Meet the Other Phone. Child-safe in minutes.

Meet the Other Phone.
Child-safe in minutes.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

If you saw a pregnant woman pull down her mask for a few moments, would you confront her?

396 replies

ShutUpAlex · 24/04/2021 17:13

Had a woman confront me today I’m a supermarket for pulling my mask down for a few gulps of air. Suddenly felt very faint and breathless and just needed to suck in a few deep breaths, then returned the mask to my face.
Woman confronted me, accusing me of putting the whole store in danger and how people like me are the reason we are in this situation in the first place. She hadn’t confronted anyone else wearing lanyards, just me.

Was I being unreasonable? Should I have just left the store? Or was she being OTT.

OP posts:
GraceQuirrel · 25/04/2021 18:12

Nutty as the proverbial cake. Her only saving grace in my eyes as an ex retail worker is that she confronted you herself and didn't seek out some poor member of staff and expect them to have a go at her because they've got no balls to do so them self. That used to drive me mad and I would refuse if I didn't have an issue with their complaint myself. But no, you do what you want, I bet if you'd have been shopping with a man she would have said nothing!

Mermer11 · 25/04/2021 18:16

My baby is 9 months now. I wasn't even wearing mask in stores when pregnant. And wouldn't today if I was pregnant. You're breathing for your baby

Ddot · 25/04/2021 18:20

As long as your not stood right next to someone she was out of order in my opinion and I'm over the top, been wearing a mask since mid feb last year.
Wear a visor and drop your mask if you need a few breaths but be careful. Keep yourself and your little bump safe xxxx

Rowco · 25/04/2021 18:24

You are free to grab a gulp of air in. She is unreasonable.
On first reading your post I thought it said Would you comfort a pregnant person in this situation! Yes I would comfort and empathise.
Good luck with new baby.

Dontwanttolivewithmylover · 25/04/2021 18:26

No, definitely not, nor anyone else. They may have some valid reason for wanting to get some real fresh air into their lungs and possibly they wear the mask for others and may really be exempt but try to do right by others around them.

Teachertired92 · 25/04/2021 18:28

I’m pregnant and have to do the same as I keep getting so breathless. You did better than me as she would have got such a mouthful had she said it to me! I’ve been flying off the handle so much recently!! You keep looking after yourself and baby and ignore the mental cases who think you pulling your mask down for 30 seconds will make so much difference! 💖

Weareallvirgins · 25/04/2021 18:30

Back off I would of said. Are u the covid coppers?

Malbals · 25/04/2021 18:32

She was ott and a bully
Forgot about her

Moonpeg · 25/04/2021 18:32

I would have told her to piss right off! I’m not pregnant and I have to take my mask down now and then as I feel sick. I have probs with acid reflux and I feel sick sometimes and the masks don’t help.

Hushabyelullaby · 25/04/2021 18:34

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

IntermittentParps · 25/04/2021 18:34

I wouldn't confront anyone. I'm not pregnant and recently had to pull aside my mask for a moment in a cafe (was talking a bit fast and am very mildly claustrophobic and it's a bad combo sometimes). I said sorry for having to and explained.
No one minded.

plumpynoo · 25/04/2021 18:35

People are fucking nuts! I'm far more frightened of unreasonable nutjobs than I am of the virus!

Toffeegirl87 · 25/04/2021 18:35

In my shop I work at lots of customers don't wear masks and we're now not allowed to tell them to wear a mask or show an exemption card as one customer complained to head office he felt humiliated being asked to put a mask on 😑

Mumof32017 · 25/04/2021 18:36

She was clearly a nutjob. I had to do this on many occasions- you just need to breathe freely for a moment don’t you. She was most definitely being unreasonable.

Hushabyelullaby · 25/04/2021 18:37

Oops wrong thread, I've reported and requested it be moved to the right place.

And fwiw I think the woman wbvu.

winniestone37 · 25/04/2021 18:39

Ignore her, she’s a nutcase. I’m not pregnant and occasionally feel overwhelmed by the mask. She had no right to pick on you.

cherish123 · 25/04/2021 18:42

No. Although the pregnant part is really irrelevant.

GhoulWithADragonTattoo · 25/04/2021 18:44

Anyone is entitled to remove their mask if feeling faint or unwell. Being able to breath is more important than constant mask wearing. Some people can’t wear them so challenging anyone is pointless.

darklady64 · 25/04/2021 18:46

Total nutjob. Covid is bringing them out in droves. There is one woman in our village who dramatically clamps her hand over her mouth and nose even though there is about 10 feet between her. Doesn't wear a mask herself, of course. I'm so tempted to tell her next time she does it to me that she shouldn't be touching her face Grin

phodopus · 25/04/2021 18:50

@FortniteBoysMum

Firstly may I point out lanyards are for the legally exempt. Whilst I wouldn't have said anything to you I did to the old that wearing his mask under his bloody huge nose. Now that really passes me off. Either wear it properly or don't bother.
While not defending who wear their masks under their noses out of pure laziness, logically it would still have some effect so if somebody is really unable to wear a mask "properly", I'd rather they wore it under their nose if they can than not at all. Infections are spread by droplets. The nose is usually much drier than the mouth, hence less likely to be spewing droplets.
VK456 · 25/04/2021 18:53

Some people have no imagination whatsoever. Ignore it.
I’m shocked that you had to buy your own masks when working in healthcare!

Shirls22 · 25/04/2021 18:59

I had a very unpleasant man shout at me outside the vet a couple of weeks ago “ did I not care about social distancing, how dare I go near him” I was at the vet, outside, picking up some food and medication for my dog, I dropped the medicine on the floor and bent down to pick it up as he walked round the back of his car. I had a mask on, I m a nurse, I work in the vaccination centre, I m vaccinated and tested twice weekly but I m still very careful about social distancing and advise others on what to do, at first I didn’t realise he was shouting at me, I was very pleasant to him and apologised if he felt I was too close momentarily but I was very shaken by the whole thing and the vitriolic way he was speaking to me. Sadly it has brought out the worst in some people

nannykatherine · 25/04/2021 19:00

She’s a nazi
I’ve pulled my mask down for a few secs to cool down and I’m not pregnant

conjourbonjour · 25/04/2021 19:05

Also pregnant and find it really really hard to wear a mask at the moment, I’m not overweight but I am permanently breathing like I’ve just run a marathon. No lie, I would have decked her I reckon 🤣

DanceItOut · 25/04/2021 19:06

Unless you were breathing right in my face then no of course not. Pregnancy is hard and makes you breathless even without the mask. And masks can make anyone feel claustrophobic or breathless without being pregnant. Everyone is trying their best and that’s what matters.