AIBU to have the rage with DH

[FedUpAndTeary]

Ok I suspect I am being unreasonable, being 36 weeks pregnant and hormonal. But I have just spent yet another night on the uncomfortable sofa downstairs because DH will not stop farting and stinking out our bedroom. I'm not even joking, it smells so bad he just thinks it's funny. Then he gets mad at me for refusing to stay in the same room as his stench. He doesn't even try to hold them in!

AIBU for expecting him to not stink out our bedroom every single night?

I'm not convinced holding in farts is a reasonable request. Mabe a doctor's visit is appropriate however?

IMHO he should be offering to take the sofa every night, and at the absolute bare minimum should be 100% understanding of and supportive of OPs right to sleep in a different room. As an aside it should be a human right for every human to have their own bedroom. It should be normal for every couple to each have their own room - but of course if they want to share a bed every night that's fine too.

I wouldn't want him sleeping on the sofa either! I'd tell him to sleep in the shed.

@HollowTalk

I wouldn't want him sleeping on the sofa either! I'd tell him to sleep in the shed.

I like your style

@apooagnuandyou

I'd rather be ridiculous than having people farting around the house, especially the room I am in .

Diner must be charming in your place!

Fine thanks. We don't all fart every 15 minutes. In fact I can safely say 99% of the time they pass without any one else even bloody realising. I wonder what the hell some people must eat for this to be a problem.

LST
put it another way, I expect most people to be mindful of their farts and other natural body function on their first dates.

And to still be mindful when they meet someone or are at work.

If my other half cannot make the same efforts for me than he does for other people, I deserve better.

When you have a pregnant wife, it's just not acceptable to laugh at her. Many of us had weird sense of smell during pregnancy.

@arethereanyleftatall

Wtaf?

Op, the father of your child has just (essentially) told you he's a selfish, inconsiderate, disgusting pig.

You have responded by wondering if it's your fault due to hormones.

Ffs.

A good man would have said 'would it help if I sleep on the sofa every night whilst I'm on this Keto diet?'

This.

@apooagnuandyou

LST put it another way, I expect most people to be mindful of their farts and other natural body function on their first dates.

And to still be mindful when they meet someone or are at work.

If my other half cannot make the same efforts for me than he does for other people, I deserve better.

When you have a pregnant wife, it's just not acceptable to laugh at her. Many of us had weird sense of smell during pregnancy.

I never said I agree with what the ops dp is doing. If it causing this much stress to the op he should sleep in another room and go to the gp because it just isn't right.

I am talking about being in your own home! I would never ask dp to go to the bog if the need to fart arises. I couldn't! The act of standing up would make me fart anyway!

I'm farting in bed as I speak. However only ddog is in here and his breath is worse.

Sorry but you had me at “cabbage stir fries”!😂😂😂 Thanks certainly explains a lot!

If he insists on eating keto with a topping of stinky cruciferous vegetables, then he owes it to you to sleep on the sofa. Possibly forever! I have pretty horrendous issues with IBS wind but have had much improvement with optibac probiotics. In your DH’s case it’s his diet so that probably won’t help.... I’m so sorry. YADNBU.

I’d say YABU expecting him to “hold it in” - one can’t hold in wind all night, it’s impossible. But YANBU expecting him to (a) change his diet until it improves (b) sleep on the sofa instead of you until it improves and (c) be more sympathetic and understanding.

If he doesn’t understand a heightened sense of smell is a common pregnancy symptom, point him to some web pages that say so. Then emphasise you’re not being “emotional and hormonal”, you’re pregnant with a common symptom of growing a human, and he is being incredibly unsupportive. Don’t negotiate it, tell him he’s changing his diet and sleeping downstairs, it’s the least he can do.

What an absolute tw**.

I personally think he sounds disgusting and needs to grow the f* up.

I'm farting in bed as I speak. However only ddog is in here and his breath is worse.

Pmsl 🤣 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Lots of people are assuming OP's DH is farting in his sleep, but it sounds to me like he farts knowingly in bed.

Given his diet I dont think he could do anything but - and it wouldnt be a good idea for him not to either as that would not be healthy for him.

So his choices are I think he sleeps on the sofa (although isnt that likely to make the living room smell as well). Or realise that his diet isnt a good idea and he needs to change it to stop the problem

If he insists on filling his intestines with cabbage and meat then he needs to take the spare room. No wonder he’s farting eating loads of cabbage.

Not read the full thread, but has anybody mentioned lighting a match to get rid of the smell? We have a box of matches in the loo and light a match after doing a poo. Makes a lot of difference to the way the toilet smells.

God, I feel for you OP. I couldn't sleep in a room that stunk of someone else's farts. And I would be really angry that he was doing this every night.

Stinking out the room with one or two farts may be accidental but doing this every night is not acceptable.

He needs to sleep elsewhere and only return to your room when he's sorted his problem.

Again, most partners are more than happy (or just do it without fuss at least) to go into spare room or on the sofa when them moving or simply breathing keeps their pregnant wife awake!

Late pregnancy is pretty much the only time when a woman is entitled to the most comfy bed in the house!

Oh i remember when i was pregnant and the absolute rage i felt laying in bed, the air thick with rancid arse gas! i opened all the windows turned the fan on and kept a bottle of air freshener next to the bed!

@apooagnuandyou

Again, most partners are more than happy (or just do it without fuss at least) to go into spare room or on the sofa when them moving or simply breathing keeps their pregnant wife awake!

Late pregnancy is pretty much the only time when a woman is entitled to the most comfy bed in the house!

Absolutely. I took up the whole bed with my body pillows. Dh slept in the spare room and was only called upon for foot rubs or to help me get out of bed.