To only serve vegan food at my wedding.

[inthewest]

My partner and myself are both vegan. We want to serve an only vegan menu from an excellent vegan caterer. I know people aren't a fan of "fake meat" and we've deliberately chosen to not have anything of that sort. Our menu will include many options and will cater to allergies and dietary needs such as celiac. The food is delicious, is very "us" and reflects us as couple.

We have had pushback from my partners family. Adult family. I'm fully prepared to cater for children but not adults. Our thinking is that it's one meal.

@Novelusername

vimtosogood militant vegans are also dick heads, just as are militant meat eaters.

I don't see militant "meat eaters" aka normal people smashing up vegan restaurants or throwing themselves under lorries carrying vegetables.

[quote PinkiOcelot]@PurpleDaisies it’s actually a perfectly reasonable question. If the OP would not be happy to eat meat or dairy at someone else’s wedding, then they should not palm off a vegan menu on their guests.
OP, would you eat meet or dairy at a non vegan wedding?[/quote]
How many times

This. Is. Not. Comparable.

It’s one meal, they won’t die.

Everyone will moan about the food regardless

What kind of grown adult needs to enjoy every meal?

I'm starting to think MN has very low expectations of weddings.

yanbu all day until it gets to the cake...please don't use that grim aquafaba (fava?) chickpea water, it's horrendous in a cake!

littlepattilou ....you sound nuts.

@donquixotedelamancha

It’s one meal, they won’t die.

Everyone will moan about the food regardless

What kind of grown adult needs to enjoy every meal?

I'm starting to think MN has very low expectations of weddings.

The truth is that not every single guest is ever going to enjoy a meal that is served the same to 80 people, regardless of how well it is cooked or 'delicious' it is. Some will, some won't. The B&G should at least choose something they like themselves!

It sounds amazing and it is only 1 day and it's your day,surely people that love you both can suck it up for one day.

For all they know they could really enjoy the food!

vimtosogood yeah, but they act like twats. I went veggie as a child, never told anyone unless they had to know eg. When eating at a friend's house. You'd immediately be subjected to abuse. Meat eater or vegan, just don't be a twat about how other people want to eat.

I still want to know about indian vegan food....

Of course, it’s your wedding so it should be your choice. I did go to a vegan wedding however and was violently sick and ended up in hospital after eating a bite of the wedding cake. I’m allergic to flaxseed and had no idea it was used as a substitute for egg in cakes. That was quite an awkward way to leave the wedding

@littlepattilou

I think maybe your friends are just a bit shit. Not having biscuits in isn’t anything to do with being vegan as many easily accessible ones are eg Biscoff biscuits, Oreos, Jammie dodgers, bourbons, party rings and many others. I’m vegan and either take my own milk to someone’s house or have a black coffee. I wouldn’t expect a special one to be provided nor would I provide a dairy one at my own house but I would offer guests other things and be happy with them being their own.

Whoops bringing their own not being!

I love meat but if I went to the wedding of vegan/veggies I'd be perfectly fine with eating what they chose

@Novelusername

vimtosogood yeah, but they act like twats. I went veggie as a child, never told anyone unless they had to know eg. When eating at a friend's house. You'd immediately be subjected to abuse. Meat eater or vegan, just don't be a twat about how other people want to eat.

A few comments vs actual crimes.

Anyway, we shouldn't hijack OPs thread. Not that vegans ever show normal people as much respect.

OP serve whatever you want. I'm not going anyway.

@Ohdofuckofdear

It sounds amazing and it is only 1 day and it's your day,surely people that love you both can suck it up for one day.

For all they know they could really enjoy the food!

It doesn't sound amazing. I've never eaten an amazing vegan cake in my life.

Wouldnt bother me at all. Although I did go to an a vegetarian wedding once and vomited all night....although that is more likely related to copious amounts of alcohol

Well as long as the food was nice and decent portions wouldn’t mind.

Last two weddings I went to both had hog roast with salad and rolls (bloody hate hog roast) there was absolutely nothing else on offer apart from the sweet table, but only so many sweets you can eat when you don’t have a sweet tooth, was bloody starving by the time I left.

Don’t even drink so couldn’t soften the blow and ‘forget’ that I’d not eaten all bloody day!

People saying they would bring their own food / sandwiches - would you really sit down for the wedding meal and bring a packed lunch out of your handbag and start eating it?

Would you not - you know - feel a bit of a tit doing that?

I am profoundly unkeen on a lot of vegan food (vegan cheese 🤮) and find the many of the arguments for veganism unconvincing. But I am absolutely convinced that guests should respect the principles of their hosts. If you don’t want your wedding to be celebrated by the mass slaughter of animals, that is entirely your call.

Is there a religion that demands that people MUST eat meat daily? As in, sacred obligation and offensive not to eat at least one animal product on any mixed plate of food.

I think doesn't exist.. but suppose there was such a thing. Call this new religion the "Carnobligates"

What would happen at the Carnobligate wedding with vegan guests? How would they decide what kind of food must be served?

I think it’s fine. I’ve grown to really enjoy vegan food as long as someone else is making it! I’d enjoy the chance to explore some more and I bet many people who haven’t tried it would be converted too. It’s the way it’s going for all of us, let’s face it.

vimtosogood it's a very small minority of vegans that commit actual crimes, and an awful lot of meat eaters that make uncalled for, twatty comments about vegans, waving bacon in their faces etc. Anyway, like I've said, I think it should be kept private in most circumstances, it's a personal choice, I don't approve of the militant approach.

Horrified at all the mushroom hate on here - mushrooms are luscious.

It's odd that people would expect a wedding between two vegans to not have some vegan food.

YANBU

YABU. I would not be attending as I would not be interested in having your ridiculous sanctimonious beliefs forced upon me.

As so many others have said there is absolutely no reason to say anything to any of the guests about the fact that the food is vegan either before or at the event. You go to a wedding, you are served food. I've never ever seen a menu in advance. You choose from the options available. In the unlikely event of there being absolutely nothing you like offered then I guess you would get a McDonald's on the way home. But surely if there are quite "normal" foods like rice or pasta and vegetables involved there's bound to be something that people will eat!! Just because it's vegan doesn't mean it has to be lentil burgers or tofu or some other "special" vegan food. It can just be food.