To only serve vegan food at my wedding.

[inthewest]

My partner and myself are both vegan. We want to serve an only vegan menu from an excellent vegan caterer. I know people aren't a fan of "fake meat" and we've deliberately chosen to not have anything of that sort. Our menu will include many options and will cater to allergies and dietary needs such as celiac. The food is delicious, is very "us" and reflects us as couple.

We have had pushback from my partners family. Adult family. I'm fully prepared to cater for children but not adults. Our thinking is that it's one meal.

@littlepattilou

As long as you are OK with going to someone's wedding, or party, or 'evening meal' and only being offered dairy and meat products, then yeah, go ahead and only offer vegan food at your wedding.

If you would not accept dairy or meat products in the food you were offered, then of COURSE you are being unreasonable to only offer vegan food to the guests at your wedding.

I can't believe you even have to ask!

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What a stupid post.

Embarrassed even to read it.

We went to the wedding of vegan friends a few years ago and they had a fully vegan menu and it was delicious. Most people eat vegetables and can live without meat/dairy etc. for a day.

@forinborin

I am not vegan but on this thread only to see the menu. From my very small-minded perspective, vegan options are not very compatible with what I would see as festive / haute cuisine catering... vegetarian I can see, but totally lost with vegan. Here to educate myself.

I'm not vegan either and IMHO festive / haute cuisine catering isn't very compatible with edible food. All the best food is peasant food from hot countries - fact.

I’m not vegan but the best food I’ve ever had at a wedding was vegan. Every other wedding has served some variation on the very standard chicken, potato and veg dish and honestly I couldn’t tell you what I ate at a single one. The vegan food on the other hand was beautifully prepared and had so many many different flavours.

I never understand people on these threads who insist it’s rude to serve vegan or that people won’t enjoy it. Vegan food is just the same food we all eat, minus the meat. It’s not something wildly different or special and absolutely nobody needs meat with every meal they eat!

Most food is vegan

All omnivores eat vegan food regularly without giving the "veganness" a second thought.

A bagel with jam, marmalade on toast, beans on toast, lentil soup, bag of chips, are all routinely consumed by omnivores.

I can't see a vegan meal is in any way remarkable.

@LucyFox

My major concern would be that I have some food allergies & they are to things that are very common in vegetarian/vegan food (tomatoes & mushrooms being two ...) I know I am safe with plain vegetables but people do insist on covering them in sauces and things which often contain ingredients I can’t eat. I have been to more than one event where the food was vegetarian “ so everyone can eat it” and literally the only thing I could eat was the bread roll/naan.

But surely you’d be the same with a non-vegan menu 😅🤔 if you have genuine allergies then you list them on the rsvp and I’m sure they’d happily cater to your needs.

@forinborin

I am not vegan but on this thread only to see the menu. From my very small-minded perspective, vegan options are not very compatible with what I would see as festive / haute cuisine catering... vegetarian I can see, but totally lost with vegan. Here to educate myself.

Just out of interest @forinborin - what vegetarian but not vegan dishes would comprise a good “festive/haute cuisine” menu in your eyes? 🤔

All omnivores eat vegan food regularly without giving the "veganness" a second thought.

A bagel with jam, marmalade on toast, beans on toast, lentil soup, bag of chips, are all routinely consumed by omnivores.

Most people I know would have butter on the toast options and lentil soup made with chicken stock so not vegan. I don't think I routinely eat any vegan meals.

I am vegan and we did this.

If people can't go without meat for one meal I don't want them at my wedding anyway.

Go for it. I would let guests know in advance though.
My friend's wedding meal was vegetarian and she had some guests being vile about the food. They were being knobs though, the food was delicious and it's your special day. Be prepared to find out which of your guests are narrow minded intolerant idiots.

What would the menu be OP?

Personally, I would always offer guests a choice of menu, ordered in advance on the RSVP (Vegan, Veggie or meat-eater) and cater accordingly.

Go for it. As you say it's only one meal and it might open some people's eye's to how tasty vegan/veggie food can be.

Wouldn't bother me. Work away

Are you not scared people won't find the nearest pub?
It was busy too and we all had to wait, bride and groom were crying all their guests left for decent grub.
It was awful food though and of course if you can't eat night shades, nuts, seeds, etc you are pretty knackered with vegan food.

Could you compromise and serve a mixture of vegan and vegetarian dishes?

Clearly OP isn't coming back so could someone who is vegan post what they would serve as a vegan wedding lunch / dinner? It might help understanding.

@planplan

I am vegan and we did this.

If people can't go without meat for one meal I don't want them at my wedding anyway.

Did you get lots of refusals, I wouldn't go if everyone wasn't being catered for. Why invite guests anyway if you are so nasty towards them?

Why invite guests anyway if you are so nasty towards them?

Why accept an invitation if you are so nasty you would make the bride cry by leaving the wedding to go to the pub?

Don't pander to the fussy eaters OP who can't eat food minus a few ingredients.

YellowScallion

You never eat anything vegan?
Every morsel of food you eat has some animal produce?

Even a banana? A bag of crisps?

I went to a vegan wedding a few years ago and it was THE BEST food I've ever had at a wedding. I'm a veggie and normally the veggie options are a bit crap, but this was just all utterly delicious and elegant and amazing. Do it! Do it! It's your wedding, why should you have to buy meat?!?!?!

@planplan you would go to a wedding and eat meat? If the bride and groom refused to cater for vegans?

YANBU so long as everyone knows. I realise this sounds silly, but some people really are such fussy eaters that they might find it quite difficult to go without meat and dairy for one meal. If they've been prewarned, they can make sure to have a meaty snack beforehand if they really think they can't survive otherwise.

Just out of interest@forinborin- what vegetarian but not vegan dishes would comprise a good “festive/haute cuisine” menu in your eyes?
I used "haute cuisine" more in jest here, I agree with a previous poster that it does not necessarily equal tasty. But, cheese nd butter usually improves any dish, and I cannot think out of top of my head of any vegan dessert in my life that I tried and liked. But as I said, I really want to explore it more - I am ordering now a vegetarian recipe box from one of popular services, and it goes surprisingly smoothly.

Absolutely have a vegan wedding (as a meat eater). It’s your wedding and I want you to enjoy it and be comfortable!