To only serve vegan food at my wedding.

[inthewest]

My partner and myself are both vegan. We want to serve an only vegan menu from an excellent vegan caterer. I know people aren't a fan of "fake meat" and we've deliberately chosen to not have anything of that sort. Our menu will include many options and will cater to allergies and dietary needs such as celiac. The food is delicious, is very "us" and reflects us as couple.

We have had pushback from my partners family. Adult family. I'm fully prepared to cater for children but not adults. Our thinking is that it's one meal.

@I0NA

But I've politely eaten a plain fruit starter and dessert with a limp salad main at plenty of weddings over the years, smiled and nodded that it was great and just enjoyed being part of the day

Ah that’s what they always feed coeliacs / gluten intolerant people at weddings, I didn’t realise it was the vegan option. Once I was brought an apple for desert at a wedding , while everyone else around me tucked into a choice of amazing cakes and puddings.

I’ve had that meal on a plane. I think it is just the generic “special diet option”

One dish containing no nuts, dairy, wheat, meat products, soy, fish, eggs or sugar. Suitable for vegetarians, vegans, diabetics, coeliacs, all religious dietary restrictions, and all allergies. No wonder it is always grim

As another vegan I would love it, not being the odd one out, being the awkward one getting some weird vegan meal, Iast wedding I was at I got vegetable samosas with traditional roast veg that everyone else was having with their bland chicken and of course fruit salad for dessert.

@littlepattilou

As if Indian food and vegan shite is even comparable

Better be silent and thought a fool, than to open your mouth & remove all doubt

IIRC, last time we had this thread everyone was supportive until OP posted the actual menu & then the vipers tore it apart.

I can make a meal out of crisps so won't mind as long as I get fed decent tasting calories. But I gather quality of food is quite important to many people.

I am sympathetic to the argument that People would readily trash a meat eating couple who literally offered nothing vegetarian at their wedding for the relevant guests -- even though they knew vegetarians were attending.

I think it’s absolutely fine! I’d love to see the delicious menu too, just to I can vicariously enjoy it I’m not vegan (or veggie) but I’d happily eat the food.

I don’t think it’s at all the same as someone serving you only meat and animal products. No one objects to vegetables for ethical reasons! Some people don’t like them I guess but they can eat the bread rolls and drink I’m sure plenty of booze will help!

We recently went to a vegan wedding, food was good no issues there. Setting was lovely good bunch of people. But the vegan drinks were terrible and no alcohol was served full stop. No proper milk for a cuppa or coffee either. I have to admit this let it all down, so I would worry more about decent vegan drinks menu. Some fun mocktails or the like. But in short if it's all tasty my family is happy to go vegan for a wedding.

Urgh do it OP! Just to weed out the insufferable guests who call vegetables “cack” like a genuine child and they’ll be so offended they won’t come. Imagine throwing a tantrum about being served vegetables

I did get a lukewarm stir fry once which was a step up. The bride was asking if all was ok so even though it was pretty dire I reassured her it was lovely with a big smile.
The guy next to me complained to her that the chicken was dry!!! She looked mortified

This is nonsense. A meat eater can quite easily eat one vegan meal. A vegan/vegetarian can’t eat one meat meal in the same way.

Can't, or won't? They are both just preferences. Some people prefer meat/dairy with their meals, vegans prefer to not have meat/dairy with their meals. It's about enjoyment of the meals, isn't it? Vegans often quote that non-vegans can eat a meat free meal just fine, which of course is true, but it wouldn't necessarily be something they would choose or particularly enjoy. But they are expected to just put up with it so others may enjoy their preference as their enjoyment takes priority.

@StillWeRise yes! Been to many a buffet at back of the queue and had crisps as all the veggi food was eaten by the meat eaters and there was still loads of meat left.

I think it's a great opportunity for non vegan people to taste great vegan food.

Committed omnivore here.
I'd expect it, and enjoy it x

Your wedding.
Your choice of food.
End of.

I saw someone up thread suggest not mentioning the food is vegan. Please don’t do this. If someone tucks in expecting a regular sausage or pours milk in their coffee they may think they are eating something perfectly safe that in fact will make them violently ill. When you have allergies you tend to stick to things that are likely to be safe and then when someone decides to get creative with the recipe it can really be a disaster.

But again, I fully support a vegan wedding, just make sure the caterer has ingredient lists available.

But the vegan drinks were terrible and no alcohol was served full stop.

It’s a different choice to have a dry wedding. Vegans drink alcohol. Lots of options available. I agree that tea and coffee are a problem so possibly best avoided.

The hostility and abuse to people saying they don't like vegan food is just silly. People are allowed to like what they like.

OP, have the wedding you want but understand you are making a conscious choice to provide food some won't enjoy. If you tell people in advance they can make their own arrangements or not attend.

I've got several Hindu friends. The food we all remember is from their weddings. It's amazing. It's vegan or veggie depending on belief but they don't feel the need to publicise it. Just do what you want.

@Toomuchtrouble4me

You can serve whatever you like but be prepared for people to think ‘nice wedding but the food was crap’ it depends on whether you care what your guests would like or what you want to serve - either is ok.

This is it for me. You’re not unreasonable to serve whatever you want to - but if you know your guests won’t enjoy it, then you do have to be prepared for them to remember that/not enjoy your day as much. (Whatever it is - be it vegan food or no alcohol at the reception or whatever.) Depends what you want to achieve.

We did a veggie wedding and we had so many compliments about the food. It's your wedding, it should reflect you x

@littlepattilou

As long as you are OK with going to someone's wedding, or party, or 'evening meal' and only being offered dairy and meat products, then yeah, go ahead and only offer vegan food at your wedding.

If you would not accept dairy or meat products in the food you were offered, then of COURSE you are being unreasonable to only offer vegan food to the guests at your wedding.

I can't believe you even have to ask!

That's not the same.

I'm assuming OP not eating animals or produce is a moral choice. Nobody morally chooses to avoid vegetation.

She's not proposing to serve anything offensive. Just plant based food.

I'm vegan, I say do whatever you want, you can still make the menu interesting, loads of varied vegan recipes

but understand you are making a conscious choice to provide food some won't enjoy.

What kind of grown adult needs meat at every meal to enjoy it?

I'm mostly vegan

Just make sure there is PLENTY of it

Vegan food in the most part is just not as calorific as other foods - this could lead to an interesting evening if there's a free bar

A few hundred vegan doughnuts will sort that

Is Kopi Luwak vegan?
It just popped in my head🙈

@KatharinaRosalie

I don't eat Indian food same as I don't eat food from other countries or the ingredients of vegan food

I am most puzzled by this comment? No vegetables, no grains? Just steak for every meal?

If it is the same poster as on another thread I read, I think crankley is a carnivore, I don't think they eat any fruit or veg or eggs. Its a valid dietary choice. As veganism is.