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To get my hair cut short, really short

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Mylittlesandwich · 16/04/2021 23:55

I'm 28 and fat. Really very fat. I've hidden behind long hair for about a decade. I'm coming out the other side of a challenging pregnancy followed by PND followed by DH being unemployed and working 2 jobs.

I finally have clothes that I like and look good on me but my hair is a disaster, I dyed it myself about 2 years ago and have been so attached to the length that I've let it grow out and it looks weird. I feel like it's time for a change but I don't want to regret it.

Attached is the style I have my eye on but not the colour.

To get my hair cut short, really short
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Wishingwell75 · 17/04/2021 00:12

That style is gorgeous and if you love go for it, it's only hair and will grow back. BUT - is your hair a similar texture? If not, have you taken into consideration the time you'll need to achieve the wave for example?
I think you could actually style that look quite a few different ways and the colour you choose will play a big part in the overall feel. I think you love it, go for it! Get a consultation at a salon first with the most experienced stylist you can afford. Don't be pressured into either not having it done or equally don't go ahead if you don't like the vibe. I do think it's 'only hair' but at the same time the right restyle can encourage you to make other life changes. If you've always hidden behind your hair, appreciate the fact that you may need time to get used to the difference and that doesn't mean you've made a mistake. I hope you come back and show us, OP, it's exciting! X


Disabrie22 · 17/04/2021 00:15

I wouldn’t do it - try taking a few inches off first!!


PickAChew · 17/04/2021 00:16

That's not even really shor, apart from the sides. Go for it.


MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 17/04/2021 00:19

Looks great and personally I love the colour. 3 things -

  1. Is your hair a similar texture?

2. Will it need regular appointments to keep it looking good - if yes do you have the time (and having read the £300 hairdresser thread - the money 😱)
3. Will it take a lot of styling in the mornings to look good and do you have time for that?

I'd advise thinking these things through and learn from a horrendous mistake I once made!!!

Bumberlee · 17/04/2021 00:23

No. Don't do drastic stuff.
There must be a middle ground between outgrown disaster dye job and short hair.


Usernameisgone · 17/04/2021 00:26

Do it! I shaved my hair off from a blue Bob to no hair and now currently have a red mohawk! I am fat have a round face and mid 30s. Always wanted a mohawk! Love it!


WorraLiberty · 17/04/2021 00:27

That's a lovely style.

But because no-one here knows what you look like, it's impossible to say whether it'd be suitable for you.

Generally I'm just your average cut and blowdry customer but for a drastic style change, I'd book a consultation and talk it through with the hairdresser properly.


user1473878824 · 17/04/2021 00:29

I would be very wary of such a huge change. Even if you end up loving it I guarantee you get out of the salon and hate it for a week and cry at least three times. I would cut all the damaged hair off and have a good cut, then gradually get shorter.


MoominKitty · 17/04/2021 00:38

I'm vary fat, mid thirtys and I'm having my out grown bob cut in a similar style next month! Do it, hair grows back and you can always shave it all off and get a wig if you hate it, that's my plan if I hate mine lol.


TerribleCustomerCervix · 17/04/2021 00:42

I cut my mid-back length hair into a short pixie style last Spring and love it. I was in a post pregnancy funk and as soon as I did it I just felt like me again.

My only regrets were when the hairdressers closed and I looked like a Beatle, but hopefully we won’t be due another pandemic for another 80 years or so...


mrwalkensir · 17/04/2021 00:59

Long hair can make head and shoulders become one big triangle. Go for it...


Mylittlesandwich · 17/04/2021 01:05

Yes my hair is a similar texture, lightly wavy when long much more wavy when short and not weighed down.

I had really short hair right through my teens and I loved it. I have an appointment at the end of the month one way or another. I think it goes better with me if that makes sense? I wear dungarees and have a large collection of bright coloured tights. My hair just doesn't go with me. I'm not into colouring my hair any more, I did that for long enough and I like my hair colour. It's dark brown but with lovely red tones. I was thinking the chop might be the way to go.

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Sn0tnose · 17/04/2021 01:08

I think that cut is lovely. And it’s just hair. The absolute worst case scenario is that you don’t like it. It will grow back.


HoldontoOneMoreDay · 17/04/2021 01:13

MN is not the place to ask this question. Actually, nowhere is the right place to ask this question. Women are weird about short hair. I shaved mine in the first lockdown (and raised some cash for charity along the way) and the number of pals who said I was 'brave' was absolutely astonishing. It's not fucking brave to cut your hair. Do it, if you want to do it. If you don't like it, grow it back. But - overall - why not?


Pyewackect · 17/04/2021 01:27

I’ve got a real mop of curly red hair , see Merida in Brave but at the beginning of the last wave I got it cut really short as we have to take a shower after each a shift in ICU and it’s a lot easier with full PPE.

When I got back from the hairdressers I asked my husband what he thought and gave him the twirl. He was totally shocked. He just stood there, stunned. He quickly realised he needed to be a tad more positive and congratulated me on being “sensible”. Similar response from the kids.

Please to say it’s growing back but it was great to be able to dry it so quickly and just foof it up a bit.


Mylittlesandwich · 17/04/2021 08:48

I think I'm going to do it. I've slept on it and it still seems like a good idea.

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AppleKatie · 17/04/2021 08:52

It’s a lovely style. It would be frowned upon where I work though (rightly or wrongly- different issue, but it definitely would be). So do think through every angle before you decide.

I like it but the work issue + the fact I’m too lazy to style it every day would put me off.


wonderstuff · 17/04/2021 08:56

Do it, I had long hair for ages when my kids were tiny, mainly because I couldn't afford hair cuts. The relief I felt when it was all chopped off, felt like me again. I have similar style but without the colour or curls, love it, so easy to maintain.

People saying don't do a dramatic cut, try it once, it's quite cool to suddenly look different!

I have found hairdressers sometimes reluctant to do a dramatic short cut, try to find someone happy to do a short style.


Rowgtfc72 · 17/04/2021 08:59

I had my cut yesterday. I'm fat, but also old.
Shaved up the back and sides, maybe an inch long on top. Love it!
Go for it!


EmeraldShamrock · 17/04/2021 09:00

I love the style and the colour it's striking, far better than a bob-style too.
I love it.
It's great you're feeling good again.


Mylittlesandwich · 17/04/2021 09:33


It’s a lovely style. It would be frowned upon where I work though (rightly or wrongly- different issue, but it definitely would be). So do think through every angle before you decide.

I like it but the work issue + the fact I’m too lazy to style it every day would put me off.

Definitely wouldn't be a problem at work, no hair restrictions and plenty of colours and styles when we were in the office. Also working from home at the moment.
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Dizzy1234 · 17/04/2021 09:48

I have a similar hair style, not blue tho, mine is an asymmetric bob, one side shorter than the other, I tuck the short side behind my ear, if I were you I'd not shave one side as its extreme for the first time but I'd get the short side undercut short around your ear, also when it's shaved it grows out really quickly and you will have to keep on top of it.
I really like the style tho


romdowa · 17/04/2021 09:52

Do it! I've had all sorts of crazy hair styles! If you hate it , it will grow back but if you love it, you will feel so empowered


RufustheSniggeringReindeer · 17/04/2021 09:57

Thats only a little bit short, ive shaved my head a few times during lockdowns and i love it

But its a lovely style so I’d go for it


KarmaStar · 17/04/2021 09:58

Op,I've done it,I'd say dont.
It was too much too soon and I really,really regretted it.
If your hair is your comfort thing just try some layers or colour but don't go too far yet.
I know how enticing the " hell let's go for it " emotion is,but then harsh reality kicks in when two days later your hair is short and flat.
Please go carefully.

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