Livid .. He ended it by text
babbi · 25/04/2021 18:40
Just want to vent really ..
Previously was married for 22 years , we split and got back together 2 years ago , though maintained our own homes .
He was here yesterday evening for dinner , in our bubble as we share a child .
He has just sent a text to end it as he loves me more than I love him and it hurts him ...
The same weekend that I got the news that my siblings cancer has spread and things are very challenging for them .... oh and I’m dealing with parents in their 80s with dementia ...
Terrible timing ...
I’ll have to hide this from my child until her exams are over ...
AIBU to feel that he is a coward and should have told me in person ?
Am I being unreasonable?AIBU
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babbi · 25/04/2021 19:03
Just for another week until exams are completed .. @rothbury
she’s already very upset that my sibling is much more poorly than previously thought ..
I thought that was best for her ..
thanks for your input .. I’ll think about what you have said .
@Wellpark thanks for your kind words
babbi · 25/04/2021 19:19
Thanks all , I really appreciate your responses.
I do have support in real life , good friends who will help .
People move on and it’s fine to end things if that’s how he feels .
It’s just a text after I spoke to him 15 mins before seemed so impersonal.
I think I’m just shocked as I thought we were stronger than that and did support each other .
I’ve supported him after both a heart attack and covid last year and also the death of his parent ..
I’ll be fine , I just obviously got it wrong and though we would be supportive of other mutually ..
Thanks again , I really do appreciate you all taking the time to reply .
It’s best I know now that I’ll be on my own as I have a tough journey over the next couple of years ..
Theunamedcat · 25/04/2021 19:20
Let me guess your focusing on you and your problems and he cant take it
I would struggle to find a reply that didn't involve the words arsehole cunt and fuck off to the hole you crawled out of
I'm sorry your life is shit right now if he really loved you he would support you imho
ToChangeorNotToChange · 25/04/2021 20:00
I’m stumped . He was here for dinner last night and making plans to go away for a weekend next month ...
I’ve honestly no idea why this happened today .[/quote]
Did he know about your sibling being ill? Because this stinks of 'oh no, now I wont be absolute number 1 priority, let me throw out some melodramatics so only I get attention'.
Tell him to jog on.
DeciduousPerennial · 25/04/2021 20:04
So last year you supported him through him covid and the death of a parent. You’ve had 2 years of living separately, which he’s apparently been quite happy with?
But you’ve now had some awful news about a sibling which means you will need his support and understanding, and may mean you have less focus for him.
This doesn’t seem like you love him less than he loves you. This smacks of “I’m going to have to be a human and put myself second for a while and I don’t think I can’t be arsed.”
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