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AIBU?

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Husband won’t wear his wedding ring

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PleaseSendNoodles · 15/05/2021 16:10

I am aware this is not a big deal. My DH hardly ever wears his wedding ring. It’s just lobbed in a drawer. He says it’s uncomfortable and he’s ‘not a jewellery person’.

We bought one of those silicone ones as a compromise. It’s more practical for his kind of work and the gym etc... but he doesn’t wear that very often either.

I have zero concerns about him trying to convince other women he’s single.... it just irks me. AIBU?

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Wafflewombat · 15/05/2021 16:30

My DH doesn't even have one.

SimonJT · 15/05/2021 16:30

I don’t wear mine, I have to take it off for rugby, showering etc, so its easier not to wear it on a regular basis. He just wore his for the ceremony, in hindsight we shouldn’t have even bothered with a ring for him, its now an expensive ornament.

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PleaseSendNoodles · 15/05/2021 16:30

Thanks everyone! I was a bit scared to post but these are great thoughtful replies! Yeah, I’m definitely going to let it go - especially as I trust him entirely and don’t doubt his devotion. Just watched one too many romcoms, I think!

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thebear1 · 15/05/2021 16:31

I wear mine, dh hardly ever wears his, It doesn't bother me.

cupsofcoffee · 15/05/2021 16:31

My dad never wore a wedding ring - I don't even think he has one, actually. My parents have been happily married for nearly 40 years.

It's just a piece of metal. It doesn't mean anything, really.

mynameiscalypso · 15/05/2021 16:31

DH didn't want one and knew he'd never wear it so it seemed like a waste of money so he's never had one. I used to wear mine quite often until I got towards the end of pregnancy and they got a bit tight. DS is 21 months and I don't actually know where my rings are anymore. I presume I put them somewhere safe...

Briarshollow · 15/05/2021 16:31

Me and my husband don’t have wedding rings at all. I don’t even wear my engagement ring, though I do love it. Unless they rock a certain alternative look, I kind of hate men in rings anyway. I can’t imagine a silicone one is that nice to wear or look at either.

Mumoftwoinprimary · 15/05/2021 16:32

My FIL worked with heavy machinery. One day his hand got trapped in some horrific way but through a random piece of luck his wedding ring was crushed but the second it took to destroy the ring was enough for his colleague to stop the machinery and he walked away with no injury but a destroyed ring.

How did he celebrate the saving of his hand through wearing a wedding ring???? He took over 10 years to get round to getting a new ring!

Shezlon · 15/05/2021 16:33

My DH doesn't wear one either and honestly it does make me a bit sad. It's more that he's never even bothered to see if he could get used to it, despite knowing I would have really appreciated it. We've been together happily for 20+ years, it's not a major thing but yeah, I know how you feel. Nothing to do with trusting him or not.

crankysaurus · 15/05/2021 16:34

I haven't worn mine for about five years, it's just uncomfortable and I'm not a jewellery person either. Happily married for two decades. I think dh wears his but I really don't pay attention.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 15/05/2021 16:34

Wai. Do people take jewelry like that off for showering? 🙈 My ring went on decade ago and hasn't been off. Same for necklaces and other rings. Only thing I take off are earrings

Chloemol · 15/05/2021 16:38

His choice, but then I wouldn’t wear mine either

Llamadramasheepface · 15/05/2021 16:39

DH dosnt even have a wedding ring. We bought one for £2.99 on Amazon to exchange during the ceremony which he keeps on his key ring. He has never worn jewellery so I don't expect him to start now.

oneglassandpuzzled · 15/05/2021 16:40

None of the men in my family wear wedding rings. Most of them never wear jewellery of any kind.

bruffin · 15/05/2021 16:40

I dont wear mine since i has PE in pregnancy and DH is an engineer and cant wear at work
Weve been married nearly 30 years

DinosaurDiana · 15/05/2021 16:42

My DH lost his so went without until he was chatted up by a man. Then he went and bought another one.

gamerchick · 15/05/2021 16:43

I don't wear mine either. Husband likes his though.

It doesn't mean anything.

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PleaseSendNoodles · 15/05/2021 16:43

@DinosaurDiana

My DH lost his so went without until he was chatted up by a man. Then he went and bought another one.

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GCAcademic · 15/05/2021 16:43

DH hates wearing a ring, so doesn’t. I haven’t bothered wearing mine since the pandemic started because (a) I’m nearly always at home and (b) all the hand sanitising when I do go out.

Mumof3girlsandaboy · 15/05/2021 16:44

My husband doesn’t wear one either and I wear mine occasionally

fruitloop2021 · 15/05/2021 16:44

Get him a top with your face all over it. Make him wear it out.

soberfabulous · 15/05/2021 16:45

I only wear my engagement ring and wedding ring when I leave the house. I see them as accessories. I really hate wearing rings and have never worn them. My husband rarely wears his wedding ring either.

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PleaseSendNoodles · 15/05/2021 16:45

@fruitloop2021

Get him a top with your face all over it. Make him wear it out.

Haha NOBODY, me included, wants this

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Sunnidayz · 15/05/2021 16:47

My dad only wears his wedding ring only on the rare occasion he goes out for a family meal and he's been married to my mum for 45 years!

My own DH has a metal allergy and his wedding ring makes his skin go all scabby. He might get a hypoallergenic one at some point but who knows if he'd actually wear it!

Men can wear a wedding ring 24/7 and still cheat.

Level75 · 15/05/2021 16:47

I haven't worn mine for a few years. I go through phases of liking to wear it and not being fussed. It's currently chucked in a drawer. DH wears his all the time. It really doesn't mean anything.

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