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Fantasising about a fictional character!!

454 replies

HensTeeth44 · 16/04/2021 10:24

I need your help and to know if I am a complete lunatic and BVU or if this is something that happens to other people.

I have always had a very overactive imagination and have a tendancy to daydream but this is the first time (in adulthood anyway) that I have developed a full on obsession with a fictional character. Not the actor who plays this character, but the character himself! Last night I found myself googling this character and falling into the rabbit hole of the Internet and finding reams of erotic fan fiction. I am ashamed to say I found myself still awake at 2am after reading through tons these short stories Blush call me niave but I had no idea this stuff existed before! I feel such a dork!

Am I abnormal? What does this say about this verging on middle-aged married mother? My marriage and sex life are good, I love my husband and find him very attractive, I don't feel depressed or lonely. What is going on?! Grin

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bunglebee · 18/04/2021 20:52

Just looked at Wattpad. Is it mostly HP stuff? There doesn't seem to be a decent way to search by fandom. Hmm

babbaloushka · 18/04/2021 20:57

@bunglebee

Just looked at Wattpad. Is it mostly HP stuff? There doesn't seem to be a decent way to search by fandom. Hmm
There should LOADS of everything you can imagine, but some fairly shit ones too. You should be able to search for tags that will flag up matches, so if you wanted a specific ship, you could search "Sirius x remus" (a HP example) and it should bring up anything with that in the tags or description, not just the title.
bunglebee · 18/04/2021 21:02

Just for you @MakingPlans21 I searched for Alf & Ailsa fic, and although there is Home & Away fic on both AO3 and ff.net, Alf & Ailsa appears to be an underserved niche...

I was looking for Firefly/Serenity on Wattpad, and although I found a few, not many and the few I clicked into were all overwritten shite.

Howshouldibehave · 18/04/2021 21:06

Perfectly normal-Jamie Fraser is mine!

CorianderBee · 18/04/2021 21:38

I think it's fairly normal. Many male characters are written by women and so viewed through the female gaze unlike most films and tv shows.

I myself have a penchant for a particular brooding Fire Lord. It can be annoying when you list after someone not really, but just remember it's a fantasy and have fun with it. Might go see if there's any fan fiction about my fictional crush...

Role play with the hubby?

51Pegasusb · 18/04/2021 22:05

@MrsGulDukat

Are there any gamers on the thread that have had crushes on video game characters?

There's some rather attractive animated men/women out there.

Uncharted-Nathan Drake Blush I don't even play it, but my 17 yr old daughter does. I feign an interest in the game while she's playing and explains everything to me while I just gaze at Nathan ! She knows and finds it hilarious !

Love your username btw, DS9 is one of my favourite out of the ST series. I thought Garak was brilliant.

Roonerspismed · 18/04/2021 22:10

Oh gawd yes. Have had the same crush and lost hours of my life to the fanfic site. I found an amazing one that is only available on pdf. What is the Severus pairing you like?!

Thing is - the whole crush will just end and I will be sane again for a year or two behind it restarts.

Perhaps we need a fanfic MN thread

Anyway you are as sane as me 😁

HensTeeth44 · 18/04/2021 22:19

@Roonerspismed

To be honest, I am literally only just delving into all of this so haven't really found a preference yet. I read a good one last night which was SSxHG which seems a common theme. What was the pairing in your PDF fic? Sounds intriguing.

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HensTeeth44 · 18/04/2021 22:25

We def need a fanfic thread, considering the amount of posters here into the same.

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Roonerspismed · 18/04/2021 22:27

hens let me see if I can find it. I found two brilliant ones - I reread them.

The severus thing is weird- for me it was the “Always” bit that triggered it. And of course Alan Rickman who I love. And the character in my head is expanded by all the fanfic I read - some of its brilliant. Also had a thing for Lupin. Jeezo. I haven’t told anyone this stuff. “DH, I’m in love with a person who is a fictional wizard from a children’s book”.

I am aware I sound unhinged but for me it’s pure and utter escapism from my rather stressful life!

Also love Jamie Fraser (not the actor) and Jack Reacher.

babbaloushka · 18/04/2021 22:30

@bunglebee

Just for you *@MakingPlans21* I searched for Alf & Ailsa fic, and although there is Home & Away fic on both AO3 and ff.net, Alf & Ailsa appears to be an underserved niche...

I was looking for Firefly/Serenity on Wattpad, and although I found a few, not many and the few I clicked into were all overwritten shite.

Yeah, I think Wattpad has a higher concentration of younger readers, but is better than FF and A03 on mobile, the best ones always seem to be on the latter (IMHO).
HensTeeth44 · 18/04/2021 22:39

@Roonerspismed

Thanks. Let me know if you find it.

I'm with you. A lot of it is the character, not the actor (although AR is devine - that voice! 😛). There is so much torment and tragedy about his character. But also the fact that he is ridiculously intelligent which I find utterly irresistible. Yum!

I've never told anyone IRL about this (don't think I ever could), so it is so liberating to tell all on here and to know that I'm not a complete lunatic. It's comforting to know there are reams of other people who do this!! Grin

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Baublebox · 18/04/2021 22:47

I have longstanding relationships with Aragorn, Sirius Black and Mr Thornton (North and South) Blush
So glad to read that I am not alone in this.

Welikebeingcosy · 18/04/2021 23:06

I had this happen to me recently out of nowhere when a certain character from a certain show I watch every day suddenly left dramatically. I was in actual grief and torment and thinking about him constantly for a week. I think it was because I got attached to his 'more exciting than mine' life during the lockdown. It's harmless though , in my opinion. Better than fantasising about someone real who could actually bring complications to your life!

I think it's a very healthy way to bring up hidden feelings and desires.

blueshoes · 18/04/2021 23:12

Mr Rochester played by Michael Fassbender.

Icantreachthepretzels · 19/04/2021 01:40

Also had a thing for Lupin.

Oh yes - I've had a thing for Lupin since before PoA came out in paperback!
Back in the day I was a student in Fred and George's year and the professor and I were having a torrid affair. Now I realise how skeezy and gross that is and for the past 15 or so years I have been the muggle studies teacher during Harry's third year. (I'm muggle born you see and no I haven't planned an entire muggle studies curriculum in my head don't be so ridikulus) (I'm actually now more into my muggle studies curriculum than I am into Lupin).

Aria999 · 19/04/2021 02:47

I had a massive thing for hector from the Iliad when I was 17. I'm pretty sure I fancied Jesus for a while too 😳

MrsGulDukat · 19/04/2021 11:45

Fanfiction thread for anyone who is interested.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/4223393-For-lovers-of-fanfiction?watched=1

Icantreachthepretzels · 19/04/2021 12:05

I'm pretty sure I fancied Jesus for a while too

There are some pretty sexy paintings of Jesus out there. Fan art of your favourite characters is nothing new.

HareIsland · 19/04/2021 12:06

@Icantreachthepretzels

I'm pretty sure I fancied Jesus for a while too

There are some pretty sexy paintings of Jesus out there. Fan art of your favourite characters is nothing new.

And so many Christian mystics essentially wrote their own 'married to Jesus' fanfic.
IWasWantingThoseGreatWaders · 19/04/2021 12:12

@CroutonsAvatar

I had this with Benedict’s Sherlock. 😂

Everyone thought I was mad.

Don’t find Cumberbatch attractive in the slightest, though.

Oh god, me too. I am a complete sucker for devilishly intelligent utter bastards who will tie me in knots intellectually and then ignore me. Benedict's Sherlock. Dr Strange. Owen Harper in Torchwood. Papa Emeritus III from Ghost.

So pleased I'm not alone!

Icantreachthepretzels · 19/04/2021 12:13

And so many Christian mystics essentially wrote their own 'married to Jesus' fanfic.

And nuns wear wedding rings because they are 'married to Jesus' - their whole life is LARPing as Jesus' wife Grin

Temp023 · 19/04/2021 12:33

Miles Jupp is a bit of a crush of mine but I would struggle with a fantasy about Archie the inventor.

Mind you, how inventive could he be??

MrsGulDukat · 19/04/2021 12:44

Did Archie the inventor actually invent anything?

I have PTSD from Balamory so I've blocked it all out.

Cabernetto · 19/04/2021 12:49

I have found my people Grin Strangely relieved to know it isn't just me who never grew out of their overactive imagination.

Currently enjoying a full-on obsession with Bucky Barnes for which I blame TFATWS.

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