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Is there something you want but just can’t bear to buy?

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Opal93 · 09/05/2021 10:54

I’ve posted before about how I am a self confessed shopping addict. I’ve put myself on a semi ban, and I’m allowed to buy necessities for myself or replace makeup items that have ran out but I am not to buy things just because I want them. I have saved almost £1000 in a month, which is frightening! The big “f**k it” purchases (maybe £300) combined with impulsively buying makeup, a new top here and there, chocolate, extra luxuries in grocery shop REALLY mounted up. So last night (I had been drinking) I ALMOST fell into the trap and bought myself a very expensive pair of trainers. I didn’t give in and I still haven’t. The guilt of spoiling how well I’ve done and how much I’ve saved would stop me even enjoying them. I’ll just stick to admiring them from afar. Are there any items you lust after, and technically could afford, but just can’t justify buying?

OP posts:

Am I being unreasonable?

301 votes. Final results.

You are being unreasonable
You are NOT being unreasonable
KikiniBamalam · 09/05/2021 12:37

Still swithering...............

How wonderful!
Tupperwarelid · 09/05/2021 12:38

I really want to start horse riding again. I've got a new job and am now earning enough money to start but it's so expensive for an hour and I don't have any of the kit anymore so would need to get that as well. Then I just know I would want to go twice a week or on longer hacks during the summer and the costs would just escalate!

percheron67 · 09/05/2021 12:46

I am with Tottie. A Chanel bag it is.

ohnoisaid2much · 09/05/2021 12:48

There are things that I hesitate to buy but also things I hesitate to have because it would cost too much right now. Not to mention upgrades Blush

Buy: a car (especially as I can't drive)

Have: a husband and kids perhaps even a pet (very expensive I can just about afford me)

Upgrades: my home, washing machine, stove top, bathroom, decor and hobbies

linerforlife · 09/05/2021 12:52

@Fastforwardtospring Keep an eye on TK Maxx for one at usually over 50% off! Never pay full price for one!

CoRhona · 09/05/2021 12:54

A Peloton bike and a fully decked out garden room to do it in.

Really not much to ask...

RedactedTaeFeck · 09/05/2021 12:56

I have at times in my life made things much more difficult for myself in order not to spend sometimes a moderate outlay. Stupid stuff like a few extra bottles when I could no longer bf DS1, would have made all the difference especially as we were both working full time so the extra stress spent trying to get them all sterilised and ready at a specific point in the day was wearing. We could have afforded more but it seemed a waste.

I was brought up in poverty so I do have a skewed thinking about money. I will also spend £££ on things for my DC but have holes in my socks.

OP it sounds like you have done really well but don't fall into the opposite trap. I'd set aside half from your savings this month and half next month and treat yourself to them responsibly. Going forward i'd have a "fuckit fund" where you save a certain amount and it's for those days when you just want to say fuck it and treat yourself, that should be without guilt.

KickBishopBrennanUpTheArse · 09/05/2021 12:58

A Philips lumea.

It's such a lot of money to spend when it might not work.

SmudgeButt · 09/05/2021 12:59

I was wanting very badly to buy a couple of cds but couldn't justify the expense to myself as it would have been a whole £26 from amazon. And then our manager at work said because we weren't going to have a Christmas party due to covid we could ask for anything up to £25 to be ordered for us. I was a CF and asked for the 2 cds but said I'd pay the extra £. Didn't need to in the end and it's the best Christmas present I got!

Last week I went waaaaaaay overboard and spent £15 on seeds for the garden. Last of the big time spenders!!!

(fyi - I'm so off trend I've never done name brands and don't understand some people's obsession with shoes and handbags. On the other hand good chocolate i do understand)

greeneyedlulu · 09/05/2021 13:01


I haven’t bought any toiletries since the pandemic started. Have been using the embarrassing large stockpile we had. Must have saved a fortune. Determined not to buy anymore until everything is used up.

I've done the same and actually cleared out really old stuff I had! Just got a new body lotion the other day because I had finally run out!!

Expensive face creams are mine but I'm very chuffed with myself that I got 2 L'Oréal 35+ moisturisers for 10 quid in Morrisons the other day, spotted whilst queuing up to pay but I've always wanted to get the more expensive ones to see if they are actually worth it but can't justify it.
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RedactedTaeFeck · 09/05/2021 13:03

Le Creuset large cast iron casserole, actually I might have bought one but can’t decide on the colour!

I have one from procook in a beautiful turquoise colour. It's great, I have the wide shallow one as it fits in better in my oven and still leaves room to have something else on another shelf.

Nancylovesthecock · 09/05/2021 13:06

Boring but, a stand alone freezer. £350 they want and I have the money, it would also create loads of storage space as currently have 2 under counter freezers, one under the stairs, the other in the living room. But we have only just started to build a savings pot and I can't bear spending all that in one fell swoop 😔

squashyhat · 09/05/2021 13:07

A fur coat

andtheweedonkey · 09/05/2021 13:11



I'm pretty sure when they first started doing them, they were about £300. Shock

I will share your pain Grin
greeneyedlulu · 09/05/2021 13:11

Still swithering...............

I want one of these now 🙈
Rhannion · 09/05/2021 13:11



That’s a beautiful sewing box.
sunnysidegold · 09/05/2021 13:13

I would quite like a Dyson airwrap. But hearing someone say it's a bit crap on fine hair is now making that dream purchase diminish Smile.

I'd love to have my teeth whitened and straightened.

I'd love my bedroom redecorated.

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 09/05/2021 13:14

A) an iPad. Because I know that after about 3 weeks the novelty will wear off and I will realise I hardly use a tablet and it definitely wasn't worth me dropping hundred on.
B) an adult sized micro scooter. I would have a load of fun scooting with DS for about a week then it would gather dust in the garage
C) really expensive amarone della valpolicella wine. I once tried some that was over a hundred quid a bottle (at a tasting thing) and it just tasted like christmas had come early Grin. I know I would just get pissed on one bottle and regret spending so much on it the next morning.

andtheweedonkey · 09/05/2021 13:17

[quote ReginaaPhalange]@bridgetreilly I agree with the kenwood kmix (mine is striped too! Think it's the firecracker).

Airwrap - if you have fine hair, it's not worth it! I sent mine back.

iPhone 12 in purple. I upgraded from my XR and the only visible difference is the selfie camera has portrait mode. Other than that, save the money and buy a purple case [/quote]
Oh, don't!

I really really want need a purple phone. Mine is an old clamshell samsung circa 2008 Grin
Maybe I should just paint it purple...I mean, what could possibly go wrong with that half-baked plan?

The DMC collectors boxes are v pretty, but...when you've as many random skeins of thread as I have, and you'd need to "file" them away, they'd need to be a little more a big chest of drawers chester draws Grin

lidoshuffle · 09/05/2021 13:18

I put £50 a month into a "treat" account, and it adds up over the months.

I am not allowed to spend it on anything sensible - MOT etc. I must blow it on things I'd feel were too extravagant to use 'ordinary' money for. This treat stash is my pot of money for guiltless luxuries.

Rhannion · 09/05/2021 13:23


I'm terrible at spending money on what I consider to be expensive non-essentials, my OH used to say There's plenty on the bank and we can't take it with us! My attitude I think comes from having very frugal parents, we never wanted for anything but there were few frills.
Last year, just before covid my OH died very suddenly and now I'm in the position of saying What do I do with it all now, it's not fun going places alone!

Sorry for the loss of your partner.
MagicSummer · 09/05/2021 13:23

A Mulberry Bayswater Handbag.

Hankunamatata · 09/05/2021 13:24

Kitchenaid appliances.

Mrsmadevans · 09/05/2021 13:24

Asprey Daisy London earrings , l can afford them but l just know l will not relish spending 23k on them Grin

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