To only serve vegan food at my wedding.

[inthewest]

My partner and myself are both vegan. We want to serve an only vegan menu from an excellent vegan caterer. I know people aren't a fan of "fake meat" and we've deliberately chosen to not have anything of that sort. Our menu will include many options and will cater to allergies and dietary needs such as celiac. The food is delicious, is very "us" and reflects us as couple.

We have had pushback from my partners family. Adult family. I'm fully prepared to cater for children but not adults. Our thinking is that it's one meal.

@Comefromaway my post was in response to someone who said they didn't 'eat any vegan ingredients'.... I assume they do of course.

@SionnachRua

And tbh I wouldn't be giving kids a non-vegan option at a vegan wedding. Either pasta with tomato sauce or a big plate of chips and beans (maybe quorn nuggets could be offered too, they don't have to eat them if they don't like them) would keep most kids happy. Children seem like the easiest to please in this scenario!

Agree! Don’t give kids a non-vegan option either. Where I live, the schools and nurseries are ALL vegetarian. No kid I know would notice the lack of meat or dairy.

You’re paying for this food, you should buy food you feel ethically ok with serving.

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable to serve no meat but delicious food for all, including the children. :) Have a wonderful wedding day and happy marriage!

If the food at this wedding were to be catered by someone like Simon Rimmer, I can tell you, no-one would miss the meat or poultry option! The food here is wonderful, even my carnivore husband enjoyed it!
www.greensdidsbury.co.uk/menus/a-la-carte/

@SionnachRua

And tbh I wouldn't be giving kids a non-vegan option at a vegan wedding. Either pasta with tomato sauce or a big plate of chips and beans (maybe quorn nuggets could be offered too, they don't have to eat them if they don't like them) would keep most kids happy. Children seem like the easiest to please in this scenario!

Offer that menu to all the fussy fuckers whether they're 5 or 55.

Risotto doesn’t need any cheese necessarily.

@tabulahrasa

“When I read that I assume that they eat nothing but disgusting over-cooked veg you can drink through a straw, disgusting overcooked meat, and fish and chips.“

But potatoes are fairly famously from another country... so...

To be fair no food is native to the UK... even the stuff that's been eaten for thousands of years all migrated or was seeded from mainland europe as the ice age receded.

Offer that menu to all the fussy fuckers whether they're 5 or 55.

Chips and beans, now you’re talking. Yum.

“To be fair no food is native to the UK... even the stuff that's been eaten for thousands of years all migrated or was seeded from mainland europe as the ice age receded.”

Well exactly... which is why I was wondering what counts as food from other countries, lol

Argh I feel your pain OP. My dad was like this at my wedding - he actually told me that people wouldn't come if they knew it was all vegan. I told him if eating animal products was more important that being with us on our special day I didn't want those people at my wedding anyway. He still grumbled and moaned but we didn't budge. Nobody declined because of the food

Well the Op is to be congratulated, starts a stealthy Vegans v Meat eaters thread and then vanishes like smoke. 35 pages without any real arguments is pretty unusual for this topic too

Wow! is this a record?
OP hasn't been back despite 886 replies.

@TheKeatingFive

Offer that menu to all the fussy fuckers whether they're 5 or 55.

Genius! And have them serve it on cartoon character plastic plates, whatever the age of the recipient.

I’d serve a fully vegan menu @inthewest 😊 I’m sure the food will be absolutely delicious! I can’t understand this thing that people have with moaning over wedding meals - you’re being fed for free! Either eat it or don’t lol 😳 I’m quite a picky eater (I eat mainly vegan although I’m not overly strictly) and if there’s a choice of options I’ve always just picked the one that sounds like it has the most things on the plate I’d eat and left anything I didn’t want! I once RSVPd to a wedding along with SIL and she filled the card up with scribbles about her DH not eating mushrooms and her not eating tomatoes and neither liking boiled potatoes and DH preferring any sauces served separately 😳😳😳 I was mortified!! I couldn’t believe people actually do that!

Can we see a sample menu? 😊 I would definitely agree with no “meat substitutes” but I doubt a good vegan caterer would resort to that anyway 😊

Genius! And have them serve it on cartoon character plastic plates, whatever the age of the recipient.

Idk...I reckon if I went to a wedding and
someone handed me a pile of chips on a Powerpuff Girls plate, I'd be happy as a pig in shite. Could be counter productive

My major concern would be that I have some food allergies & they are to things that are very common in vegetarian/vegan food (tomatoes & mushrooms being two ...) I know I am safe with plain vegetables but people do insist on covering them in sauces and things which often contain ingredients I can’t eat.
I have been to more than one event where the food was vegetarian “ so everyone can eat it” and literally the only thing I could eat was the bread roll/naan.

So many people on this thread are so keen to emphasise how “delicious” vegan food is. If you say so.

Lots of Veggies and vegans in my family so been to a few weddings.We went to a veggie wedding where you it was lots of different dishes on the middle of the table and then you served what you wanted. Thought that worked quite well. You are right it's one day. Kids are a bit tricky but mine happily eat things like veggie burgers, vegan pasta etc and we do eat meat (although not lots) so I'm sure you could have vegan friendly for kids too

What I don’t get though is what do the people saying ‘I’d be starving, I wouldn’t eat anything’ want the OP to do. Would vegetarian be ok? Would pescatarian. If people are fussy, chances are they’d be a pain to cater for with a set menu anyway. The OP might need to make some adjustments for allergies etc but even if she went the whole hog and added in lamb or something, she’d still get people complaining.

went the whole hog and added in lamb or something

or even actual hog?

RED DRAGON PIE

And here's the actual flipping link.

I am not vegan but on this thread only to see the menu.
From my very small-minded perspective, vegan options are not very compatible with what I would see as festive / haute cuisine catering... vegetarian I can see, but totally lost with vegan. Here to educate myself.

@ArcheryAnnie - yep. You can do it in the microwave as well but it doesn't crisp as well.

@TheKeatingFive

Offer that menu to all the fussy fuckers whether they're 5 or 55.

What a lovely sentiment. I'm sure guests would be thrilled to be described in such a charming way.