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Original poster

to think peoples attitudes are just going to contribute to more lockdowns?

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firthy85 · 13/04/2021 05:33

ok. i have always been an advocate to get back our freedom but sensibly. went out yesterday to a local pub for a couple of hours and couldn't believe it. its a great pub lovely atmosphere and staff and has always been a child/dog friendly pub. no social distancing at all, at one point i was squished on a bench between about 5 people. kids running in and out of the pub messing about etc. i totally get that yesterday was a novelty to many people after being locked down since the beginning of november but i feel this total lack of self control is going to end badly for everyone. did you risk going out at all yesterday? aibu?

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Neonprint · 14/04/2021 11:39

I didn't go out. I had to work and feel like shit because I'm on my period and I've had my second vaccine.

Posts like yours were always going to come on the easing of restrictions. There's always someone wanting to have a go at people.

LetsGoFlyAKiteee · 14/04/2021 11:52

I've driven past dozens of pubs while working the past couple of days. Many jam packed and absolutely no way that the people were in bubbles. It just looked like loads of individually spaced tables but each with say five people on them - clearly groups of mates as I just don't believe that the vast majority of pubgoers are all living in shared houses of around five residents

You don't have be from the same house now. It's either groups of 6 or 2 households so they'd all be fine.

Bluesheep8 · 14/04/2021 12:12

Asking someone to get out a lift Shock

Reminding someone to follow the rules Shock

Bluesheep8 · 14/04/2021 12:15

its been like being in prison this last year so for many the urges to get out and about again properly are intense which will ahve caused everyone including me to break sd etc. i just wanted to write this to ask opinions

Caused 'everyone' to break sd/rules? No, I can categorically say not everyone.

EveryFlightBeginsWithAFall · 14/04/2021 12:32

I've not been yet because I hate having to sit there at my table not mingling . None of the pubs around here would let that happen. Pre booked and sat at your table of 6

Bbq1 · 14/04/2021 13:44

@firthy85

like i said personally was for me an enjoyable experience i was talking about what may happen at the top if we get too complacent. its a local estate pub so most people are regulars or semi-regulars living more or less in the same area so have dc's going to school or work with each other. i am blind so take cabs everywhere so i was hardly going to upon realising how packed it was book a return trip meaning i will have spent 6 squid to go out and then come home again.
You just can't do something and them complain about other people doing the exact same thing! You claim it was an" enjoyable experience'. How exactly? It sounds awful being squished up next to strangers, kids running everywhere and by the sounds of it, the poor staff attempting to maintain order. I would hate that even pre Covid.
Starlightstarbright1 · 14/04/2021 13:50

Tbh we were told the vaccine was the way out the vunerable have had there vaccine.. you can't expect the goal posts to keep moving and people to accept it.

I went to the gym it was fine.

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firthy85 · 14/04/2021 14:20

christ on a bike! can't we just except that the wording on my thread was probably not the best? i never said people should go home or that i felt personally uncomfortable with the situation as it was, i am a very sociable person so totally missed it. i was just writing this to say what it was like and more to comment on how easy it seems to be to forget everything when you return to something you missed and hoping that rush back to pubs doesn't affect our route out of restrictions because of the attitudes a lot of people seemed to be taking as we did all totally let our guards down.

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Glitterbug76 · 14/04/2021 17:32

Really upset me the local hospital where I work a & e was over run will alcohol related injuries. Angry

caspersmagicaljourney · 14/04/2021 17:36

I think we all have to get used to normality again and sooner rather than later, for our mental health and wellbeing apart from anything else.
Anyone who is yet to be vaccinated and feels they should be shielding, then they should shield.
The rest of us need to get on with our lives.
More lockdowns are likely to cause resentment and worse than that, maybe civil unrest.

cakewench · 14/04/2021 18:02

People aren't selectively reading your post, they're summarising it. Which is highlighting the key points: you went to the pub, and seem to surprised that everyone else also had the idea to go to the pub on the first day they were opened, and somehow the pub garden space didn't expand to fit all of the people who decided to visit. You say you spent hours there.. so you sat, being shocked at the state of the situation, but not leaving because you got there first?

As for your question, of course I didn't go to the pub. I'm desperate to go but unfortunately, I think what you've witnessed is going to be the case for a while until people get used to their freedom again.

justlliloleme · 14/04/2021 18:10

So you went to the pub & are now shocked that other people wanted to as well?

If you weren’t comfortable then you could have left.

Lockdown is being relaxed as rates have come down & a large amount of the population have had their vaccination. We have been told the lockdowere to ease the Preston the NHS, with most vulnerable people now having the jab ‘in theory’ there shouldn’t be the same pressures on the NHS.

Things will need to get back to normal & we need to get used to being close to strangers again.

mrsdaltongrant · 14/04/2021 18:15

I didn't go yesterday and I won't, unless I'm invited to a big party in a pub. Totally overrated...I think it's a bit pathetic to "need to rush to pubs and shops straight away if I'm honest.

Hastybird · 14/04/2021 18:15

I went to the pub, sat outside with friends, on a table, distanced from other tables, a one way system if you went in/out pub to the loo, food and drink ordered on app, ordering finished, we left.
I felt comfortable, I stayed. This seems to be the practice of pubs and restaurants across my area. It sounds like your pub was a bit disorganized - in my experience (taking into account first lockdown also) the pubs take it all very seriously and it's well managed. Choose a different pub?

Hastybird · 14/04/2021 18:18

Oh and should add, had a lovely time and looking forward to repeating it. Less social distancing at my local supermarket!

Pensionista · 14/04/2021 18:24

Seems Boris is priming people for the next lockdown. m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10157668100420810&id=126136180809&sfnsn=scwspmo

wildchild554 · 14/04/2021 18:33

It is possible can see a surge in cases, we do not know for certain and won't know for sure how effective vaccines are going to be for sure, we have some figures but only time will tell if they are effective enough

I am ECV, having alot of difficulties wearing a mask to the point I am getting more frequent asthma attacks and having take my mask off more regularly in stores and soon won't be able to wear it at all as it gets warmer and can't be vaccinated due to all my allergies So going to a pub at present is a risk I personally wont be taking, will be mainly doing outdoor activities socially distanced and reassess after the warmer months.

Tbh if it was that bad, even I was healthy, I would of just gone home if I was you and wouldn't of gone when it was first opened either as I would have expected this. Even when I need to go to a store its when they are very quiet and if they are busy I just go another day.

cherish123 · 14/04/2021 18:36

I fear you might be right.

UrAWizHarry · 14/04/2021 18:37

Sooner or later life is going to have to go back to normal and covid cases/deaths will just be a part of that, and all the judgymcjudgysons will have to find something else to feel superior about.

~50% of the population now have antibodies. We know that transmission outdoors is far lower than indoors. We have seen that big groups of people did not result in transmission spikes. People are fucking fed up and I won't begrudge them a trip to the pub.

(Also: loving the hypocrisy of "I went to the pub and was shocked that other people had the audacity to do the same!")

MarshaBradyo · 14/04/2021 18:39

[quote Pensionista]Seems Boris is priming people for the next lockdown. m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10157668100420810&id=126136180809&sfnsn=scwspmo[/quote]
Why do you think this?

I don’t see it as priming for next lockdown

wildchild554 · 14/04/2021 18:39

@justlliloleme not all vulnerable have been done, it was only a couple weeks that they finally sorted me out even if it was to tell me I can't have it in the end. My dads girlfriend hasn't been done and my sister was done a couple of weeks ago, quite a few I know that havent had theirs yet that are extremely vulnerable.

BeverlyHa · 14/04/2021 18:39

So how do you start such a post and you yourself went there?!

Pensionista · 14/04/2021 18:45

Okay, you don't, I do. We will leave it at that.

MarshaBradyo · 14/04/2021 18:46

@Pensionista

Okay, you don't, I do. We will leave it at that.
But why?

He’s talking about what has worked up to now what are you reading that makes you think we will go backwards?

osbertthesyrianhamster · 14/04/2021 18:53

I'll be so happy when these threads go. 'I was out, and shock, others were out, too, and they, they weren't behaving the way I want them to!'

And the bloody 'social distancing', dear god 'People were around ME!'

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