To only serve vegan food at my wedding.

[inthewest]

My partner and myself are both vegan. We want to serve an only vegan menu from an excellent vegan caterer. I know people aren't a fan of "fake meat" and we've deliberately chosen to not have anything of that sort. Our menu will include many options and will cater to allergies and dietary needs such as celiac. The food is delicious, is very "us" and reflects us as couple.

We have had pushback from my partners family. Adult family. I'm fully prepared to cater for children but not adults. Our thinking is that it's one meal.

@MaMaD1990 can I come to your wedding? It sounds delicious.

@littlepattilou

As long as you are OK with going to someone's wedding, or party, or 'evening meal' and only being offered dairy and meat products, then yeah, go ahead and only offer vegan food at your wedding.

If you would not accept dairy or meat products in the food you were offered, then of COURSE you are being unreasonable to only offer vegan food to the guests at your wedding.

I can't believe you even have to ask!

I can't get past the thick ignorance in this post. Vegans don't eat meat or dairy because it is against their morals. They can't eat it due to their beliefs. There is absolutely no reason someone who usually eats it can't go without it for one day. Theyve likely even done it accidentally in the past. If you really don't know the difference between those two scenarios I have no words for you.

Go for it.

I dont get the panic about. Meat eaters eat vege and vegan every day without even realising but thr secind you mention something being vegan or vege they act as if they are about to burst onto flames. Funny how at many buffets the vege stuff goes first leaving the actual heges with nothing and then the meat eaters get all the Meat based stuff too.

Meat waters can eat vege or vegan dishes. Vegans cant eat meat or dairy dishes. That's That's difference. Vegetarian and vegan food is suitable for everyone ( allergies permitting)

I reckon you should just not tell them.people eat stuff quite happily until they find out what it is.

haven't RTFT but go for it. There is absolutely no need to mention that it's vegan, though. Just do the usual asking for allergies etc and go for it.

Id be fine with this as long as they are good vegan caterers and there are a variety of options like more buffet style. One of our neighbours runs a vegan deli and her foodnis amazing, she's not your skinny vegan stereotype, she's quite a big lady and makes amazing pizzas, pastries, curries etc. If it's just a sit down meal with 1 or 2 options that would be harder because there is less options for people.

And they can’t eat delicious vegan food for one meal why again?

Everyone is different and not everyone will think its "delicious". On these type of threads people can bend over backwards to emphasise how great it would be whereas in real life the food would be a hot topic of conversation for the wrong reasons.

[quote supersonicginandtonic]@MaMaD1990 can I come to your wedding? It sounds delicious.[/quote]
Thank you! Can you imagine if a MN crowd turned up? You could do a quiz of AIBU in the evening and watch the furniture fly!

Why would you warn them? People can manage a day without cheese and meat.

And risk your special day being marred by people grumbling about the food?

Your wedding your rules and vegan food can taste just as good m, if not better, than a meaty menu.

If someone chooses not to go to ur wedding because u offered them vegan food and they cant cope for one day, then i would reconsider that relationship.

IMO it depends. If you are vegan because you object to meat for ethical or environmental reasons then I think you should stick to your guns this one. The ethics of the situation don't change because it's a wedding.

OTOH if you are vegan for health reasons I think you should serve meat if that's what your guest will prefer. It's not reasonable to push your health choices onto them.

@NoIDontWatchLoveIsland

I'd be concerned if you were only offering vegan food for children. Children should not be given restricted diets.

One day of not eating meat or dairy going to harm them. If I were the op I'd offer children beans on toast (how bizarre of me!) Vegetable fingers beans and chips (so restricted!) A vegan cheese and tomato pizza (I realise processed cheese is SO good for children! I do, but one portion with a plant based cheese isn't likely to kill them so I'd breathe out a bit and just hope it doesn't this time) hummus and crackers/doughballs or similar, chocolate cake made from a vegan recipe (gross to make it without eggs in it, of course it is that's why my friends little girl (3 isn't tactful age)! Told me recently mine is the nicest she's ever tasted) Etc etc etc. I've done loads of other child free vegan food before but I've not got all morning to type. Grow up.

It's not reasonable to push your health choices onto them

What do you think.is going to happen if you swap out the pesto on the pasta fir a vegan version?

My brother is vegan and i full expect a vegan wedding, i dont like the vegan food ive tried , had few meals with him , but as it his wedding i would completely support his choices and id hoped to be pleasantly suprised. And even if i didnt enjoy the food, its not why i was there.

I catered for vegetarians and vegans at our wedding. Why would you not have the good manners to do the same?

Very unreasonable.

Veganism is rarely a health thing IME
Also to those saying about guests not liking the food or grumbling about it, I've not been to a wedding where at least some people have done this,and I've never been to a vegan wedding..

Meat eaters can eat vege food though. They are cated fir

Actually it maybe half indian wedding too, as his partner is Indian and i really dislike indian food, really hate spice. But i wouldnt refuse to go , i would be pleased, he wanted me to be there and he invited me and eat what i could. And if i didnt eat much that day then oh well its one day.

And risk your special day being marred by people grumbling about the food?

A lot of people on this thread are talking about veganism like it's a case of preferring the flavour of one thing over another. Whatever your personal feelings on it, just try for a moment to imagine something you find really, really awful and sad and terrible, then try to imagine spending your wedding knowing you're contributing to that thing and totally going against your own values to keep people from "grumbling" and a meal you've paid for.

It would never cross my mind to serve animal products at my wedding. My daily life is spend carefully avoiding all animal products wherever I can. It's very important to me. I can't imagine any reason on the most special bday of my life doing it differently.

Your wedding, your rules.
Plus vegan food is delicious and good for the environment.
Enjoy your wedding op x

I love eating food I haven’t had to prepare myself. I might notice, but it certainly wouldn’t bother me!

I can’t imagine complaining about food at a wedding ever (even if I didn’t like it). I’d eat it anyway and enjoy the day.

See all the... why wouldn’t vegans cater for meat people...

Do you all really not know why? Are you honestly that ignorant about veganism?

I’m not vegan, I’d be genuinely surprised to find anything other than vegan food at the wedding of two vegans.

I would be more surprised if you gave them meat - why on earth would you do that if you are vegan ?

Lots of my family are vegan so it is pretty normal for us to have a vegan Christmas Day etc, although we are pescatarian (I hate that word) so we would not have turkey anyway.
None of the family eat meat/fish at any time when we are with our vegan side of the family as that’s just not a nice thing to do.

DH and I are vegetarian and served only vegetarian food at our wedding. We weren't willing to compromise our beliefs and anyone close enough to us to be at our wedding would never have expected meat to be served

It's one meal, no-one will die of lack of meat! If you want a vegan wedding then go for it

The vegans on here are carefully not responding to my valid point that most people aren't used to eating vegan food. It is usually either higher carb in order to get enough calories or lower carb and you need to eat a LOT of it to get enough nutrition.

You will get quite a lot of people who will struggle feeling bloaty as they are not used to the carbs, or hungry because they aren't used to eating a bigger portion in order to get enough calories.

It really depends on what is more important to you - providing a treat meal your guests will love, or upholding your own moral position. Its absolutely fine if it's the latter but don't expect everyone to share your view that the food is delicious or rave about it.