Bought a dog - person wants it back..aibu?

[mrsdaz]

I bought a dog 2 days ago from a lovely lady who was finding it hard to manage him due to working full time etc.

Agreed sale on Tuesday, collected him Thursday evening. All well. She has been in touch since by text to see how he is.

Yesterday got a text saying she's missing the dog and would have him back in a heartbeat.

Today I've had a text message from her daughter asking for the dog back. Plus subsequent phone call that I didn't answer.

Aibu to keep the dog? He's so happy and isn't pining for previous home etc. He will be with someone all the time rather than alone all day and has a companion dog here.

Who would give the dog back?

The one deserving of sympathy here is the poor dog!
9 mths and they haven’t even toilet trained him and sold him on, keep him, you sound a far better home for him, he’ll go back there and be miserable and probably get sold again.
Block her number and harden your heart.

I think the point is that it's no longer a puppy and softly adorable and cute, but a growing adolescent dog, probably full of mischief and the will to explore the big world, preferably off lead. It has been for us, every single time of owning three dogs, the most difficult stage.

@Dalamalama

My cousin sold her dog than realised she and her son missed him massively. She genuinely loves him but was finding him such had work.

He was returned and is very much loved and cared for. I'm not sure what I'd do in your situation? Perhaps have a chat with them.

She's ;lucky she didn't;t sell him to me, then.\There's no way in hell I would have returned him.

Your cousin is a

Crack on with toilet training fast though.

*So many typos!

Just as well

There are so many ads for lockdown pups in my area it's so so sad. I'm glad this one has found a loving home with you!

No way. He's rightly yours as you've bought him and has a good home with you. I feel for her if she's missing him but she's made this decision. There's no reason to put the dog through turmoil.

9 months and not toilet trained? That says a lot about how badly they were caring about him. Say no, block the number, forget about it. (That’s that we did when it happened to us, it took us just a couple of days to realise our new little pet was almost feral due to neglect but... they said they loved her dearly.

Looking back I can just asume they found another buyer willing to pay more. 🤷🏻‍♀️

I wouldn't return the dog, but I think you need to know that you are dealing with an adolescent that you have to bond with. Dogs are forgiving so if you are firm yet gentle, it should work, as long as the dog wasn't mistreated. But the human needs to be the boss.

I bet she got a second offer from somebody willing to pay the full £500

Sounds likes the daughter thinks she could have sold him for full price! She probably would if they get the dog back. Don’t feel guilty.

Youn lovely op but pretty wreckless to sell a dog and not do a home visit first you could have been anyone. Keep the dog and block them.

@GreyhoundG1rl

Your update doesn't change my opinion on the advisability of you being allowed near animals one whit. You speak of them as commodities to be "got rid of" when no longer convenient. Extraordinarily unpleasant. Don't bother responding, btw. I doubt you could make it sound any better.

Are you on the right thread? this sounds like a reply to the thread about the dogs barking, not this one...?

Enjoy your new dog, don’t return him.

I was responding to toocold54

Not bothering to toilet train him tells you everything you need to know about what kind of owner they were. Don’t give the dog back.

Keep him and block all contact.

You want to be careful she hasn't registered him stolen on the chip but if you paid by bank transfer you have proof.

I’m 38 and not toilet trained

When we bought our dog the previous owner had to sign the chip form and send it to the chip company before they’d change the chip details to ours. There was an option for the chip company to contact the previous seller if we couldn’t get them to sign the form. We still have the text proof of communication with the seller just in case. Keep your texts. Don’t give your dog back

I bet someone saw her post before she took it down and messaged offering the full £500, and now she's annoyed that she let him go to you for £300. Keep him. And get his chip changed asap, call the vet Monday morning.

I was responding to toocold54

Keep the dog but call the chip people ASAP. It was really straightforward when we adopted via a private arrangement like yourself. From memory I believe the previous owner has 28 days to object the transfer of ownership so I'd explain the situation to the chip people and keep screenshots.

I can’t bear to think of a dog on his own all day. Please keep him