To think 'celebrating your curves' is becoming a worrying trend?

[Freesunglasses]

So many of my overweight 'friends' on facebook are joining in the whole "I'm embracing my curves and loving this body, every inch"
The thing is they are Obese, not use a little overyweight but really fat. The more people see and read things like this the more it will become normalised.

Worrying times ahead I think. We're going to be a very fat country in the not too distant future.
I know it's hard to lose weight. I know lockdown has made lots put weight, I'm a little overweight myself but I will never say I'm happy with it because I'm not! I like being thin, I want to be thin.

For the love of God stop normalising and celebrating obesity.

Overweight people are massively discriminated against.

'Threads about the collective evil of smokers and drinkers are rare'

Because smokers and heavy drinkers don't keep trying to persuade people their bad habits are beautiful.

Start a thread saying you smoke 40 a day and see how many people say well done.

@StubbleMeansTrouble

As someone upthread pointed out, this thread just keeps happening again and again, day after day.

People seem to be totally outraged by the fatness of other people. It's like it's an actual affront to their existence that fat people breathe, live, love and take up psychological and physical space.

I do wonder why people aren't quite so outraged about other "vices" people engage in. Where are the recurrent threads incensed at sitting behind a smoker who smells like a walking ashtray? (happens a lot).. Or the drinkers who engage in anti social behaviour on the bus (ditto) ? Etc etc. But no, it's the people who eat too much who get it every time.

Fat really is the one acceptable prejudice everyone can safely indulge in.

Because smokers and drinkers aren't on social media saying "Im celebrating being a fag ash lil" 'I'm celebrating the fact I have a banging headache after my five bottles of wine last night"

I'm not outraged at all about the fatness of other people but celebrating it and making it the norm isn't good.

I have a friend on social media and when her and all her friends meet up its like a weight watchers meeting, young ones in particular seem to be getting bigger.

I always think the health concern people show about fat people, and the worry about the NHS are disingenuous...

Nobody appointed us as the health police , citizens are not supposed to police other citizens’ health

Let’s leave that to the health care professionals

It’s free country, and if people want to smoke/drink/eat to excess/do dangerous pursuits that’s their choice

People can be as fat as they like and celebrate their curves as much as they like

I am unironically and honestly all for body positivity. I hate reading or hearing about people who hate their own body, it’s no way to live

And OP people DO show off about hangovers and how rough they feel, as a badge of honour. Social media is full of gin/Prosecco love

And I also know smokers who laugh about how unhealthy it is, and what rebels they are

What crack have some of you been smoking? Drinking is MASSIVELY celebrated on social media!!!
There's constant posts about "gin o clock" or "wine time" or "prosecco princess". "Tag a friend who could share this with" alongside a massive cocktail? "I like to cook with wine, sometimes I even put some in the food". "I don't get drunk, I just get less classy and more fun", "To me, drink responsibly means don't spill it", "You can't drink all day if you don't start in the morning", "The best beer is an open beer"...

Regardless of the body positivity movement, I don’t think the vast majority of overweight/obese people actually want to be fat. I highly doubt that’s what’s driving obesity levels right now.

I have a friend on social media and when her and all her friends meet up its like a weight watchers meeting, young ones in particular seem to be getting bigger.

Meet up for what purpose? Just in general or is this related to the body positivity thing?

Nobody wants to be fat.

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I have a friend on social media and when her and all her friends meet up its like a weight watchers meeting, young ones in particular seem to be getting bigger."

I'm not sure you are really her friend.

Low confidence is one of the biggest hurdles to losing weight.

Once i accepted that being fat didn’t define me - I was still smart/funny/sexy/whatever - and gained confidence about myself I was in a much better place mentally and the weight loss followed much easier than in the previous fifteen years of self-loathing and continual diets.

The timing of this is quite funny as yesterday I had one of my “time to accept myself” memes come up on Facebook memories from four years ago.

Since I embraced my curves and myself I’ve lost eight stones.

Happiness and acceptance will go a long way to helping people. A long, long way.

@StubbleMeansTrouble

" I have a friend on social media and when her and all her friends meet up its like a weight watchers meeting, young ones in particular seem to be getting bigger."

I'm not sure you are really her friend.

I agree. It’s a really unpleasant comment to make.

'What crack have some of you been smoking? Drinking is MASSIVELY celebrated on social media!!!There's constant posts about "gin o clock" or "wine time" or "prosecco princess".'

But that's like someone posting a photo of a cake and saying yum, totally fine.

People are allowed to eat and they're allowed to get pissed! It is the one's that do it to excess/damage their health and celebrate it that we're discussing 🙄.

@Quincie

Those lovely rounded curves drop to saggy rolls of fat as you age.

As you age? looks tits in despair

Everything drops as you age. My quinquagenarian nipples are more intimate with my toes than I am. Is this confined to fat people only? I think we need to know.

Op, any defense you've put up regarding your thread has been massively undermined by your very unpleasant attitude toward your 'friend'. Have a bloody word with yourself.

Sick of these types of thread, not everyone is obese/overweight because they overeat. Thyroid issues, autoimmune illness, medication side effects. Im fed up of the assumption that people are sat stuffing their faces. There is even research going on to suggest a hereditary or gene factor that may be responsible. Why shouldn't people celebrate who they are, if they want to.Horrible, nasty and provocative post.

The problem is losing weight is hard. Working full time makes you tired and being tired increases the cravings for fat and carbs, add to that most offices have biscuits and cakes everywhere and it’s no wonder everyone is a bit overweight. People telling themselves it’s ok makes them feel a bit less stressed about it (even if it’s untrue).
I’m not sure what the solution is though. Reducing everyone’s hour to allow gym time would be lovely, even if it’s unrealistic.

@JaniieJones

'What crack have some of you been smoking? Drinking is MASSIVELY celebrated on social media!!!There's constant posts about "gin o clock" or "wine time" or "prosecco princess".'

But that's like someone posting a photo of a cake and saying yum, totally fine.

People are allowed to eat and they're allowed to get pissed! It is the one's that do it to excess/damage their health and celebrate it that we're discussing 🙄.

There's a fuck tonne of people who post about drinking to excess on Facebook and are proud of it and no one judges because it makes them cool and fun. You conveniently cropped out examples of that when you quoted me - like about drinking in the morning, what about people who share the "I don't have a drinking problem. I drink, I pass out, no problem"? Or "I said no to alcohol but it just doesn't listen"? "According to chemistry, alcohol is a solution"? All of these show an unhealthy relationship/reliance on alcohol and they're regularly shared on social media.

@PurpleDaisies

I have a friend on social media and when her and all her friends meet up its like a weight watchers meeting, young ones in particular seem to be getting bigger.

Meet up for what purpose? Just in general or is this related to the body positivity thing?

Just socialising.

Hallelujah, someone has said it out loud. I totally agree with you OP. A few years ago when heroin chic was in the modeling industry was criticized for using models that had an unhealthy body weight (quite rightly too). So I couldn't believe it when cosmo had a morbidly obese woman on the cover a few years back with some quote about loving curves. Being overweight causes so many other health problems it should be looked on as badly as being underweight is. All it's doing is telling people that being overweight, pre diabetic, having high blood pressure and joint problems due to excessive weight later in life is normal. No it not. Not at all.

Why are some women so nasty to other women over their looks? I wish we could stop doing this to each other.

'There's a fuck tonne of people who post about drinking to excess on Facebook and are proud of it and no one judges'

If they had liver failure (the result of drinking too much), I guarantee people would judge. So again, it's fine to eat cake if you're a healthy bmi and post about it if you must, not so much if you're 20 stone.

It isn't 'discrimination' or 'fat shaming' it is a fact that when your over eating and excess drinking causes you to display the physical effects it is not fun or beautiful.

Get your hard hat on!
You're not allowed to discuss weight on MN.
People get very defensive.

I sort of agree with you that it feels great to be slim.
I've been slim and fat.
I hated being fat. It was nothing to celebrate.

@Frreesunglasses. It feels to me as if you are criticising the arrangement of deckchairs on the Titanic. If you genuinely care about the nation’s health and fitness then there are a number of issues you could talk about: safe outdoor spaces for children, cycle networks, the prioritising of pedestrians over motorists, clean air, and on the negative side: the sharp practices of the food industry, structural inequality and child poverty.
There is enormous pressure to be slim in this society. To be fat is to lose status. Don’t kid yourself it’s been normalised. Don’t kid yourself that the celebrating curves trend is significant.