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Bought a dog - person wants it back..aibu?

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mrsdaz · 17/04/2021 15:19

I bought a dog 2 days ago from a lovely lady who was finding it hard to manage him due to working full time etc.

Agreed sale on Tuesday, collected him Thursday evening. All well. She has been in touch since by text to see how he is.

Yesterday got a text saying she's missing the dog and would have him back in a heartbeat.

Today I've had a text message from her daughter asking for the dog back. Plus subsequent phone call that I didn't answer.

Aibu to keep the dog? He's so happy and isn't pining for previous home etc. He will be with someone all the time rather than alone all day and has a companion dog here.

Who would give the dog back?

OP posts:
HedgePutty · 20/04/2021 17:25

@Dogstalker good find! That sounds like one really depressed dog on that post and @mrsdaz please keep the dog, he sounds so much happier with you and the previous owner clearly gave him up as couldn’t give him the love he needed.

HedgePutty · 20/04/2021 17:28

@scubadive of course the OP isn’t giving her dog back, it’s hers now. Of course she shouldn’t answer the phone to abuse, why would you?

thenewduchessofhastings · 20/04/2021 17:28

@mrsdaz

At 9 months he should definitely be housebroken.

He's blatantly a furlough purchase.There's far too many idiots out there who have brought cutesy puppies whilst on furlough/had kids home schooling and now haven't a clue what to do now life is getting back to normal.

I'll put money on the rescue centres being inundated with unwanted young dogs over the next 12 months.

I'd say someone has offered her the full £500.

You wouldn't sell a car to someone then call 2 days later and say "I want the car back".

Be firm.Sale was agreed.You've paid (hopefully not in cash) so you'll have proof of payment.They can't report him as stolen as he isn't stolen.As for the chip;when changing the chip over with a dog we had we had to have the previous owner give permission to have the details changed.

Be firm.Tell them you won't be returning your purchase for a refund.

scubadive · 20/04/2021 17:29

@AryaStarkWolf yes sorry my mistake, yes the op said she collected the dog Thursday evening, the owner expressed concern the next day, within 24hours and then asked for it back on Saturday within 48hours, so the previous owner pretty quickly realised her regret and the op had had the dog less than 48 hours, it’s not like she came back 1 month later and asked for it back.

RedcurrantPuff · 20/04/2021 17:31

I agree that they probably want him back to sell him to someone who will give them the £500

Fluffycloudland77 · 20/04/2021 17:38

I think you need to change your number. Have you chipped him?.

oakleaffy · 20/04/2021 17:41

Op don’t give him back.
If they truly loved him and cared for his needs they’d never have considered selling him😳

He’s yours now.

youngestisapsycho · 20/04/2021 17:43

Just block their numbers and carry on....

GlitterGiraffe13 · 20/04/2021 17:44

Let me guess they'd also be expecting you to drop him off again?

They've sold him...he's your dog. Change the chip, hopefully you have proof of purchase and block their number.

I agree with others, he's more than likely a furlough purchase and now the old owner has been called back to work full time and didn't actually think about how selfish it was to leave a dog at home all day when she bought him...

A dog is for life not just for Christmas and all that..

oakleaffy · 20/04/2021 17:46

A person I know is getting a whippet and the vetting theyve rightfully gone through is what any responsible person selling puppies would do.
The homes were found before bitch was even mated.
Lots of questions asked.. and responsible rescues are the same.

longwayoff · 20/04/2021 17:47

I wouldn't return a pet that someone had willingly parted with. A dog is for life, etc. Take care of the poor thing as she won't.

nancywhitehead · 20/04/2021 17:47

I don't think you should give the dog back. It's really sad for the ex-owner but as others have pointed out she sold him because she was unable to care for/ spend enough time with him.

She's having second thoughts now but that's because she misses him - it's a selfish reason to want him back - not because she can suddenly provide a better home for the dog.

Nightbear · 20/04/2021 17:47

Someone who sells a dog they’ve had for months to a random stranger doesn’t deserve to get that dog back.

oakleaffy · 20/04/2021 17:49

@mrsdaz
Nine months old and not house trained?

That says it all.

Ye gods.

It is easy to housetrain a dog if it’s done correctly.. she clearly didn’t bother.

doucey · 20/04/2021 17:54

Purely going on Scuba's posts I'd say never give the dog back. He's lucky he's got you as his owner now.

Ddot · 20/04/2021 18:16

She just wants more money

Bluebird2021 · 20/04/2021 18:16

no op should NOT give the dog back.......dog is now legally hers

moaning minnies on this thread,jaysus!!

CattingTime · 20/04/2021 18:24

@scubadive is clearly the ex owner or family member.

CakeWarrior · 20/04/2021 18:27

Yup, you have realised for sure Scuba that if you had know your mothers intentions you could have got her more money. You talk about kindness... what about the kindness for the dog?? Someone who has a home which will train and give the dog the attention it needs. You simply want him back to then cast off too the highest bidder with no regards to the poor dog shunting from place to place. Its you who should be ashamed, not the OP. And giving out her number to other family members to abuse OP isn't acceptable and it is were me I would be reporting you for harassment and malicious abuse by spreading personal contact details. I am so relieved for OP that you dont know her address. Move on. The right thing for that poor dog has been done.

Darbs76 · 20/04/2021 18:31

A lot of assumptions being made here. It sounds like the original owner made the decision to sell the dog based on the fact that was best for the dog. Unless her work situation has changed or she’s got an alternative plan that’s probably still the correct decision. I can’t help but feel for the woman though. I personally would at least speak to the lady and hear her out

babbaloushka · 20/04/2021 18:56

[quote scubadive]@RizzleRazzle, ‘They’ didn’t even bother to do a home check, well what checks did the op do. Does the op know much about the puppies parents, health checks, vaccinations etc for this poor neglected dog?

The op answered an advert and bargained for a puppy from £500 to £300, was tge op more concerned with getting herself a bargain or did the op do her full and proper research.

The bias on this thread is unbelievable.[/quote]
Yes, of course it's us who are biased...

Original poster
mrsdaz · 20/04/2021 19:01

Thank you for the positive supportive posts, and thanks to the others for the feedback.

I have text the previous owner multiple times giving reassurance that he is happy and settled, however this is clearly not enough.

I don't want to give the dog back to them because actually it's a massive commitment to take on a dog in the first place and this decision was made as a life long thing. I accepted he was not house trained and was prepared with this journey.

He hasn't had any accidents here purely because I am home all the time and can take him outside regularly. He also follows other dog outside.

I didn't barter the lady down for the dog - I merely stated what I could afford. This offer could easily have been rejected. The fact it was accepted told me how much she wanted to rehome the dog.

I know he was loved as he is a loving dog, I have not ever said anything bad about the previous owner.

He came with lots of different types of adult dog food too and I was told that he doesn't really eat dog food. He is now eating Lily's kitchen puppy both wet and dry.

OP posts:
Floralnomad · 20/04/2021 19:04

@mrsdaz have you changed his chip to your details as that is the crucial thing to have done .

Keyring · 20/04/2021 19:06

No, I wouldn't give him back. Unless she's working at home full time, I think its unkind to leave dogs for any length of time.

pushchairprincess · 20/04/2021 19:08

Depends on how much you want the dog, have you fallen for him- is it your first dog ? they can be expensive.

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