021 19:06

I don't wear mine. I hate hate hate rings. I'm not big on other jewelry either. I did try, but used pregnancy as an excuse to take it off and 6years later have never put it back on. We bought me a cheap wedding ring as I knew this would be the case, it was literally for the ceremony.

DH sometimes wears his, I don't care either way.

katy1213 · 15/05/2021 19:08

Why did you give him a ring if you know he doesn't like them?

PreferToSitInTheShade · 15/05/2021 19:09

I haven't worn mine since I got married 30 years ago. I find rings irritating and the urge to remove it is constant - I have tried once or twice if going somewhere special. I just can't tolerate rings

cakecakecheese · 15/05/2021 19:25

My cousin's husband never wore a ring it's just not his thing. Maybe get him a personalised keyring? You can get one with a little calendar of your wedding date. That way he has got something that you chose for him that he'll have with him.

GameSetMatch · 15/05/2021 19:31

I hate wearing my wedding ring, I too am not a jewellery person and find it uncomfortable so I see your husbands point of view. Try to not worry it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you!

VettiyaIruken · 15/05/2021 19:31

I hate jewellery. I never wear my ring because it annoys the crap out of me. My husband never takes his off.
It's just individual preference and doesn't have deeper meaning in and of itself

BigcatLittlecat · 15/05/2021 19:34

My DH wore his ring the day we got married and never has since! He doesn't like the feel and he wouldn't be able to wear it to work! He's still married and we are committed to each other!
So I wear his, it's a bit big but I wear it first, then my engagement and then my wedding ring! Looks good! I started wearing it when I was going through a difficult time at work and it brought me great comfort! When our ship comes in we will turn it into an eternity ring for me! I've been waiting for 10 years now!

Aquamarine1029 · 15/05/2021 19:36

I know loads of people, men and woman, who don't wear wedding rings. If you don't like wearing rings, you just don't, and no amount of trying to get used to them is going to change it.

Lemonandlime123 · 15/05/2021 19:40

I think my husband has worn his twice since we got married and now it lives on a cactus plant in our room 🤣

Floralnomad · 15/05/2021 19:41

We’ve been married 32 years in June and neither of us wear our rings . Dh stopped wearing his after about 2 months and I stopped about 21 yrs ago when my contact dermatitis got too bad to put up with it . Can’t see any problem with it .

Ihaventgottimeforthis · 15/05/2021 19:42

I saw some finger degloving injuries and as I deal with a lot of ropes & gates & tools at work I never wear mine.
I still like owning them though as a symbol.

ShamrockHillz · 15/05/2021 19:45

Dh wears his wedding ring but I don’t wear my wedding or engagement rings anymore. They irritate me massively, especially now with COVID when I’m washing my hands about 100 times a day. I just don’t like having them on. I wear them on a chain around my neck though, so I suppose that counts for something 😂

Pebbledashery · 15/05/2021 19:49

My Dad was a carpenter and never ever wore his wedding ring. Its still in the bureau drawer at my parents house! He was married to my mum for 50 years and loved her till the very end. It's no reflection of anything at all. It's up to him if he wants to wear it. It's his ring.

thesugarbumfairy · 15/05/2021 19:50

Mine has never worn his. He managed about a week but he just hated it. Its no big deal.
I haven't worn my rings after I had them cut off a couple of years ago for an MRI. We are still married.

MadMadMadamMim · 15/05/2021 19:53

DH has never worn a wedding ring. We never bothered buy him one. He worked on building sites, never wore jewellery and it never occurred to either of us that he might want one.

My Dad never had one either and he and my DM have been married over 60 years and are still going. I don't know if it was a 'thing' in their day.

saraclara · 15/05/2021 19:55

My DH never had one. He knew he'd find one uncomfortable, and as he had a few very mild sensory quirks, I knew this wasn't something he'd get used to. No problem. Money saved!

Ginsmything · 15/05/2021 19:57

My OH never had a wedding ring as he’s not a jewellery person, only wears a watch. Doesn’t bother me at all 🤷🏻‍♀️

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