To ask for your terrible parenting stories

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DS just fell down the stairs. I just took the dinner plates into the kitchen. One minute he was watching TV the next I come back from the kitchen and there's a thud and a scream. He's fine a bump on the head but cheered up after a few minutes and was his usual self, I spent longer crying than he did! He wasn't more than one or two steps up I just feel like complete shit this evening.

So please show me I'm not tho only 'bad mummy' with your stories.

[quote SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius]@bedtimeshoes - do you not see that the stories on here are about ACCIDENTS - none of them are about children being deliberately harmed. Accidents happen - that is why they are not called Deliberates or On Purposes.

Maybe you are lucky, and have never had an accident involving your child - I would suggest that that is down to luck rather than superior parenting.[/quote]
I disagree - most of these "accidents" could have been avoided.

@OrangeRug

Ignore the Perfect Parent upthread OP. Can guarantee they either don't have kids or have a very selective memory.

Me and DH have both opened the fridge foor onto DDs head when we didn't realise she'd sneaked up on us looking for snacks. I once lost control of the pram going down a steep kerb and she ended up face down on the pavement. Luckily she was not injured, just shocked. Another time were all eating pizza on the floor and she stuck her fingers into the hamster cage. The hamster ofc thought she was being fed a delicious cheesy snack and bit her. There was a lot of blood.

These things happen.

Thanks. I thought that I was a bog standard parent but apparently I'm deemed to be perfect because I've never fallen on my child, whacked a door into their head, left a stair gate open, dropped them or left them somewhere. Why you are gleefully sharing your stories of your children being hurt through poor parenting is beyond me. Next time I trap their fingers in the door, let them roll off the bed or catch them wandering around with a knife, I'll be sure to update you.

@Saracen

I used to set my younger child down for a nap under a tree in the park while I chatted with the other mums and watched DC1. I would often turn my back to the baby and regularly used to forget about her entirely. After 15 minutes or so I would think "BABY! Where is baby? ...oh good, still under tree, still happy."

I am a very laid-back parent and didn't feel it was necessary to watch her every second, but I did intend to glance in her direction every few minutes. Which I often failed to do.

That's just shit parenting all together. Nothing to do with being laid back. You're just an idiot.

Didn't feel you had to watch her every move yet watched your other child? You put their safety at risk and bragging about it.

Shame on you. Poor children.

My new born baby first time parents we had a travel system and took the baby out the car and clipped him in the frame...now this was actually my husband but I watched him do it and thought he did it right too..as he pushed the pram the car seat rolled backwards right down the frame and onto the ground it landed face up at least and he was born in winter so was really (far too bundled) being ridiculously inexperienced as we where. Baby was fine he barely stirred. I actually have a few stories and am surprised really they are both still alive

My friends baby was found a couple of streets away from home only in his nappy. He's got out their back gate while she was tidying. She was looking for him then went out into the street and eventually cane across there was a group of about 5 people who were trying to figure out where he'd gone from.

I have the eldest daily at work for a sudden period when he was really picking up speech. He came to meetings etc. It took a day or so to get used to it, so I forgot to moderate my language, and about a week later he merrily waved at a colleague while out with my DH and said “mummy called that man a cun.”

Needless to say DH knew precisely what I had actually said, and gave me quite the telling off. Very deserved. However, DH took the wrong baby in IKEA and didn’t notice until he got to the restaurant; luckily, the lady was happy to swap back.

We ended up in A&E last night with my bat sleeping child. She spent all afternoon playing slide across the lounge with her friend - they have fluffy socks and its varnished floorboards - I said a fair few times that it would end in tears.
Went in to catch them slide racing, I remember asking her - 'What have I told about doing this?' Her friend stopped, she ended up shoulder bashing the folding doors.

Dropped her friend home on the way to A&E. More deep bruising and scrtaches, possible suggestion of a fracture but shes gone to school with strapping, painkillers and a note in her school book.

Waiting for the glass man to come to replace the glazed bit and expecting a call from the school to see what went on.

She lives up to her nickname of Wreck-it Ralph

Massive LOL at the over-sensitive numpties being horrified about terrible parenting stories...on a thread asking for terrible parenting stories

@SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius

I have told this story many times before.

Many, many years ago, I let toddler ds1 eat tortilla chips from the bin. He was deep in the terrible twos, and had been tantrumming for best part of an hour (after a 90 minute scream-fest the night before), and I was on my last nerve - and on the phone to dh in tears because I couldn’t cope - and then it went quiet.

As quiet is always a bad sign with toddlers, I rang off and went to investigate, to find ds1 at the bin, eating some left-over tortilla chips dh and I had thrown away the previous night. But that isn’t the worst part - I knew that, if I took him away from his delicious bin-snack, he’d have another tantrum, and I couldn’t face it, so I let him carry on until he got bored and wandered off - and then I emptied the bin and found a better place to keep it.

He had no ill effects from this neglectful parenting, and now I use toe story as a way to reassure other parents - you may think you are not a good parent, but are you a bin-snack-BAD parent?

I've taken a screenshot of this as a permanent remainder to myself 😂

DS was two, he was forever squabbling with his older sister over toys etc. They were both upstairs playing, heard him crying but I was washing up so thought I'll just finish these few bits then pop up to see what's going on, 30 seconds later I go up to find he's fallen off the bed and has a massive graze and bruise across his back. Took him to the walk in centre and he was ok, but I still feel awful that I left him when he must have been in so much pain and shock

With DD she fell down the whole flight of stairs when she was 18months as we'd removed the baby gate while having some building work done and while hanging up the washing in the spare bedroom I hadn't noticed she'd wandered off.

For context I found out I was pregnant with no3 on the Monday and had him on the Saturday
I also had very bad pnd
I got everyone ready to go out and put 3 week old baby in his bouncer
Slung the other two in the buggy and set off for the bus
Kept having a feeling that if forgotten something but kept brushing it off
I got 5 miles down the road on the bus before the penny dropped-id left him at home in front of cbeebies!
Got home-he was still there and had fallen asleep
Week later I left him at the shop
A month after that I left him in my mother's car and the same day I forgot about him in the garden

I'm pleased to say he's now 21 and doesn't seem too harmed by my uselessness
He does like to wind me up about it tho

My 2 year old dd stripped off completely a couple of months ago, let herself out the front door and was jumping in puddles in the street, in the rain while I had a quick pee

Well, yes, @bedtimeshoes - of course most accidents could be avoided - if we were all nigh perfect all of the time - but no-one can manage that, in real life.

Most of the time, our parenting slip-ups/forgetfulness don’t cause any issues at all - sometimes we are unlucky, and someone gets hurt - but my point is that the vast majority of parents DO try their best to keep their children safe, but even in the best-regulated households, with the most vigilant parents, accidents can happen - but they ARE accidents, not deliberate neglect or abuse.

Once I diligently strapped ds1 into the car, only to discover later I hadn't strapped him into his seat. Another time I strapped him into the seat but not the car.
Another time ds1 leaned out of the car to shut the door aged about 2, fell out of the car and slid down the drive.
Ds2 fell down the stairs as a toddler, ds1 fell off the top of a slide. I forgot dd once and left her in argos, other customers had to call me back in.
Ds1 dislocated his collarbone once and it took me four days to take him to a&e, and all three fell off the bed when they learnt to roll.

Sometimes I wonder how they got to adulthood (dd almost there) in one piece.

Dc1 always wanted a plaster cast - strange child! She was almost 9 at the time. Fell over playing netball, she complained that her wrist hurt - I examined it, she could grip, twist and move it ok, so that was that. Went food shopping, she started crying when I asked her to pick up some stuff and put it in the trolley. Went home, she was still complaining - quick trip to a& e, turns out it was a fracture - and her birthday the following day, so she got her wish!

Similar to pp, in an attempt to lose some pounds, Charlotte Crosby's workout video in full swing, there's one part where you need small wrist weights, but she says you can use cans of beans. Here I am, doing my side lunge punch things with my Heinz, and dd had let herself out her room (we were In a flat) and walked in, didn't notice her and punched her in the head with a can of beans. She was absolutely fine, not a mark and didn't even cry, but bloody hell did I feel awful for weeks. Maybe that's why she won't eat beans now!!

I was walking my then 4 old to school, and she wouldn't stop crying - unusual for her, as she loved school. Got the school gates, and I bent down to cuddle her and try and find out what was the matter. 'I don't want to go to school, mummy' 'why ever not? You love school!' 'but mummy, I haven't got any knickers on!' poor little soul. Quick dash home, knickers on and one happy little bunny on her way to school.

I shut my childs fingers in the door and thought the door was broke as it wouldn't shut so kept pulling it trying to close it. He did that holding his breath silent crying thing so I didn't realise as quickly as I should have what was happening.

His nail went black and fell off 🙈🙈🙈 it grew back though! He is a teen and still has a scar on one of his fingers poor boy.

Everyone has hit their babies head on their shoulder coming down the stairs right? Can't be just me 🙈