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AIBU?

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WIBU to call the skip hire place?

268 replies

Etherel · 01/05/2021 17:11

So, long story short:

Next door asked whether my car parking space (advertised for as "allocated parking" when I moved in) could be used for a skip for a few weeks and they'd give me their parking space instead. This is an area with very little parking space. Skip was filled within a day and stood there, filled and not touched, for a good few weeks.

Almost every day I came home neighbour was parked in their space despite the promise after skip arrived and after a few times of knocking and asking to park up I felt silly and started to give up, but asked when the skip would go - I was told the Easter weekend. In the meantime, I was left to either park my car on the pavement or across a dropped kerb behind the skip.

Nothing happened for two more weeks, so I approached the couple again and got told they don't know when it was to be removed; they thought it would have gone by now. I was fine with it and asked them to keep me updated. Another week, another "it should have gone by now". Then I saw the partner out in the garden, asked again and we ended up having a coversation where I asked them to phone the company and take it away as I know some will deliberately leave the skip to save on storage space. At no point was it mentioned that the thing was still needed and he seemed to be okay with ringing them up.

More time passed and the neighbours had by now fully taken ownership of their space back while the skip was still in my space. So, having had these conversations 3 times now and always having been told they thought it would have been collected by now I decided to take matters in my own hand and phone the company. I made it clear that I was a neighbour, NOT the couple themselves.

A day later the skip was gone.

Forward another 1.5 weeks and I am having a frothing neibour standing at my door threatening me with just about everything because they now need to hire a new skip as the builders hadn't finished. They want their money back from me.

AIBU to have stood my ground? Yes, I shouldn't have phoned without another confirmation with them, but a) they were taking the absolute piss and b) they kept telling me it should have been collected, not to mention c) the company took the skip back without confirming with them as well.

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Daffodil123456 · 15/05/2021 09:23

They are CF’ers

It’s the same where I live, they all bitch about my DH as he stands his ground against them all.

Roussette · 15/05/2021 09:55

OP How dare they slag you off!
You have let them have your parking space since Easter and they do that?
Hopefully whoever they were talking to realised how awful they are and be on your side.

ArcheryAnnie · 15/05/2021 10:02

Thanks for the update, OP! And I bet the third set of neighbours will already have formed an opinion about your horrible neighbours, so I wouldn't worry about that at all.

ALevelhelp · 15/05/2021 10:07

@Etherel

Still no skip, and now it's the weekend there is little chance it can arrive in my space during what little time I'll be away from my space.

LL doesn't seem bothered (I mean, I can't even contact them myself, let alone someone else find out their number Grin) and I've just signed a new contract, just waiting on LL signature now.

In the meantime, I did hear them slag me off to other neighbours about how horrible I am. Not that I care, I generally keep myself to myself and my kids have their own friedship groups outside of the area.

How horrible you are? Pot calling kettle black springs to mind... ShockGrin
MadeForThis · 15/05/2021 10:30

Let them use the neighbours parking space.

KrystalKendal · 15/05/2021 11:02

You were fair and had they kept their side of the agreement there would be no issue.

Stand your ground, you tried to help and they broke the agreement and were taking advantage of you.

I would have called the skip company sooner, so you're a better person than me.

ERFFER · 15/05/2021 11:20

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Legoninjago1 · 15/05/2021 11:28

Bloody hell YANBU. You've been a hell of a lot more tolerant than I would have been.

6079SmithW · 15/05/2021 13:24

@Etherel I completely empathise! Thanks
I've had a recent similar experience with my neighbour (which resulted in me standing in the middle of the road with him driving his van at me but that's another story!). It always hurts when you get stung by someone you were helping. It's crap that we have to think like this, but I'm now of the opinion that helping out a neighbour is more trouble than it's worth.

Angiemum24 · 15/05/2021 13:39

Your neighbour is a a*hole. You are in the right not him. Stand your ground. The letting agency is on your side. Be happy, smile and have a good life, show him he’s nothing. Take care.

LookItsMeAgain · 15/05/2021 13:54

Just a thought @Etherel - I can't remember if you actually said to these neighbours that it was because you had called the skip hire place or not because you could have spun it to be that your landlord may have done a drive by to check their property (or the management/letting agent) and when they noticed the skip on their land, they may have called the company requesting it be collected. You would be off the hook and neighbourly relations would be restored.
If they come knocking again, that's the route I'd take with them. Plausible deniability!

whoopsabloominbuttercup · 15/05/2021 14:16

Learn from this. No good deed goes unpunished.

Dogwoodrose · 15/05/2021 14:21

Sounds to me like they think you have less rights because you rent and they own, I know who I think is horrible in this scenario and it's not you OP! Have some Flowers (to cheer up your rented hovel obviously Grin) and pay the Cf's no more mind.

PerveenMistry · 15/05/2021 16:51

[quote 6079SmithW]@Etherel I completely empathise! Thanks
I've had a recent similar experience with my neighbour (which resulted in me standing in the middle of the road with him driving his van at me but that's another story!). It always hurts when you get stung by someone you were helping. It's crap that we have to think like this, but I'm now of the opinion that helping out a neighbour is more trouble than it's worth. [/quote]

Don't leave us hanging; what is the story?!

PeachyPeachTrees · 15/05/2021 17:58

Firstly, leaving the skip in your space so long and not leaving their space for you was bad enough...
But threatening to call your landlord and make you and your family have to find a new home is so nasty.
You are obviously a nice person but you've learnt your lesson with NDN and wont be doing anymore favours!

BigcatLittlecat · 16/05/2021 21:04

[quote 6079SmithW]@Etherel I completely empathise! Thanks
I've had a recent similar experience with my neighbour (which resulted in me standing in the middle of the road with him driving his van at me but that's another story!). It always hurts when you get stung by someone you were helping. It's crap that we have to think like this, but I'm now of the opinion that helping out a neighbour is more trouble than it's worth. [/quote]
You can't just say that and leave ua hanging! Hope you are OK but we are a nosy bunch!

schofieldsunderpants · 22/05/2021 18:20

How is everything now OP?

Etherel · 23/05/2021 16:41

Hey, thanks for asking! No news on this front, they've gone quiet and seem to be doing very well without their skip Grin

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