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Original poster

why do some people ask such daft questions on mn when common sense should be obvious ?

140 replies

warmandtoasty2day · 01/05/2021 15:20

it's raining should i take an umberella out with me? should i go shopping if there's no food in the house ?
these are extreme examples but you get the jest. there are a coupleon here todayand posters are giving the most obvious answers i.e use your common sense.
i'm just curious, everyone is different, could be due mh, nn, and that's understandable needing support or reassurance but that wouldn't always be the case.

OP posts:
FredaFox · 02/05/2021 09:20

It’s attention seeking,annoying!
Just like people on Facebook asking what time things open and close, just google

What about when you get a post that everyone’s adding something then someone makes the effort to post with something completely irrelevant and along the lines of well I’ve never seen it before so can’t comment - why are you commenting then nobody cares!
I’m like Hmm why bothering posting?!

SchrodingersImmigrant · 02/05/2021 09:22

@CirclesWithinCircles

I think some people fake it though, to get away with offensive comments. On a thread about racism against mixed race asian/white people, a couple of posters refuse to believe you can exierience racism if your skin is light, despite being given examples. One poster in particular repeatedly made this assertion, despite being asked not to.

And then right at the end of the thread, a new poster pops up and asks "Are Japanese people not white" and "Are people from Australia white"?

Yes. There are 3 levels imho

Genuine
Harmless pretender
Harmful pretender.

The last one uses it to hide what would probably normally be shut down as hate crime. Or the goal is to upset people. These are no bening.

Sparklingbrook · 02/05/2021 09:22

@blueandcream

sparkling I wasn’t joking, sorry! I’ve looked down AIBU and I genuinely don’t know which this applies to!
Shock They are all over the place. When you notice them they will be everywhere.
Sparklingbrook · 02/05/2021 09:24

@FredaFox

It’s attention seeking,annoying! Just like people on Facebook asking what time things open and close, just google

What about when you get a post that everyone’s adding something then someone makes the effort to post with something completely irrelevant and along the lines of well I’ve never seen it before so can’t comment - why are you commenting then nobody cares!
I’m like Hmm why bothering posting?!

Then there’s the thread that everyone is adding to and the OP never returns after the initial post. What’s that all about?
ElphabaTWitch · 02/05/2021 09:27

I don’t get it either. Some are maybe cos of boredom. Or trolling. Or stupidity. Or confusion. Some are as a direct result of society and woke club telling you the way something should be and even the most sensible and intelligent people end up questioning themselves. Or having a brain fart. But some people do seem to be a bit of a walking disaster. I often wonder how some
People have made it to this point in life tbh.

Fizbosshoes · 02/05/2021 09:31

Someone in my family is like this. We’re going out: “shall I bring a coat then?”

Figure it out for yourself, you’re an adult!

I went on holiday to somewhere new with family (including IL) Everyone acted as if I was the local tour guide or information centre

What time does the bus go?
How long will it take to get to ?
Does that pub serve sandwiches?
Will they sell X in the village shop?
What day must we put the bins out?
And worst of all
Where are the toilets here (at a beach)
Angry I dont freaking know, I arrived 3 days ago just like the rest of you!FFS!

I think all other adults wanted a holiday from thinking, or wanted to take no responsibilty.

Sparklingbrook · 02/05/2021 09:33

I do agree that some people just like others to do the thinking for them. Maybe the. They don’t have to blame themselves if it all goes pear shaped. ‘MN told me to do it!’ Grin

EvenMoreFuriousVexation · 02/05/2021 09:35

@Sparklingbrook

The ones I don’t get are the ‘list’ threads where everyone posts but nobody reads anyone else’s answers. No chat just a long list of people’s earnings/favourite soft drink/ etc Confused
I think of these threads as a communal latrine. Come along, briefly squat and leave your "pearls of wisdom" then fuck off and never look back.
Felty · 02/05/2021 09:36

I love a good “is this meat off? thread, the special potentially rancid offspring to the generic “can I eat this?” thread.
So much scope for providing the OP with an answer of “I don’t know.”

CharityDingle · 02/05/2021 09:40

On my local Facebook pages too, and they go into overdrive on bank holiday weekends, what time does Tesco/ Boots/ Aldi open/ close.
If someone spoon feeds them the exact hours, they get a like, if someone links to the shop website, they often get ignored.

Recently, 'what pharmacy is open today?'
Er, all of them. Hmm

And I agree about the inane threads on here.
AIBU - having posted something that is clearly not unreasonable, (should I wear shoes when I go outdoors) but their friend or DH said it was. Hmm

Sparklingbrook · 02/05/2021 09:41

@EvenMoreFuriousVexation

Communal latrine-yes! And nobody hangs about straight off to post their one comment on another thread. Grin

lljkk · 02/05/2021 09:45

Humans chitchat. This is ok.

KarensChoppyBob · 02/05/2021 09:46

Yes. And very natural.

Planty13 · 02/05/2021 09:46

The “am I pregnant?” ones annoy me.

Miljea · 02/05/2021 09:47

I occasionally ask posters to find me something online, like a villa, or a specific type of widget I don't know the name of.

There are posters on here who are very good and quick at it, (and I always thank them) and I assume that they wouldn't be so helpful if they thought IWBU! 😁

The thing I don't get is where the OP posts, then never returns, yet people are still piling on, 300 replies later, all saying exactly the same thing.

Sparklingbrook · 02/05/2021 09:47

@lljkk

Humans chitchat. This is ok.
I understand chitchat. We all do it. But the daft question threads aren't that IMO.
Confusedandshaken · 02/05/2021 09:49

@YellowGlasses

The ones that are just striking up conversation are understandable. It’s the disingenuous ones that annoy me.
Exactly. And I think this thread is a perfect example of that sort of thread.
the80sweregreat · 02/05/2021 09:51

I wish mumsnet and the Internet had been around when I was younger as although I know to take a brolly if it might rain there were many other things that I needed answers to or advice and absolutely nobody to ask. My family were not there for me on so many occasions and a forum like this is so wise at times and can have a different take on a problem too. Especially when I had little ones who are now much older
Many heads can be better than one or just a bit of reassurance sometimes.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 02/05/2021 09:52

There is a chat section for the chat thpugh. But more importantly, a conversation can still be started without pretending to not be able to tie own shoe laces.

KatherineJaneway · 02/05/2021 15:16

@Planty13

The “am I pregnant?” ones annoy me.
They don't annoy me, but they ask if you can see a line and there is no line there 95% of the time. There is clearly no line but people reply giving answers like 'it could be' when there is no line there. It helps no one. Gives false hope which I don't think helps.
LolaSmiles · 02/05/2021 15:34

KatherineJaneway
I think those threads are cruel because there's almost never a line and the poor OP gets loads of congratulations. It means when their period arrives instead of it being a disappointing period because they'd rather be pregnant, they're led to believe that they're having an early miscarriage because posters online have spent days congratulating them for being pregnant despite there being no line.

Sparklingbrook · 02/05/2021 15:38

@LolaSmiles

KatherineJaneway I think those threads are cruel because there's almost never a line and the poor OP gets loads of congratulations. It means when their period arrives instead of it being a disappointing period because they'd rather be pregnant, they're led to believe that they're having an early miscarriage because posters online have spent days congratulating them for being pregnant despite there being no line.
I agree. Plus all the 'my invisible line is now 2 years old!' If you can't see a line on the test in RL then just stop testing a bit. Even if people on the internet say you are pregnant it doesn't mean you are.
shivawn · 02/05/2021 15:44

Yeah or people posting about the most mundane things that happened to them today and asking for others opinions on them.

SchrodingersImmigrant · 02/05/2021 15:50

@LolaSmiles

KatherineJaneway I think those threads are cruel because there's almost never a line and the poor OP gets loads of congratulations. It means when their period arrives instead of it being a disappointing period because they'd rather be pregnant, they're led to believe that they're having an early miscarriage because posters online have spent days congratulating them for being pregnant despite there being no line.
I thought about these. I am actually glad I haven't seen any lately on aibu exactly for reasons you say
DioneTheDiabolist · 02/05/2021 15:51

I'm more concerned about the posters who think they have to open every thread and leave a comment. Even when they have no interest in the subject!Confused

Why?

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