To let guy come over to see me

[Redruby2020]

Hi all, okay I have been in contact with a guy I met through online dating for around 5/6 weeks now, we have since swapped numbers because of how we got on etc. I have not managed to meet him yet due to child care restrictions etc, and when I had free time I had other stuff to do. I had lots of occasions whereby I could have met hun out somewhere with my DS, but put it off because I thought it wasn't right, and I don't expect any guy to be jumping for joy but also he wanted to see me, so was understanding that I might have to eventually do this with my DS in tow.
I won't invite him in the house yet because I don't think it's right, but the other option was to sit outside in his car for a bit, but then although it amounts to sitting in the back garden with him(if I had one) 😆 I felt bad to sit out the front with him, and it wouldn't be for long and I would have to keep coming in to check on DS once he goes to bed.
I think I have made choices based on what others think, but also because I am a worrier for obvious reasons, because I have a child etc.
I think god what if I then give him my post code and he comes and then he's got it and it becomes a problem. Or I get in the car and he drives away etc, I know I'm probably getting carried away but it's all relevant. If it had been last year I was living with family then I would of done bed time and gone for a few hours with him etc.
So not sure what to do now.
Thankyou for reading this far.

[Rejoiningperson]

I sympathise as I’ve been in your position, with a child and no babysitters. However unless you are in a position to meet a man outside in a public place, with your child being safely looked after by someone you trust, you just can’t pursue a relationship with someone in the real world. I know it sucks. But that’s the way it is.

Otherwise you will, as you are now, be tempted to put all kinds of instinctive health and safety concerns for you and your child at the back burner. It is also being quite naive to be pursuing an online relationship with the promise or hope given to a man that it will be possible to meet offline. You are being more vulnerable by making it so obvious that you are alone and have little or no support.

So you have choices:

• be more savvy, get trusted regular childminding, set your safety ground rules and pursue relationships.
  
• be clear with men that it’s online only and don’t give anything away about your vulnerability, talk about your child or your address.

[Redruby2020]

@scotsllb Thanks I couldn't double tag, I think the other poster was just replying to what I had written originally. And the update was as you have read and rightly said, no I did not leave child unattended.

Also I don't know why the poster, sorry can't come out of message box now to see name to tag, said that they didn't know why I was pursuing things online?!? And that I must tell the men it is strictly online and I can't have a relationship outside of the website? Why not lol, such a ridiculous thing to say. If the answer was based on my original post yes I could just about agree as it did come across badly, but based on anything else no sorry I don't agree. I could have met up with the guy I have met before, today as I am free at the moment, but I have opted for a lie down and bloody housework. It surprises me the replies on here, when you think how many with kids are in relationships or remarried etc, well it all started somewhere, okay, they didn't meet in car outside their house, I get it, but they did still meet a man somehow!

[Kittykat93]

[quote Redruby2020]@scotsllb Thanks I couldn't double tag, I think the other poster was just replying to what I had written originally. And the update was as you have read and rightly said, no I did not leave child unattended.

Also I don't know why the poster, sorry can't come out of message box now to see name to tag, said that they didn't know why I was pursuing things online?!? And that I must tell the men it is strictly online and I can't have a relationship outside of the website? Why not lol, such a ridiculous thing to say. If the answer was based on my original post yes I could just about agree as it did come across badly, but based on anything else no sorry I don't agree. I could have met up with the guy I have met before, today as I am free at the moment, but I have opted for a lie down and bloody housework. It surprises me the replies on here, when you think how many with kids are in relationships or remarried etc, well it all started somewhere, okay, they didn't meet in car outside their house, I get it, but they did still meet a man somehow![/quote]
Of course single parents can meet a partner op..but do they drag their child along to a first date with a man they met online?? Or leave the child in the house alone whilst they meet strangers in the car? No. It's totally different to what you are suggesting.