To only serve vegan food at my wedding.

[inthewest]

My partner and myself are both vegan. We want to serve an only vegan menu from an excellent vegan caterer. I know people aren't a fan of "fake meat" and we've deliberately chosen to not have anything of that sort. Our menu will include many options and will cater to allergies and dietary needs such as celiac. The food is delicious, is very "us" and reflects us as couple.

We have had pushback from my partners family. Adult family. I'm fully prepared to cater for children but not adults. Our thinking is that it's one meal.

@Thatisnotwhatisaid

It’s one meal, they won’t die. You might even convert a few of them .

But many could be violently ill and it’s usually because it’s soya based

Good vegan food is just good food. I can’t really comprehend an issue.

@Dullardmullard ‘many could be violently ill’? A quick google suggests a 0.3% prevalence of soya allergy. You could say that about serving fish, or eggs, or wheat. What an odd comment.

Went to an amazing wedding a few years ago with a vegan menu. They had falafel burgers which were amazing, plus fancy potato wedges! And then some kind of vegan coconut ice cream cart. It's your wedding, you can serve what you want.

:03littlepattilou

funnylittlefloozie

Would those people freaking out about the lack of meat refuse to attend an Indian wedding, where they might not serve English food?? Y'know, their culture, their food.... just like vegans.

Are you actually kidding me right now?

As if Indian food and vegan shite is even comparable.

Indian food is LUSH. Vegan food is bland cack.

Are you hard of thinking?! There are plenty of Indian food that is vegan you know?!

I'd be insulted if vegans served me meat (I know because it happened!). It's so patronising. I can go a few hours and one meal without having to plant my face in some carcass or other.

[quote LolaNova]**@Dullardmullard* ‘many could be violently* ill’? A quick google suggests a 0.3% prevalence of soya allergy. You could say that about serving fish, or eggs, or wheat. What an odd comment.[/quote]
Yes violently ill with soya and to much grains in the diet too and I said many not all how’s that odd.

Each to their own but guests will remember the food good or bad.

The bride and groom can please themselves but remember to much soya or grains can make some of her guests violently ill as they won’t be used to it.

Could you not do fake meat but not say anything???? I am a complete non vegan massive meat eater but went to a vegan Chinese once and would never have known!

Alternatively do what you like!!! If I was going to a wedding of a vegan couple I would
Assume in advance I wouldn’t eat the food, I’d try. But i often expect food at weddings to not be my taste, I can’t believe people would get annoyed about this stuff as a guest 😒

It's your day and you can serve what ever you like but you can't force your guests to eat it.

@Doona

I'd be insulted if vegans served me meat (I know because it happened!). It's so patronising. I can go a few hours and one meal without having to plant my face in some carcass or other.

I wouldn’t for one minute think they were suggesting you couldn’t??? Maybe they’re just respecting that their choice to be vegan isn’t yours and not forcing it upon you?? Jeez. People get offended by nothing these days 🤦🏻‍♀️

Carrying on the list of what my meat-loving, veg-hating Dp would eat.

• sorbet / vegan ice cream
• nuts (like chili cashews, roasted peanuts, pistachios)
• roasted chickpeas
• vegan garlic bread // Foccacia with olive oil
• roasted potatoes with BBQ sauce
• chow mein (noodles with a few green beans/sesame seeds)
• lentil crisps // puffed peas etc
• dark chocolate (vegan peanut butter cups!)

I've been to a wedding where the couple were both vegetarian and it was expected that the menu would be too which it was. I would never dream of expecting meat! Why would anyone?!

I'd be perfectly fine and i'm willing to try any food, so is DH. However, at our wedding, we made sure to cater for everyone (so we had vegetarian menus, pescatarian, vegan and meat). I wanted to make sure everyone was happy

Weddings I’ve been to in recent years have had two options. Meat or non meat. I personally prefer a buffet type style meal, no matter what it is. Even for the fussiest eaters- chips are universally liked aren’t they?! I eat meat but one wedding I went to was a hog roast- not really something I like and another one was a sit down meal of lamb. Which I really don’t like. I felt rude eating everything except the lamb and a bit awkward with having the plate just placed in front of me. I would never complain about the food though regardless. But in my opinion you can’t really go wrong with a vegan - or whatever - buffet!

I am not a vegan. In fact, due to some hereditary weirdnesses, a purely vegan diet would kill me. That said, I have eaten and enjoyed vegan meals once in a while, a couple of them were absolutely delightful, and the rest pretty darned good. I see no problem if you make your selections on the "delightful" side!

It's your day, if people can't cope with one meatless meal they're frankly pathetic.
Tell them to pack a corned beef sandwich to eat in the car if they can't cope.

YANBU.
It's one meal on one day of their lives.
Unless your guests are in fact lions, they'll cope.

@littlepattilou

As long as you are OK with going to someone's wedding, or party, or 'evening meal' and only being offered dairy and meat products, then yeah, go ahead and only offer vegan food at your wedding.

If you would not accept dairy or meat products in the food you were offered, then of COURSE you are being unreasonable to only offer vegan food to the guests at your wedding.

I can't believe you even have to ask!

Sometimes it IS only meat served! I’ve been to one and ate bread rolls. YANBU it’s your wedding!

God some people are thick and seriously lacking in imagination. Most.vegan. food. is. just. food. FFS.

If you're not using fake meat and will ask about allergies, there's no risk of people being 'violently ill' eg nut allergies. But the nut allergy sufferers wouldn't blindly pick up any food off a buffet as any food can contain sufficient nut traces to kill them because, after all, meat is not an allergen antidote that magically protects against all these deadly poisonous vegan ingredients that people seem to fear.

Just do your lovely vegan food and offer some really shite generic alternative like chicken nuggets and chips for the children, whether they are 5 or 50.

@Cookerhood

I'm not vegan or even veggie but I would love it!

Me too!

I would be really excited to try unusual and adventurous vegan food.

Its your wedding. The guests can gnaw on meat on the way if they can't bear be without for one meal. You should have what you want.

I did only vegetarian at mine (both DH and I are) and people loved it, sigh the exception of one grumpy uncle who ate the kids cheese sandwiches in protest 😂

I'd be perfectly fine and i'm willing to try any food, so is DH. However, at our wedding, we made sure to cater for everyone (so we had vegetarian menus, pescatarian, vegan and meat). I wanted to make sure everyone was happy

Same and I would do it again.

My vegan friend would do only vegan even thought her family loves meat.

You should 100%serve what you want, it’s your wedding.

YABVVVVVU to say “the food is very us” tho cringe

I’m not vegan but I’d love this! And I think weddings should reflect the bride and groom.