AIBU to have the rage with DH

[FedUpAndTeary]

Ok I suspect I am being unreasonable, being 36 weeks pregnant and hormonal. But I have just spent yet another night on the uncomfortable sofa downstairs because DH will not stop farting and stinking out our bedroom. I'm not even joking, it smells so bad he just thinks it's funny. Then he gets mad at me for refusing to stay in the same room as his stench. He doesn't even try to hold them in!

AIBU for expecting him to not stink out our bedroom every single night?

YANBU. That's pretty disgusting. Every now and then, it's acceptable hilarious but he should be mortified that his heavily pregnant wife has to sleep on the sofa. He should be doing that!

Why is he allowing his pregnant wife to sleep on the uncomfortable sofa? He’s a total twat for that.

He sounds like a dirty pig. I guess you’ll be having no more babies with him as he’s so unattractive your fanny will be forever sealed up tight in his presence.

What are your plans for when the baby is here and he's still doing this? You going to kip on the sofa with the baby next to you in a Moses basket?

What is he eating that they are smelling that bad??

I know that my sense of smell improved while I was pregnant and some things that I absolutely hated the smell of, I tolerated and others that I loved were too strong and I couldn't deal with them at the time.

I agree that he should be the one to move to the sofa, not you.

There's no point kicking him out to sleep on the sofa, the room still stinks. So I leave and then he gets mad at me for being "hormonal and unreasonable". I get it, everyone passes wind. But this is ridiculously excessive!

That's not only disgusting, it's cruel. How old is he, 8?

I have a phobia of bad smells - I'm not exaggerating, it's actually quite debilitating - and DH is scrupulously considerate about it. My teenage sons not so much

I probably wouldn't stay with a man who deliberately upset me and laughed about it, tbh.

YANBU that's fucking disgusting. If it was an accident then fair enough but doing that on purpose is gross and rude,

I will admit that my sense of smell is incredibly strong when pregnant, and his current keto doet isn't helping with that. I'm just tired and fed up and I want to cry because everything smells disgusting and then I hear him let rip again and I get so ragey. How do I calm down and get some perspective?

He's disrespectful and a pig - sorry but he needs to grow up and stop bei so filthy and treating his partner so poorly

@FedUpAndTeary

I will admit that my sense of smell is incredibly strong when pregnant, and his current keto doet isn't helping with that. I'm just tired and fed up and I want to cry because everything smells disgusting and then I hear him let rip again and I get so ragey. How do I calm down and get some perspective?

So you need to 'calm down' and you're 'hormonal'? He's foul. I'm always puzzled by how it gets to the point of procreating with minging men like this, though.

There's nothing wrong with your perspective.

Tell him if he wants to stay on the keto diet as is then he needs to not go in the bedroom and sleep on the sofa. I think it's really awful that he thinks it's acceptable for you to sleep on the sofa.
Here are some ways for him to reduce the problem
www.livestrong.com/article/300356-gas-bloating-low-carb-diet/

If he's asleep, then I wouldn't blame him, obviously.
But he knows its bothering you, you're heavily pregnant. It's not alot to ask that he doesn't make you sick with something really completely avoidable, he can go to the loo.

Trap them in the quilt then pull it over his head so he can enjoy the stench to himself.

Currently 35 week preg with twins and I FEEL YOU!!!! although my DHs sin is snoring
He's actually started sleeping on the couch to let me sleep.

Can u kick DH out one or two nights a week? Can u open windows and get some odor spray? Wax melts etc etc

The fact that he's blaming it on you being mad with lady hormones is even worse than simply being disgusting.

He doesn't think its acceptable for me to sleep on the sofa, he thinks I'm being a drama queen and making a big deal out of nothing. Even said it can't be good for the baby and I shouldn't be complaining about having sore back and hips if I insist on not sleeping in my bed. I'd love to sleep in my bed but I can't because it smells so bad!

As a side point to the real problem, a candle in the room will clear the smell surprisingly quickly.

Yabu for expecting him to hold in his farts - that’s not healthy. But yanbu to expect him to be a bit more considerate. He should be the one on the sofa, not you. Or he should consider changing his diet.

Doing a one-off fart, accidentally, can be funny.

But doing it continuously every night, is not funny. Its incredibly disrespectful.
If he has wind problems because of his diet, then he needs to sort it.

I suggest he doesn't even come to bed at all. Let him stay on the sofa when he wants to sleep.

YANBU. I'm glad that's one thing me and DP agree on, each to their own but we dont inflict our stinky arses on each other unless someone accidentally farts while picking up the remote I would do the same as you OP or just ban him from the bedroom.

My dad still does it now, in public or at home and will laugh like its funniest thing in the world. Dirty bastard.

Tell him to go and fart in the toilet like most considerate people. How disgusting. You don't need to calm down, he needs to gain control over his bowels.

What a pig. From 36 weeks my DH went to the spare room as I was like a 'walrus when turning over' 😂 give the room a good airing and get him on the couch. To laugh at you is awful.

He is disgusting. He needs to sleep elsewhere.

My partner does the same, I keep telling him it's nasty, he thinks it's hillarious. Farts even when I'm eating .