Left out of Compliments

[likeamillpond]

Something happened today and I just want to make sense of it.
I know it's not important in the grand scheme of things so please don't be too harsh with me.
Ok so I belong to a hobby that's just started back up again. Outside.
We usually meet inside but are doing plein air because of the rule of six.
Yes it's art!
Ok.
So at break time one of the women gave each woman a compliment (looks based). She went round the whole group and gave a compliment, except me.
I was a bit put out but because I'm old enough and ugly enough, I let it wash over me. A case of I like this hobby and I'm not going to let anything spoil it.
However, at the end of the session we all congregated again and the same thing happened. Love you're hair,, you look well, have., you lost weight? Etc etc.
Once again,; No compliments to me.

I'm genuinely curious as to what's going on here.
The one dishing out the compliments did blank me a couple of months before. She didn't approve of my family circumstances at the time
For the record, im happy to give compliments .
I just want to make sense of things.
Why do women do This?

It’s extremely rude, I’d be annoyed as well. Did anyone else notice?

She's trying to create a mini tribe within a tribe and leave you out. You answered your own question a bit in saying you didn't meet her exacting standards. It's a bit like how cliques form at baby groups.

She’s insecure and trying to imply that your family circumstances are beneath her ?
She’s a bitch ?
Either way, it says more about her than you. I wouldn’t engage.

Horrible woman.

Yep she’s being a cow. Just do the same thing to her

She knew exactly what she was doing. Let her have her pathetic kicks, it says more about her.

She sounds awful and she is making a complete fool of herself.
I think you look beautiful OP and I'd much rather be your friend

Agree with all the other posters. Cliquey and pathetic.

Your family circumstances are no one else's business, OP. This is stupid, childish behaviour; so childish that if it's just one person doing this I doubt I could do anything other than laugh at it.

The problem is that ill-feeling spreads, and one bad apple contaminates the whole barrel. When a group has a member like this it can and does taint the whole group dynamic. As a lecturer I've seen this happen fairly often.

Are you otherwise happy in the group, OP? If so I'd recommend tuning out the spite like radio static and enjoying your hobby. If she's co-opting others into her silliness and it ceases to be a pleasurable experience it may be time to rethink.

I love art as a hobby and have tended to be quite solitary with this so far. I like the idea of a group like this, but I have zero time for this sort of nonsense. Such a pity when some bastard decides to spoil it!

I am in a hobby situation (not sporty) and have a similar thing going on ... but with a man who I think is seeking to undermine me. I'm one of a few women involved. It's not just women. Men can be equally bitchy at times. But I'm feisty and I won't let him get to me - makes me even more determined if anything because I know I'm good at what I do.

I tell my husband that he gossips more about other people than I do too!!

some women are snotty bitches. Just like some men are insecure bullies

Don't let her win. Smile and rise above.

She is VERY rude and unpleasant. You sticking to your hobby with a big smile is your best revenge. Only unhappy people are mean, if that makes you feel better!

Sounds like she's trying to be fake friendly to the others but knows you'll see right through it? So in a way it kind if is a compliment haha!

If she is jealous of you she won't compliment you unless it's sarcastic or fake.

She sounds like a right bitch! Ignore her, carry on enjoying your hobby.
Bet some of the others noticed and will ultimately be thinking she’s a nasty bitch!
She did herself no favours....

Compliments on physical appearance are slightly creepy. If the Queen was there would you say, "cute nose" to her? (no)
Being excluded is bad, but being personally complimented by this woman would be worse.

She doesn’t like you

I’m really not sure why she’s being called nasty or a bitch? It sounds like she just doesn’t like you. I don’t get why people are offended when this happens. I’d actually prefer it as at least I know where I am with people. This is much better than the vast majority of people who are totally two faced in my opinion.

Why do women do This?

"Women" don't do this.

It was one particularly odd individual.
You'd have to be odd to go round a circle of people, paying them each a compliment and skip over one person.
Everyone else will realise this.
She clearly has some real problems. Everyone else in the group will have spotted this.

It also makes me laugh when people say stuff like well she’s obviously just jealous, you know sometimes it is just possible people don’t like others whether their reason is obvious or not. There are plenty of people I really dislike. I’m not at all jealous of them, they just have traits and characteristics I can’t tolerate

Yes, going around the group and complimenting people is so strange. I can imagine her spotlight stare revolving slowly, getting closer. You'd be wondering, which of my features will she select as attractive (I hope its my charming smile! Or my eyes!). But what if she picks the shape of my ears, or my neck skin?

Agree with previous posters. She’s forming her tribe. Count your blessings that you aren’t one of her crew. She sounds like a fanjo.

You can bet some of the other people think she's weird too, but they are probably intimidated by her.

Why do women do this??? They don't - but this one woman did.

You could say, hey what about me, Bertha? You left me out! And see what she says .

I think it's weird that she was commenting on anyone's appearance at all. That is very strange, Perhaps she did it just so she could leave you out, OP.
And she did it twice, as she didn't get a reaction from you the first time.