To not want my autistic daughter to walk to school after this?

[Anon778833]

I’m absolutely fuming. My 12 year old autistic daughter who lives just 10 minutes from home, was walking home from school today with her two friends when three year 11 students (girls) from the same school came up behind her and her friends, started harassing her then pushed my daughter over.

My daughter now has an egg on her head, big grazes on her knees that need a tetanus shot because they were caked in dirt and swollen fingers.

I took photos of the girls who did this and sent them to school & reported the incident. I’ve also reported it online to the police.

My daughter is a tiny little thing and these girls were massive, compared to her and are actually taller than me. How can they be so nasty? Dd hasn’t even processed what happened yet. I only know what happened because her friend who does not have special needs knocked on my door and explained what had happened.

Should I drive her to school now?

They prosecute people for posting on Twitter, they spend a lot of resources DEFENDING child rapists etc yet this is not in the public interest. Neither is coming to your house if you’ve been burgled. It’s just how the police works.

I meant, they defend, as in protect, child rapists and killers and give new identities and protection

Yes, I had heard that the police no longer attend burglaries.

What annoys me about this situation is that what would we have to gain by making this all up? The perpetrators obviously aren’t going to admit they pushed my daughter because they’d be arrested.

Actually, I remember that a pharmacy near me was experiencing a lot of shop lifting. Not even just things on the shelves but prescribed medicines. I heard the pharmacist on the phone to the police, to which they replied ‘oh no, not you again’

Horrible girls. A caution won’t look good on their UCAS form. Good luck with The Police.

@656times

Horrible girls. A caution won’t look good on their UCAS form. Good luck with The Police.

I suspect these girls are thinking no longer term than the end of the week. Do keep on at the police and at the school.

This is awful. Heartbreaking for you

Those girls are almost adults. They should know better by year 11

But there are many nasty people in the world and stopping your daughters freedom is not going to do her any good in the long run. Encourage her to get out there. Otherwise she will become a scared little mouse, fearful of the world. Walk behind a few paces for a few days if you feel better

@SugarbabyMilly

I spoke to the police again and they keep saying it’s one version of events vs another. Apparently they don’t look at mobile phone activity in cases like this because ‘it’s not in the public interest’.

So do police now only investigate crimes where the stories of both victim and perpetrator correlate? I would imagine most crimes are one person’s word against another. This is awful.

The police officer came yesterday and took a statement from my dd. She was very clear about what happened. If I’m not happy with how the police handle this I will complain.

Good for you OP. What have the school said?

These kinds of incidents happen a lot at DD's school, they always get brushed under the carpet. The only time someone was actually taken to court was when another pupil videoed the abuse, sent the video to a local paper and uploaded it to SM. The head had to act then.

School have said that the three concerned will be punished and will apologise to my dd.

Push it with the police. Some schools will minimise, they don’t want the publicity/name of the school dragged down. Personally, I’d be talking to local newspapers if the school doesn’t act properly.

We dealt with this sort of situation, even the autism, police were quite empathetic in our case but did explain that for a first time incidence they try to deal with it through the school because a criminal record even at juvenile court can affect long term and quite often with school aged kids it's a dare or similar gone too far or not cut and dry so crown prosecution service could not charge anyway

If you report as a disability hate crime, they have to investigate.

The thing is, it’s impossible to know which one of them actually pushed her. The police officer said that she’s going to see if any of the nearby buildings have CCTV.

If they girls are going to apologise that means they are admitting it happened and DD didn't fall over whilst on Tik Tok.

So as far as the police are concerned it isn't one word against the other anymore.

They really need to stagger school leaving times so that the younger children can get home safely.

Keep on at the school. What do they mean by punished? They should be excluded. They would have been in my previous school - former HoY. What do they mean by apologise? Written? Are they going to subject your daughter to a restorative justice meeting? Don't let them do that without your permission and you being present in the meeting. Same if the be police suggest RJ. It's often a box ticking exercise for schools and the police and is more often than not a waste of time for the victim. O

What’s a restorative justice meeting? I think if they apologise, it won’t be genuine so it’s a waste of time in that regard.

@HollowTalk

They really need to stagger school leaving times so that the younger children can get home safely.

I completely agree.

Isn’t there some kind of joint culpability if the girls won’t admit which one of them did it, but they were essentially acting together?

I can see that the police aren’t that bothered, so it looks like you need to be the ‘squeaky wheel’ also raising it as a disability hate crime should ensure you’re taken seriously?