Secret pregnancy. CF relative phones up overstepping the mark. WWYD?

[thenerveofsome]

I'm 12 weeks pregnant with our third child and keeping it private because I just knew there would be negative comments. I had a traumatic birth with our youngest and wound up with PND so want this pregnancy to be as stress free as possible.

We've told my best friend and my mother, that's it.

My mother is very close to her sister who I have outright asked her not to tell because she's one of the ones who'll stick her oar in and pass judgement. I'm almost 30 and she still speaks to me like a child.

My aunt called me this eve for a catch up (I very rarely answer the phone to be honest) and after a few minutes of benign chat she said "so how's your sex life" (tinkly laugh)

I was taken aback and said well that's private..

She then said "you're right, sorry, that was a bit blunt, but you know there's a pill you can take"

I just hung up.

So it's either one of two things..

My mother has mentioned the pregnancy and my aunt is implying I should have an abortion, or my aunt thinks in general I should be going on 'the pill' because we shouldn't be having more children, period.

How would you deal with this and AIBU to be fucking livid?

Yabu for allowing someone else to have so much control of your life. When your aunt asked how's your sex life you should have just said how rude, it's none of your business. Stop letting her rile you.

And a secret is only a secret until you tell someone.

@thenerveofsome

Feisty are you my cousin? Sorry you have similar in your family.

So I've managed to ascertain that she was referring to contraception, me going on the pill to avoid pregnancy.

So it was option 2. She thinks we should ensure we don't have any more children full stop.

Fucking cheek.

Seems we might be cousins hahaha. My aunt and my cousins are just awful and it has irritated me a lot when my children have gone to visit my mums and she decides to take them to my aunt's when she knows I am no contact with the lot. She has shared a lot of information with her as well which I would have preferred to keep private so I now don't share anything private. Pleased to hear that your mum didn't say anything