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How do you spend your evenings?

112 replies

Rainydays55 · 06/05/2021 17:41

Just interested how everyone spends their evenings after work, do you do hobbies, If so what!? With being in lockdown for so long it’s tricky getting back into a normal evening routine!?

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IncorrigibleTitmouse · 06/05/2021 21:24

Finish work by 7, cook dinner, clean up and either watch something on Netflix/Prime/Hulu (or any of our other eleventy billion streaming services...) or school work because I’m studying for my master’s. Take the dog out, shower then bed around midnight.

In the before times I’d also include at least one weeknight dinner out with friends and DH and I always have a dinner out at the weekend.

Laggartha · 06/05/2021 21:25

So many of us just messing about on screens waiting to go to bed. Very thought-provoking!

ZenNudist · 06/05/2021 21:29

Do you mean after the cooking and cleaning up, after dc activities, after sorting out dc homework and music practice, after getting dc into bed and reading with them? By which time its 9pm. I catch up on work, in the evening when DH sorts the dc out. Sometimes swim. Mainly mumsnet and watch mind numbing films on the iPad in bed, or call a friend or my mum or dsis. Theres not much free time.

Justcashnosweets · 06/05/2021 21:31

If I'm not working a late shift,
Tidy up
Stress about dinner
Walk the dog
Eventually cook dinner
Wash up if DP is working
Watch telly with DD
Take her up to bed
Mess about on phone sending memes and chatting to friends on messenger
Get things ready for work if I'm working an early shift the next day
Read for a bit.

BraveBraveMouse · 06/05/2021 21:35

These types of threads always make me amazed at how much energy other people have. I just find work so mentally draining that I have had little energy for anything else in the evenin, even pre DC.

Musmerian · 06/05/2021 21:37

@Chickenlickeninthepot

Usual evening goes: Take bra off Make & eat dinner whilst bouncing baby Watch one episode of a series Say I'm going to bed then piss around on my phone and watching the news until it's nearly 11pm Regret my choices Go to bed
This sounds very familiar!
MrsElf · 06/05/2021 21:38

Very relieved I am not alone in the dullness!
Dogs
Dinner
Admin/cleaning/gardening
Flop with cup of tea and occasionally mending/knitting/cross stitch in front of TV/mumsnet/book about 1hr, usually while promising dogs their last walk will be “in just a minute”
OR Maybe bath/hair wash
Take dogs for a last airing
Bed
Exercise class once a week
Maybe monthly dinner with family or friends, but then everything else gets squeezed.
(No DC at home, work 7 days a week, get home anytime from 4-10)

HarrisMcCoo · 06/05/2021 21:43

Shower, read and fanny about on MN, eat supper. I never do any housework in evenings. It's my time to relax.

I watch TV occasionally.

Herecomesspring1 · 06/05/2021 21:44

Child’s dinner at 5pm and/or homework and after school activities until 6.30pm-ish. dinner for myself and husband around 7pm, bath then bed for child at 8pm, sort lunches out, flop into bed to watch TV or read or audiobook or just fanny around on the Internet, asleep by 10pm!

LeonoraFlorence · 06/05/2021 21:54

During the week it’s usually ferrying DDs around to various activities, have dinner together, bath/shower DDs, stories and then bed. By which time I am exhausted (though DH does help if he’s not still working) and normally DH does a quick tidy while I shower then I feed littlest DD whilst he showers and we go to bed. Sometimes we will stay downstairs and watch Netflix but these days it seems I don’t even have the energy!
At the weekends thankfully we have much more chilled evenings.

shivawn · 06/05/2021 22:05

I don't really have evenings after work, I work 13 hour shifts 3 days a week so don't get home from work till late, might have a quit bite to eat and watch an hour of TV before bed. I have 4 full days to do whatever I want though.

littlepieces · 06/05/2021 22:06

Good q... before all this happened I used to be out doing stuff 4-5 nights a week. Now things are opening up again I have no idea what to do!
At the moment a mix of:
Yoga
Going for a bike ride or run
Watching Line of Duty (only on season 4)
Reading
Learning French
Generally catching up with DP and maybe talking to family/friends on the phone.

Christmasfairy2020 · 06/05/2021 22:06

Thursdays swimming 5 til 530 for dd aged 11. Then rest of week get kids to bed. bath tv and mumsnet

coronafiona · 06/05/2021 22:08

Eat
Run, walk with a friend or take children to activity
TV
Bed

I don't know what else I used to do!

warmeduppizza · 06/05/2021 22:08

Three nights of the week I have meetings until 10.30, home past 11.00. Two nights I do other work until about 11.00. Two nights I faff about on my phone and drink wine.

MaidEdithofAragon · 06/05/2021 22:12

Online personal training, then dinner. Tidy up, emails and work catch up and prep (teacher), bath, cup of tea, half an hour's TV, quick dog walk, waste time on phone, ring my mum, message friends, tidy kitchen, go to bed about 11.

sherrystrull · 06/05/2021 22:19

This has been an eye opener. Every evening I don't relax, I'm always doing school work. I realise many other jobs entail evening work but reading this has made me see that many jobs don't entail spending each evening with a laptop.

YouJustDoYou · 06/05/2021 22:25

an hour of chores or so, a half.hour down time crochet, reading in bed for a half hour, asleep by 10.30pm.

wanderedlonelyasacloud · 06/05/2021 22:33

Sometimes I just watch tv all night while scrolling mindlessly on my phone

Other times I:
Go and play tennis
Go out for tea with friends or with DH
Read
Do embroidery
Have a bath
Listen to an audiobook
Sit in the garden with wine
Play a game on the switch

Sometimes I have an evening where I do a bit of grooming such as sorting eyebrows etc

Sometimes we don't do much other than have sex in the middle of the evening tbh (no kids yet)

I'm thinking of starting an online course, previously I was worried I didnt have enough time but I absolutely do and it would be much more productive than most of my evenings where I just watch tv

Ponchek2 · 06/05/2021 22:34

Talking to men

tedsletterofthelaw · 06/05/2021 22:36

Gym
Make dinner
Watch TV
Scroll on my phone
Have a bath
Play computer games

Any number of those things.

Blossomplease6 · 06/05/2021 22:51

The monotony...Sad
Home from work/ school, dinner ect
Dc in bed by 8ish
Finish doing bits like dishwasher, washing
Have bath, do skin care if I can be bothered
Sit down around 9pm watch tv for an hour or 2
Go to bed piss about on phone
Go to sleep too late.
Repeat. Every. Single. Night.
(Single parent)

MsAwesomeDragon · 06/05/2021 22:55

At the minute, working.

After May half term I'm hoping to get some more evenings back. At that point I think a lot of my evening will be spent with my new puppy!!
I also do
Brownies
Crafts (crochet, diamond painting, soap making, whatever catches my eye tbh)
Go for a walk
Watch TV

toconclude · 06/05/2021 23:05

@Shoxfordian

I’m doing an online philosophy course every Thursday from 6 to 8

Other evenings, dh and I cook, we watch tv, play a game sometimes, online book clubs

Sounds interesting. Who's providing the course, if you don't mind me asking? I'd like to do something similar.
Pinkyavocado · 06/05/2021 23:10

The kids do activities 2 nights a week. We see my mum one night a week. Apart from that it’s tea and trash tv. In the summer we spend more time outside in the garden.