Page 17 | To only serve vegan food at my wedding.

inthewest · 2021-04-23T20:44:47+00:00

My partner and myself are both vegan. We want to serve an only vegan menu from an excellent vegan caterer. I know people aren't a fan of "fake meat" and we've deliberately chosen to not have anything of that sort. Our menu will include many options and will cater to allergies and dietary needs such as celiac. The food is delicious, is very "us" and reflects us as couple. We have had pushback from my partners family. Adult family. I'm fully prepared to cater for children but not adults. Our thinking is that it's one meal.

garlictwist · 24/04/2021 06:14

I think it's fine. I eat meat but steer clear of fake vegan meat and cheese as it's rank. If it's genuinely real food that happens to be vegan I don't see a problem.

Vegan desserts are always a bit disappointing though...

Mrgrinch · 24/04/2021 06:30

I wouldn't go. How is it that vegans manage to make their entire life revolve around their diet?

PatrickBatemann · 24/04/2021 06:31

@Mrgrinch

I wouldn't go. How is it that vegans manage to make their entire life revolve around their diet?

idrinkchocolatemilk · 24/04/2021 06:35

I think you will be wasting your money.

Neolara · 24/04/2021 06:37

I'm veggie and cook a lot of vegan dishes at home so I wouldn't object to the principle of vegan food at a wedding. However, I have almost never had a pleasant vegan meal in a restaurant so I would be concerned about most caterer's ability to produce anything decent. I've even had terrible vegan food at a supposedly great vegan restaurant. I think because being vegan has become quite fashionable, restaurants are offering vegan food now but without really understanding how to make them properly ( including enough / any protein, making them taste nice, decent texture etc).

I would also be sad if I couldn't have normal milk in my tea.

Dustyhedge · 24/04/2021 06:46

Of course you can haves vegan wedding. People will live and there is loads of nice things that are vegan. I’m sure some people will moan though.

jelly79 · 24/04/2021 06:48

Those of you who would bring their own lunch. How rude!!

Couple invite you to celebrate their wedding and provide food for all the guests.

Sulky Susan rustling the foil off spam butties in the corner because there are no pork chops. Have a day off

Vegan food for the meal at the wedding of a vegan couple shouldn't even raise an eyebrow!!

GappyValley · 24/04/2021 06:51

@Mrgrinch

I wouldn't go. How is it that vegans manage to make their entire life revolve around their diet?

You wouldn’t go to the wedding of people you love, because you wouldn’t get any ham or cheese?

And you would justify it by thinking the couple are making it all about them for the day?

For real?

Boytrio · 24/04/2021 06:55

Hi, I'm also getting married but with a vegetarian menu - also with some pushback. I think the opposition were more scared because of the lack of control as opposed to going without meat for one meal. As such I've asked the caterers to suggest another veggie main in addition to the one I want, which I will put on the invite to allow people to choose in advance. This will be served on the day banquet style with a trio of salads and rosemary foccacia bread. The initial hostilities have settled with the compromise (long may it last!) It has amazed me how many people feel the right to voice their opinions over how your wedding day should be! I know there can be a clash of different traditions and values particularly across generations, but also some people are just plain old sour and difficult! If they don't come to your day, it will probably be a better day because of it :) I hope you get to enjoy the test of your wedding planning in peace!!

GrumpyHoonMain · 24/04/2021 06:56

@Neolara

I'm veggie and cook a lot of vegan dishes at home so I wouldn't object to the principle of vegan food at a wedding. However, I have almost never had a pleasant vegan meal in a restaurant so I would be concerned about most caterer's ability to produce anything decent. I've even had terrible vegan food at a supposedly great vegan restaurant. I think because being vegan has become quite fashionable, restaurants are offering vegan food now but without really understanding how to make them properly ( including enough / any protein, making them taste nice, decent texture etc).

I would also be sad if I couldn't have normal milk in my tea.

Vegan food is just vegetables. Looks like you skipped them for fake processed shit

leeds2glasgow · 24/04/2021 06:58

@Crankley

I don't eat most of what makes food vegan so would probably suggest to you I would be happy to attend the evening part of your wedding as I wouldn't want you to waste money on food that won't be eaten by me..

What do you eat?

rwalker · 24/04/2021 07:01

It would be my idea of hell but I would never say anything . Properly just take a snack that I could sneak off and eat .

AdriannaP · 24/04/2021 07:01

I went to a vegan wedding once. As bride and groom are both vegan, everyone was expecting that.
The food was lovely and plenty, from memory one od the main courses was vegan gnocchi. It’s your wedding, serve what you want. People can eat meat the rest of the year!

Lovemusic33 · 24/04/2021 07:01

Im not vegan or vegetarian but I would happily go to a wedding knowing I was getting vegan food. Its your wedding so up to you what you serve. Im sure it will be amazing.

Ohtheplacesyougo · 24/04/2021 07:02

I’m a virtual veggie and it wouldn’t bother me but grannies and grandads may struggle. I’d personally offer a no alternative as dietary requests (similar to the kids). It’s all very well saying bring a packed lunch but people go to a lot of effort to attend weddings and spend a lot on gifts (particularly if elderly and struggle to even get out the house). So I’d personally offer them alternatives to make them feel welcomed. My great aunt made it to our wedding and hadn’t left the house all year - I would have been mortified to give her something I know would be alien to her.

Silvercatowner · 24/04/2021 07:02

Why would you even advertise it as 'vegan'? That would put me off TBH. If you didn't tell people, it's likely most wouldn't notice,

NoIDontWatchLoveIsland · 24/04/2021 07:06

It's your wedding but it depends whether you want people to have a fantastic time and look back on how delicious the food was.

Vegans always describe vegan food as "delicious" but to an omnivore used to a much more varied palate vegan food can be carb heavy, bland or repetitive. It can also be quite low calorie, which can leave people who aren't used to eating bigger volumes hungry.

I would never dream of questioning your menu at your wedding but would probably not enjoy the meal that much on the day.

NutellaEllaElla · 24/04/2021 07:07

I think YANBU but the problem is that many people (myself included) have had shit vegan food and assume it's going to be like that. I know that if DH knew it was vegan, he'd fear the worst, but if he knew it was say vegan curry, he'd be fine because we know that that tastes great.

Coachee · 24/04/2021 07:09

If someone is so fussy, unimaginative and a vegetable-phobe to the extent that they’d not come to a wedding because the food is vegan then let them stay at home! They’d probably fuss over anything you’d serve. I find fussy eating a really unappealing trait in anyone over the age of 12. Food at weddings is always a challenge - you can’t please everyone, so go with what feels right for you.

ChubbyMsSunshine · 24/04/2021 07:09

@Crankley

Would those people freaking out about the lack of meat refuse to attend an Indian wedding, where they might not serve English food??

I'm not sure where you get the freaking out from. I don't eat Indian food same as I don't eat food from other countries or the ingredients of vegan food so would say the say the same as I wrote upthread. I wouldn't want them to waste their money so would suggest I attend for the evening.

@Crankley Are you seriously saying you live on protein alone? No vegetables or carbs? Are you really saying that?!

SunshineCake · 24/04/2021 07:11

@littlepattilou

As long as you are OK with going to someone's wedding, or party, or 'evening meal' and only being offered dairy and meat products, then yeah, go ahead and only offer vegan food at your wedding.

If you would not accept dairy or meat products in the food you were offered, then of COURSE you are being unreasonable to only offer vegan food to the guests at your wedding.

I can't believe you even have to ask!

This is not the same.

Someone who eats meat will not have any problems eating a vegan meal.

Someone vegan served up meat well, do I need to spell it out?

Redsquirrel5 · 24/04/2021 07:12

DD and partner are both Vegan and if they get married I will expect it to be a Vegan wedding. If you have a great caterer and the food is amazing people will be surprised. DD went to a wedding where the buffet had two tables and lots of the vegan food had been taken by other people and she had very little to eat. She said it was hard to sit with meat eaters raving about the veggie / vegan food when she hadn’t been able to get it.

Go ahead with the vegan menu and have a wonderful day.

ChubbyMsSunshine · 24/04/2021 07:13

I often choose the vegetarian/ vegan option from fixed menus, and I'm a commited carnivore.

Go for it. Short-sighted idiots who can't cope without meat for one day aren't your friends.

ChubbyMsSunshine · 24/04/2021 07:14

@SofiaMichelle

I'd bring sandwiches, to be honest.

Will you be checking that guests don't have leather shoes, etc?

Well....I doubt they're paying for the leather shoes so it's not really comparable is it?

NutellaEllaElla · 24/04/2021 07:14

I can see many strongly different opinions here and want to chip in that it kind of IS fair for people to have feelings about the wedding they're attending. I've been starving at weddings because for some reason the 'breakfast' doesn't start until 3pm for a wedding that begins before lunch. I've stayed over, worn a fancy dress, i'm in your hands for the day. It's not nice being hungry and if you enjoy your food and have no choice but to eat something you dislike, well that sucks! So I can see why people have feelings about it.