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If you saw a pregnant woman pull down her mask for a few moments, would you confront her?

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ShutUpAlex · 24/04/2021 17:13

Had a woman confront me today I’m a supermarket for pulling my mask down for a few gulps of air. Suddenly felt very faint and breathless and just needed to suck in a few deep breaths, then returned the mask to my face.
Woman confronted me, accusing me of putting the whole store in danger and how people like me are the reason we are in this situation in the first place. She hadn’t confronted anyone else wearing lanyards, just me.

Was I being unreasonable? Should I have just left the store? Or was she being OTT.

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Itsokthanks · 24/04/2021 18:07

I'm not pregnant and have had to do the same to get some fresh air. She's an idiot and a busy body.

cookiecreampie · 24/04/2021 18:08

I'd have taken the mask off and told her to mind her own business.

Jimdandy · 24/04/2021 18:08

Absolutely batty take no notice!! I’ve never worn a mask (medically exempt) just crazy

fakeplantsdontlookreal · 24/04/2021 18:08

I'm one for following the rules, but I would have told her to stop being so pathetic. I have removed my own mask for a few moments on the odd occasion in a shop when feeling a bit hot and overwhelmed (I'm not pregnant). I figure it's less of a covid risk to everyone to do that then to faint and keel over , which I do have form for if I get too hot.

Footloosefancyfree · 24/04/2021 18:09

Just awful op I had a customer on poolside ( I'm a swimming teacher) who was struggling to breathe as she had COPD plus its very warm sitting on the side. She said she might need to pull the mask on and get her breathe and put it back on. I told her she was exempt and to take the mask off completely I much rather her being comfortable than passing out.

Deathraystare · 24/04/2021 18:09

I feel for you. I have a lung infection and still wear a mask but every so often have to pull it off to breathe! My friends say don't wear one but I am so used to it and feel I should continue to wear one.

Ohnomoreno · 24/04/2021 18:09

The masks are pretty much evidence free in terms of effectiveness. But yeah obviously it's great to signal your overall willingness to make sacrifices. So I'm that respect I guess she was just doing what's standard in this wonderful world, and finding a witch to burn.

Butwasitherdriveway · 24/04/2021 18:10

@ShutUpAlex

Had a woman confront me today I’m a supermarket for pulling my mask down for a few gulps of air. Suddenly felt very faint and breathless and just needed to suck in a few deep breaths, then returned the mask to my face. Woman confronted me, accusing me of putting the whole store in danger and how people like me are the reason we are in this situation in the first place. She hadn’t confronted anyone else wearing lanyards, just me.

Was I being unreasonable? Should I have just left the store? Or was she being OTT.

Ignore. Idiot.

ShinyGreenElephant · 24/04/2021 18:11

Stupid bitch. I had to do that a lot on hot days in late pregnancy and the only comments I got was from staff telling me I was welcome to take it off if I needed to. Dont give her another thought, shes probably devastated that the pandemic is nearly over

Imnothereforthedrama · 24/04/2021 18:11

Yeah completely unreasonable but there was a similar thread earlier this year not a pregnant lady though but was told off for removing her mask for a few moments. There was a lot that said she was unreasonable so it shows that things are changing.
I don’t believe anyone should be told off , you’ve made the effort to wear a mask but if you feel unwell you remove it there is nothing wrong in that I can’t understand why anyone would say otherwise.

romdowa · 24/04/2021 18:13

I'd have told her where to go. I'm 11 weeks and have hg, the masks make me feel so sick. Some days I wear them , some days I just can't . Today I could wear it but had to take it off a few times for air. I'm guessing as the summer goes on I'll be able to wear it less and less.

anyoldtime · 24/04/2021 18:15

The alternative potentially was you would have fainted on the floor and your mask would have been pulled off immediately.

I hope you feel ok OP. It is going to be hard to wear masks while pregnant when the weather is warm and it is only going to get warmer.

PickAChew · 24/04/2021 18:15

@ShutUpAlex

I’m ok! I usually quite enjoy causing a scene but had my 6 year old with me and I was concentrating very hard on not being sick!

If ever there was a time when you were going to be sick in public (not suggesting you'd do it deliberately, obviously) it's on the shoes of an arsehole like this.

RaspberryCoulis · 24/04/2021 18:16

I wouldn't confront ANYONE who pulled their mask down.

Some people are just arses though and Covid has been their wet dream to allow their arsehole tendencies to come to the fore.

Trunkysbun · 24/04/2021 18:22

I have to whip my mask down at every checkout I go to as my 'Face ID' doesn't recognise me with my mask on and no, I can't use my card I lost it months ago!

She sounds a nob

aiwblam · 24/04/2021 18:32

She’s a bully. Ignore. She just wanted to make you feel shit because bullies are nasty.

InFiveMins · 24/04/2021 18:34

She's batty OP, ignore her.

I've had 3 separate incidents where men have told me to "STAND BACK!" in a supermarket - and another man tried to reprimand me for temporarily forgetting to use the one way system in the corner shop. Every single time they were told to piss off and mind their own business, and I suggest anyone confronted by these strange unpaid COVID policing volunteers tells them to do the same

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ShutUpAlex · 24/04/2021 18:39

@InFiveMins
My fiancé does the STAND BACK thing to me, really loudly very embarrassing!

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mogloveseggs · 24/04/2021 18:39

Ridiculous person. You want to see us in work dashing back into the kitchen
/back door to take the masks off and breathe (I'm a waitress and we don't have to wear them in the kitchen). Don't worry about it op

RaeRaeMama · 24/04/2021 18:40

@ShutUpAlex

Had a woman confront me today I’m a supermarket for pulling my mask down for a few gulps of air. Suddenly felt very faint and breathless and just needed to suck in a few deep breaths, then returned the mask to my face. Woman confronted me, accusing me of putting the whole store in danger and how people like me are the reason we are in this situation in the first place. She hadn’t confronted anyone else wearing lanyards, just me.

Was I being unreasonable? Should I have just left the store? Or was she being OTT.

She sounds like a loon!

MrsR87 · 24/04/2021 18:43

Absolutely not! I found out I was pregnant on the first day of the first lockdown last year and so I spent all of my pregnancy under some form of measures! I totally agree with face masks and always wore one but there were a couple of occasions over summer when shopping in Sainsbury’s when I almost fainted. I must have looked ill and unsteady on my feet as the staff were great and said I could remove me mask if I needed, they also made me sit down and scanned and packed all my shopping too! I was so grateful.

I hope you are okay! She should have asked if you were okay...that’s what I do now if I see someone in a similar situation. X

thefallthroughtheair · 24/04/2021 18:48

People have become so horrible. You were not in the wrong and if she's that scared she should be hiding away not going out and about bullying people.

Roselilly36 · 24/04/2021 18:50

YANBU OP, people turning on each other, due to fear, is the knock on effect sadly.

SamW98 · 24/04/2021 18:50

@thefallthroughtheair

People have become so horrible. You were not in the wrong and if she's that scared she should be hiding away not going out and about bullying people.

I agree. If people are so scared of someone taking a couple of gulps of air, then maybe they shouldn't be going out in public

OP - Its a horrible thing to happen to you and I just hope you know that its her with the problem not you

1990shopefulftm · 24/04/2021 18:51

Of course, you weren't being unreasonable, i found out I was pregnant last February and wouldn't hold it against any pregnant woman if they decided they couldn't comfortably wear a mask at all.

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