I’m not angry at you OP but it is good to have a balance in what you read and take in. Just focussing on the worst stuff isn’t good for us. The Daily Mail and other tabloids seek to create strong negative emotions in us. It’s our choice whether we engage with it or not.
There are loads of lovely folk out there doing lovely things. We just don’t hear about most of it. Important to remember that on the whole humans are ok mostly and sometimes even great. Only a small handful do such horrible things. Don’t despair of us is what I’m saying.
To be clear - I wasn’t suggesting a ‘slap on the hand’ and if the only way to keep people safe is to lock certain people away from society for long stretches of time/forever then that’s what we should do. Obviously.
However, blaming and name calling just lowers our tone and does nothing to make things better. Long prison sentences don’t work but can satisfy ‘our’ need for revenge and retribution - but are unlikely to be the catalyst for change we might want.
It needs to be BOTH - consequences that take into account the seriousness of the crime AND a societal focus on how to prevent these things happening as much as possible and the best way to do that is to focus on the early years.
It goes without saying that we all feel immense empathy for the victims but getting angry about it won’t help anyone.
It is, however, of course, a human response and shows our empathy that we do get angry about it. I choose to let that natural anger go, as it is damaging to my own well-being, and instead seek to understand and do what I can to help prevent such awfulness.
It’s not an either/or thing. We can understand those that commit horrible crimes and want to help them to not repeat them, at the same time as feeling appalled by the crime and feeling empathy for the victim.
Understanding why it happens doesn’t equate to condoning it.