Having another sleepless night as my LO is poorly. Lots of weird thoughts going around in my head about different things. I’m hoping someone else is awake to help me process!
Firstly I’ve written about this weird colleague a few time now but I’ve name changed as don’t want to be identifiable in RL.
I get a really bad vibe from this guy I work with. At first you would think he’s lovely and so friendly but over time he’s getting really clingy/quite annoying/Stalker-y. He is well aware I am happily married with 3 kids so definitely nothing in that way but I still get a bad vibe and don’t know if I’m overreacting.
It’s holidays so decided to ignore his message last week asking me how my time off is going. But then he writes another one today again asking. I’ve had words with him in past not to keep texting me as over lockdown he gave me so much anxiety and I couldn’t deal with it. At that particular time I explained he is stressing me out and I have my kids to deal with and his reaction was well he needs someone to talk to and what about his feelings! I’m not responsible for him in anyway and without making it obvious what the job is - we do not need to communicate at all for our jobs it’s completely for social reasons he contacts me. He got my number from the work WhatsApp that was running for a few weeks in the beginning but then got shut down as we all found it very annoying. In the beginning I was helpful to him about his anxieties and just felt sorry for him but he has pissed me off so much and I decided to start ignoring him.
I get a weird vibe also the way he talks to my child when in the past I have brought one of my kids into work on my day off as I needed to drop off /pick something/attend a quick meeting (before anyone picks up on this - I was doing work a favour by coming in on my day off so they were well aware I would have my child with me as no childcare on my day off).
I don’t in all honesty think it’s entirely him I’m angry about but more what he represents; someone who had complete lack of respect for my boundaries and time. He represents all the selfish people I’ve dealt with in my life! Ive been a doormat for a good part of my life but now being so busy I am getting selective who I let into my life. I’m working on boundaries and having more respect for my time and sanity.
I know it doesn’t sound like much getting a text every week sometimes 2/3 times a week but it’s annoying as it gets me thinking about work! Then i also feel I have to mother him with his issues.
For my own peace of mind do you think I am overreacting? How would you deal with this if it was you? I struggle with people like this.