How do others cope with a snoring partner?

[shortbreadinthehighlands]

I’m really struggling with being up for hours in the middle of the night

Ear plugs for a bit but honestly separate rooms a lot of the time at the moment as it got so bad!!

I know I want separate rooms but he gets upset when I mention it. Ear plugs possibly but worried about not being able to hear dc. What a bloody mess

Separate rooms until it gets resolved. You can't be expected to be up for hours in the night.

Ear plugs. Separate rooms would be wonderful but our spare room is an office and doesn't have a bed in it.

I can’t see it being resolved, to be honest! Arghh.

These - you'll need to figure out how to put them in correctly but they've been a life saver for me. I left my snoring ex a few years back and now they're handy for blocking the sound of nocturnal teens. You can re-use them for a week or so.

Fitting instructions available on YouTube

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Him getting upset doesn't help you to sleep though does it? Tell him to not be a big baby and sleep in another room if you can.

A fan for back ground noise, and top and tail if necessary!

Is he willing to lose weight or see a doctor?

The problem with ear plugs is if baby wakes up and I don’t hear that then that’s a worry. Otherwise definitely.

Separate rooms are the best thing ever.
You can still start off in the same room and have a cuddle/sex/whatever, but then one of you goes off.

Why would he be upset that you want to be able to sleep? You’re both unconscious, it’s not a reflection on your relationship.

He needs to seek medical advice. If he refuses, then separate bedrooms and don't listen to the upset. Its his doing.

He doesn't get to cause you lack of sleep there is a reason its used as a torture method and expect you to tolerate it so as not to upset him. If he wants you to sleep next to him, he makes changes.

He can’t expect you to just put up with it & be sleep deprived. Has he been to the doctor about his snoring? Is there a specific reason eg overweight? If he doesn’t want you to have separate rooms then he has to do something proactive to remedy the problem.

@shortbreadinthehighlands

I know I want separate rooms but he gets upset when I mention it. Ear plugs possibly but worried about not being able to hear dc. What a bloody mess

To be blunt, it's tough shit. He's not the one lay awake during the night because of snoring, you are. If you want separate rooms so you can have a good night's sleep then he needs to suck that up as the person keeping you awake!

My husband snores and yes, separate rooms is what we do now. It's actually improved our relationship because I would have suffocated him in his sleep by now otherwise!

I'm on of those too that even if it wasn't really loud right in my face i.e had a fan on and was top tailing, if I could hear it even slightly I would focus on it and still be unable to sleep.

I've been sleeping on the sofa for the last few years. Its either that or I kill him

Separate rooms. He doesn't get to be upset about it, he's keeping you awake for hours at night.

Oh snoring is the worst isn't it?! I use ear plugs but if I'm honest they don't block everything out, it kind of just dulls the sound if that makes sense? If he's particularly bad I'll go downstairs and sleep on the sofa (we don't have a spare room otherwise I'd be in there).

OP, if it's so bad he should seek medical help. You as a partner can really help the doctor with the diagnosis. You can listen if he snores in every position or just on his back, does he often stop breathing etc.
My DH told me I can snore loudly sometimes. I went to the GP, it was due to my hay fever. GP changed my medication and the snoring stopped.

My husband snores occasionally and it was driving me crazy. I bought an essential oils diffuser for the bedroom and use a tea tree and lavender oil blend and it’s honestly been amazing! It was the best £20 I’ve spent on Amazon!

You need these OP! I reached breaking point last week and made DP use them. I was close to tears, between his snoring and ds waking I had about an hours sleep.

The difference these made to DP's snoring is actually rediculous. I slept a full night the day the arrived for the first time in nearly 10 years.

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@MoreAloneTime

Is he willing to lose weight or see a doctor?

Weight loss is a myth, both my DP and my dad are healthy weight (dad is near underweight if anything) and they are the worst snorers I have ever encountered!

We sleep in separate rooms most of the time now as otherwise I want to strangle him. He also does this annoying mega yawn/snore at various points in the night I value my sleep way too much to be concerned about traditional views that we should be sleeping in the same bed!

Separate rooms is the only thing that worked. Now we both get good sleep and can still have a cuddle or chat before bed and in the mornings!! It's fine. It's harmonious. Your partner will realise with the constant upheaval every night (don't suffer in silence - move! Take pillow etc) that it's either that or the end of your relationship - the lack of sleep will push you to breaking point. Earplugs won't block it out.