why do some people ask such daft questions on mn when common sense should be obvious ?

[warmandtoasty2day]

it's raining should i take an umberella out with me? should i go shopping if there's no food in the house ?
these are extreme examples but you get the jest. there are a coupleon here todayand posters are giving the most obvious answers i.e use your common sense.
i'm just curious, everyone is different, could be due mh, nn, and that's understandable needing support or reassurance but that wouldn't always be the case.

Obvious ones don't bother me. It's the virtue signalling ones that I find especially irritating:

"Was I BU to give my credit card and pin number to the poor man I saw who said he was starving", and then they get very angry at anyone who says "um.. yes!"

Or the child equivalent: "My dc has just got seventeen grade 9s in his GCSEs and he's only in year 8, is this any good?"

Just say "I feel good/please/proud...." and I have no problems.

If people really didn't know these things then we'd get the alternative ones where dc weren't doing very well/didn't do a nice things and didn't know what to think.

Unless we reach the conclusion that people who tend to do nice things or parents of clever children are disproportionally likely to be unable to recognise if something is nice or not (so we can assume that half the time they do nasty things they think are nice maybe) or be unable to google and understand results.

I suspect hope many threads lately are just made up grom boredom. Otherwise I would really worry about some posters😳

It's particularly irritating with the "find me a holiday villa" ones.
Fine if you are looking for recommendations, but so many of these threads are just hoping that someone will do all the work for them so that they just have to click on one link.

See I like them, I love searching for holidays

My favourite is when it's so clearly someone wanting praise - "An old man fell over today in the street and I called an ambulance and spoke to him as he waited. WIBU to help him".

The worst at the "I'm such a shit mum" ones: "I'm the WORST MUM EVER...I nipped to the loo and 3yo DD took a packet of crisps from the cupboard. I feel terrible, I don't want her getting bad habit, I'm such a shit mum ". It's so obviously an attempt to fish for compliments and if I was a meaner person I'd comment "God yeah what were you thinking you're definitely the worst mum ever." Just to call their bluff

One of my old school friends does this on her FB constantly. “Is Asda open?” “What’s your kids favourite film?” and my particular favourite irritation “Hit me with your cake recipes/favourite knitting patterns/things to eat with beans”. She’s in an MLM though and they are told to do this to get people to interact with them.

Which one of you is it with that 20😂

@OwlBeThere

Gist. Jest means something entirely different

jest is probably right though because some things that get asked on here are so stupid that they are funny.

Same as Facebook though isn’t it.

Where can I buy ‘insert very obvious, commonly found item’. You know, shops.

The ones which pretend to be an AIBU are annoying. I like tomato sauce on chips, DH prefers brown sauce, which one of us is BU?

NOT EVERY DIFFERENCE OF OPINION MEANS ONE OF YOU IS BU.

My favourite is when it's so clearly someone wanting praise - "An old man fell over today in the street and I called an ambulance and spoke to him as he waited. WIBU to help him"

They justify posting it by having an insane friend accompany them and disagree with them. Something like "However, my friend who was with me thinks I was totally wrong to have helped him. What if he wanted to bleed to death? What if he was testing the hardness of the pavement? She says we should have left him and gone for a cuppa. Which of us IBU?

It's obvious these people aren't on linkedin otherwise they would have attention seeking outlet with these stories🙈

@BadLad this is so true! So many friends of MN posters who seem to have a warped view of the world

@warmandtoasty2day one of the best I read on MN so far was titled something like 'Should I buy my DH a second hand parachute for his birthday?'... to which the replies were a resounding'No'! The parachute was a few years old and well used but the OP couldn't afford a brand new one so was trying to save some money.

It was very obvious about the potential dangers and problems with buying something secondhand which would be used for jumping out of an aeroplane at great height. The OP still needed to ask the question though and then spent ages justifying how she was going to cut corners to save money!

'hit me with'

God maybe I will

I don't really recognise what is being said here.

Most AIBUs I notice go something like this:

^I parked in a car park and a strange man said I'd pinched his space. He set fire to my car. AIBU to think he overreacted?"

Err, yeah. Not sure why you're in any doubt. Leastways on the facts that you've given -which I doubt-.

Mostly I ready AIBU to find people's reactions to things and because it can be very entertaining, but I'm generally pretty sceptical of the OPs because they're always so one sided, maybe from the outset, maybe after the drip feed.

I parked in a car park and a strange man said I'd pinched his space. He set fire to my car. AIBU to think he overreacted?

He wouldn't have done it if you were a big, burley man!!!!

The ones I don’t get are the ‘list’ threads where everyone posts but nobody reads anyone else’s answers. No chat just a long list of people’s earnings/favourite soft drink/ etc

Totally agree with the ‘friend’ thing too. Post a completely innocuous everyday situation then throw in that your ‘friend’ said it was weird. The ‘friend’ does not actually exist it’s just for the opposing view.

It's not just mn.

Just read my local fb group - what time does Morrison's open, I want to train as a teacher how do I do it.

There are a lot of helpless people out there.

AIBU to be upset because my husband has slept with my best friend?

Our local fb page is the same. Asking what bus goes to X town, asking if particular restaurants have air con (call the restaurant?) , is boots open on a bank holiday etc. Most would be much quicker to google than hang around waiting for a random local to answer!
Also passive aggressive driving/parking rants! As if someone driving like a knob is even going to look at the page and read the post (and recognise themselves) , let alone admit/apologise for it.

I cant be dealing with the driving/parking stuff with diagrams on here either. Some driver was annoying and it wasnt their right of way, or parked inconsiderately. It's annoying, but it happens all the time. Not worth wasting time and headspace over it after the event!

The only reason people like parking threads on here is because they want there to be a massive row between the OP and the cheeky car owner.
Usually a storm in a teacup. But you can play MN bingo with ‘penguin bollards’ and ‘do you know a rugby team’ or ‘block them in and go out for the day’ as top scoring answers.

I do wonder how some people survived before ‘Facebook recommendation’.

@KarensChoppyBob

I think everyone's different. Some posters may prefer to have what feels like a real conversation about something that's bothering them, could be they're lonely?

But you're right all sorts of info is available now at our fingertips. Even basic SPaG.

Yep, hands up I'll admit I'm probably a bit of a PITA for tending to try and provide a link to chapter and verse of an answer if one is relevant....even so the conversation often runs:

"Would I/they be breaking the rules if"?

"Quite probably - the rules are here [provides link]?

"Yeah but I'm not happy/somebody told me..."

" You'll need to look at the link I posted , there you will see it's all explained"....

X pages later, where X is often a big number, you're still seeing "well I think" ...

and it becomes apparent that at best the link has never been examined.

..so I guess a lot of it is indeed down to some people wanting answers in the context of conversation rather than going to the source document(s).

@Sparklingbrook

The ones I don’t get are the ‘list’ threads where everyone posts but nobody reads anyone else’s answers. No chat just a long list of people’s earnings/favourite soft drink/ etc

The people whop put their mprtgage down to the penny, actual penny. Fascinate me. It's part of a security question in mine. No way would I say exact sum