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To be shocked at what’s just happened on the school run

422 replies

Molyka88 · 28/04/2021 15:34

So today after picking DCs up from school/nursery a car that was parked up close behind my car put their car into accelerate instead of reverse and ended up pinning me between my rear bumper and their front bumper whilst I was putting bags etc in the boot.

Mum in question did not realise one of my legs was taking the brunt of this until I was shouting to tell her to reverse.
She did apologise at the time, but didn’t get out of the car to ask if I was ok or anything like that!

I’ve got home now and my knee already is swollen and starting to bruise.. I’m also thinking this could have been a much worse accident if this was DS stood in between the car.

Fortunately a parent came over to check if I was ok and he did catch the incident on his dash cam.
So would you put this down as an unfortunate accident or do anything about it? I’m not even sure who or if I would report it too.

OP posts:
Saltyslug · 28/04/2021 17:23

Log with police today

Saltyslug · 28/04/2021 17:24

Also photograph the bruise

SunshineCake · 28/04/2021 17:24

You poor thing. I dread to think what could have happened if you had had a small child stood next to you. Definitely get yourself checked and report this.

Years ago I hit the accelerator rather than brake and shot out from my road on to a slightly more main road. Thank goodness nothing was coming and it scared me so much. I've never forgotten and think of it every time I approach the road.

HedgePutty · 28/04/2021 17:25

Police tonight every day of the week and a minor injury unit. For someone to pin you without realising is horrific. I would phone police or now so they can breathalyser her. The other person was worried about about you to give you their footage. Contact them saying to keep it that you are going to the police.

ohsuzannah · 28/04/2021 17:26

Whether or not the Police take this further, you can still get an incident no.
Then get in touch with her insurance, she shouldn't get away with this!

ohsuzannah · 28/04/2021 17:27

Posted too soon Sad
Definitely get an X-ray, your kneecap could well be broken!

UCOinanOCG · 28/04/2021 17:28

That is awful. You definitely need to report it.

HedgePutty · 28/04/2021 17:28

I would put money on her being under the influence for firstly hitting you, not noticing and then not stopping to phone police/give you details and driving off and not getting out.

Jobseeker19 · 28/04/2021 17:28

I would be making a claim against her insurance

idrinkchocolatemilk · 28/04/2021 17:29

I agree this needs reporting op.

I hope your okay and not to badly injured! I think she drove away in panic as you said she seemed flustered. Still no excuse, sending Flowers

notalwaysalondoner · 28/04/2021 17:29

Personally I would get the knee checked out before reporting, so you know what outcome you want - she made a mistake which we’ve all made (having car in wrong gear) just at a bad moment, and she probably had no idea you were actually hurt, so I’d give her the benefit of the doubt until you know if you need physio or something. If it is a longer term injury that will cause you more than a few days distress then definitely report as you deserve some compensation. I had very mild whiplash after a bumper bump but still got a few hundred compensation which certainly made me feel a bit better!

Erkrie · 28/04/2021 17:30

Yes I'd get the knee checked out, contact the police, and then get onto your insurance company for personal injury.

notalwaysalondoner · 28/04/2021 17:30

I’d focus on the insurance, not the police - I can easily see how from her perspective she thought you were just telling or warning her she was about to squash you, and not realising she’d actually done it. To involve the police in something like this seems excessive to me.

DadOfTheMoment · 28/04/2021 17:31

Report it to the police, get an incident number, see a doctor see a solicitor, get in a claim. Great that you have a witness.

TSSDNCOP · 28/04/2021 17:33

Don't get the school involved, they'll try and mediate it so there's no fuss.

But there should be a fuss. She hit you and she left without exchanging details.

If she'd smashed your bumper you'd be calling the insurers, this is worse than that because she's hurt you.

It's a police and insurance matter immediately and then A&E to get it checked.

Women in cars hit mine twice whilst the DC were at PS. Both tried to downplay it, one actually tried to say it wasn't her in front of 3 witnesses. Just because they're mothers doesn't make it less wrong.

Misshapencha0s · 28/04/2021 17:35

I know of an incident locally where someone was killed by this exact same scenario. Very serious indeed. I can only imagine she panicked and fled or was oblivious that she had hit you. I am so sorry this has happened to you. I think you should go to A&E or phone 111 for advice.

PostcodeJack · 28/04/2021 17:35

She has an obligation to report this to the police but you should do too to cover yourself. I had a car hit me (pedestrian) many years ago. The driver stopped and we exchanged details. A week later they were calling me to ask that I pay towards the damage to their car

Mistressinthetulips · 28/04/2021 17:37

Obviously she should have got out of the car.
You have to report to the police if anyone is injured in an accident - there is a tiny chance she did not know the OP was injured depending on how the conversation between them went, but she didn't exactly try hard to find out did she!

gamerchick · 28/04/2021 17:37

@notalwaysalondoner

I’d focus on the insurance, not the police - I can easily see how from her perspective she thought you were just telling or warning her she was about to squash you, and not realising she’d actually done it. To involve the police in something like this seems excessive to me.
Would you be saying that if it was a kid, same scenario?
TurquoiseDragon · 28/04/2021 17:38

@Molyka88

Thanks everyone, I will definitely go and get the knee checked out for certain. Will wait for Dh to get home and head over there.

Will go and speak to the other parent tomorrow morning about the dash cam footage, Its a fairly small school so tracking both the witness and the driver won’t be too hard.
Will be contacting the police too, now I’ve calmed down a bit and read the replies I’m actually really angry.

And get plenty of pics now of your knee.
OverTheRubicon · 28/04/2021 17:38

@HedgePutty

Police tonight every day of the week and a minor injury unit. For someone to pin you without realising is horrific. I would phone police or now so they can breathalyser her. The other person was worried about about you to give you their footage. Contact them saying to keep it that you are going to the police.
That's a really good point. My uncle kept having minor scrapes and scratches, turns out he was permanently tipsy (including on the school run, he is a sahd). He got much worse.
OverTheRubicon · 28/04/2021 17:39

So yes, you need to report numberplate NOW because it's not at all impossible that she'd had a drink, and that's why she didn't want to get out.

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 28/04/2021 17:40

I really don't know how she could not know what's happened? Surely even at low speed and hitting a fairly soft object (compared to another car) you'd feel something?

And no matter how embarrassed I felt, I 100% would not have left without checking what I'd done and if I'd hurt you, if I'd been the other driver. You know it's only going to be worse later if you do.

StealthPolarBear · 28/04/2021 17:43

Are you being looked after op? Do you have someone with you?
People are saying she may not have realised, might have assumed it was a warning. If you hit someone and don't realise that's even more worrying in itself. I too wondered about DUI.

Mamette · 28/04/2021 17:43

I agree with people who think she may have been over the limit, or on meds/ drugs.

Doing it in the first place Confused when you were right there. Then driving off.