To only serve vegan food at my wedding.

[inthewest]

My partner and myself are both vegan. We want to serve an only vegan menu from an excellent vegan caterer. I know people aren't a fan of "fake meat" and we've deliberately chosen to not have anything of that sort. Our menu will include many options and will cater to allergies and dietary needs such as celiac. The food is delicious, is very "us" and reflects us as couple.

We have had pushback from my partners family. Adult family. I'm fully prepared to cater for children but not adults. Our thinking is that it's one meal.

I wish people would stop pretending this is what would be on the menu for a vegan wedding.

What, you think there wouldn’t be the option of things like potatoes, bread, pasta, rice at a vegan wedding? Seriously?

What I would like to see at vegan (and veggie) weddings is a showcase of different meals (exotic or otherwise).

Often the meals are the same bland foods that are complained about in restaurants etc.

And I am another that can't eat mushrooms or some of the fake meat.

Good point. India has the biggest vegetarian population in the world. Not quite so sure about vegan

There's a small vegetarian Indian Street food chain near us that regulary features in all the national papers, food mags, blogs etc due to delicious food.

About 80% of the small menu is vegan or can be made vegan with minimal adjustment.

Only things off limits to vegans are the two paneer dishes.

@RaiseTheBeastie

Because someone being teetotal cause they're just not arsed is different to someone not serving meat because they don't agree with animal slaughter.

If the analogy had been an alcoholic not wanting drink served at their wedding, that o can understand.

I'm still amazed by the number of people expecting that there would be chips at a wedding breakfast.

It's usually a posh sit down meal, I've never been offered chips at a wedding breakfast in my life!

I think that's what people find especially difficult, the style of food you usually have as part of a wedding breakfast is different to what tends to be the tastiest forms of vegan food. It's hard to make a chickpea curry or spicy bean fajitas look fancy on a plate as part of a 3 course meal.

@WhenISnappedAndFarted

It's your wedding - do what you want!

Horrible attitude not to consider what your guests might enjoy eating who have probably forked out on outfits, travel and gifts to attend your wedding.

Cater for your guests. Do you want them to look back and think what a lovely wedding that was, or to think they didn't enjoy the food?

Cater for your guests. Do you want them to look back and think what a lovely wedding that was, or to think they didn't enjoy the food?

Presumably the op is choosing food she thinks the guests will enjoy. Just without meat or dairy.

My husband and I are meat eaters but did not expect our wedding guests who were both vegan and vegetarian to eat meat and our menu reflected this in the choice of meals
Any wedding I have been to always has offered vegan/ vegetarian or meat choices
I don’t understand why if you want to have your wedding with family and friends you would not cater for them
Paying for guests to have a meal the for them not to eat it would annoy me especially with the cost attached to weddings these days
Why can’t you offer a meat choice ?

I'm still amazed by the number of people expecting that there would be chips at a wedding breakfast.

I mentioned chips and bread to make chip butties in a tongue in cheek way as people were saying they wouldn't be able to eat vegan food and one person had cried from hunger after not being able to eat the vegan food at a wedding.

It's hard to make a chickpea curry or spicy bean fajitas look fancy on a plate as part of a 3 course meal

Or course it's not hard. You serve the chick pea curry as part of a Thali plate, which looks very festive.

A Mexican themed meal could be served family style or have some mini soft tacos plated nicely with artfully arranged sauces and salads etc.

I don't eat Indian food same as I don't eat food from other countries or the ingredients of vegan food“

What the bloody hell DO you eat then?

Why does a wedding meal need to look fancy? I’ve been to some lovely weddings with a buffet main meal. It’s what it tastes like that matters most.

@PurpleDaisies

Cater for your guests. Do you want them to look back and think what a lovely wedding that was, or to think they didn't enjoy the food?

Presumably the op is choosing food she thinks the guests will enjoy. Just without meat or dairy.

But as people have said on this thread, not everyone likes vegan food!

There's a lot of judgement on this thread. I don't give 2 fucks what others eat or how fussy they are. Yes there is huge rise in veganism and there are some very tasty vegan dishes but perhaps at at wedding where there is no alternative is not the time to try them.

I'm a meat eater but I also enjoy veggie or sometimes vegan food. But everyone is different. Some are fussier than others. Food should be enjoyed not something to be endured.

At a wedding or function I would want my guests to relax and enjoy the food. I wouldn't want them to go hungry because they didn't like it.

@bendoverbackwards

Anyone who only remembers the food isn't really worth having in the first place.

@iklboo

I don't eat Indian food same as I don't eat food from other countries or the ingredients of vegan food“

What the bloody hell DO you eat then?

Steak and chicken 😂😂 sounds like my in-laws!

What a bloody ridiculous statement to make! Won't eat anything from another country or the ingredients of any vegan food. Their nutrition must be absolutely shocking.

Of course YANBU. Those saying you wouldn't go - a friend served hog roast at hers, another served chicken (both had veg options for vegans and vegetarians). Would you not go if you didn't love pork or chicken? Ridiculous. Of course you can eat vegan for one meal. Mushroom risotto is vegan, you never had that?

@llm24

My husband and I are meat eaters but did not expect our wedding guests who were both vegan and vegetarian to eat meat and our menu reflected this in the choice of meals Any wedding I have been to always has offered vegan/ vegetarian or meat choices I don’t understand why if you want to have your wedding with family and friends you would not cater for them Paying for guests to have a meal the for them not to eat it would annoy me especially with the cost attached to weddings these days Why can’t you offer a meat choice ?

Yes exactly. Caterers can offer a meat or vegan option. It isn't difficult and everyone will be happy.

Why can’t you offer a meat choice?

Can you really not think of a reason why two vegans wouldn’t offer a meat choice? Really?

We've been privileged to be invited to many friends meals over the years. We've had the traditional meat roast, curries, vegetarian and buffet style main meals. All of them have been lovely.

I wouldn't have any problem with a vegan wedding breakfast - I've never had truly vegan food as an 'only option' meal and I'd see it as a chance to try it properly, cooked by a chef who can do it justice. Like the difference between my Sunday roast and a roast meal in a good restaurant.

As for the 'I can't eat this or that'. That's fine. Put it in the RSVP and a good chef with accommodate. When we got married we had a vegetarian main as well as the meat main (we eat meat). Many of the meat eaters decided they liked the idea of the vegetarian main and we ended up with half and half choices. Three people were coeliac (one couldn't eat corn either - dramatic stomach problems if they had it). One person couldn't tolerate diary, one had a nut allergy and my best friend can't eat 'forest fruits' - like blackberries, strawberries etc. Her lips swell violently if she does so it's dangerous. Our chef came up with alternatives for them and the person who couldn't have diary was given a separate jug of non-diary milk for their tea and coffee.

It's not difficult to accommodate everyone - a good chef can.

As for the bringing your own milk - absolutely fine. My sister has a skin complaint that can be triggered by too much dairy so she always takes soya milk with her to functions just in case. No-one notices and if they do she just explains. It's nothing to get het up about.

And, ultimately, a wedding invitation is that. Not a summons so if they really don't like it they can stay at home.

Enjoy your wedding!

[quote Butwasitherdriveway]@bendoverbackwards

Anyone who only remembers the food isn't really worth having in the first place.[/quote]
Eh?? I remember the food at quite a few of the functions I have been to.

It’s your wedding, so of course you’re not unreasonable but I’d be disappointed with a vegan meal. I’d eat it but I would for sure be disappointed, the food is one of the best part of the wedding and when it’s crap you do remember it!

I’m not saying everyone thinks vegan food is crap, but it doesn’t suit my personal tastes but all your friends may love it!

@bendmeoverbackwards ONLY remembers the food. As in, you said remembering the food or the wedding.

@AgathaAllAlong

Of course YANBU. Those saying you wouldn't go - a friend served hog roast at hers, another served chicken (both had veg options for vegans and vegetarians). Would you not go if you didn't love pork or chicken? Ridiculous. Of course you can eat vegan for one meal. Mushroom risotto is vegan, you never had that?

Risotto with vegan parmesan??

@inthewest another thought is you would never be forced to eat meat at a wedding because that’s what the bride and groom eat... after all it’s only one meal, can you just eat meat for one meal!?

I catered for all different diets at my wedding. As I wanted people to enjoy themselves.

Presumably guests are aware you are vegan?

Veg-based menu = fine
Fake meat menu = I'd be iffy about